Create Your Reality

Dr. Martines has been in practice for 26 years. He was a four-term president of the Santa Clara County Chiropractic Society and was voted by his colleagues Doctor or the Year four times.He is active on many local boards, volunteers for various non-profits, but most important to me is… he has been my chiropractor and partner in my wellness regime for over 10 years.I definitely meditate, exercise and focus on proper nutrition, but I also credit the work that we have done together with my overall sense of well being and ability to stay positive and happy. 

Each of Us Has an Internal Map of Reality Which is Made Up of Our Experiences and Their Effect On Us. Your internal map of reality is your perception of the world around you and how you perceive yourself fitting into it.  If your childhood experiences led you to believe that making mistakes was akin to death, your internal map will ensure your survival by making you averse to doing anything that could potentially result in a less than perfect outcome. In addition, on a subconscious level you are so convinced that your map of reality is correct, you pull evidence from the outside world to validate it.  If your experiences led you to believe that you were unlovable, you will look for evidence to validate this and perhaps attract people to you who are incapable of loving. But remember, your internal map is not who you are, it is a tool that you have developed to assist you with navigating in the world. You created it, so you can change it.  

Although partners in business, this mother and son team have differing very differing approaches to the Law of Attraction. While Pamela’s approach incorporates spirituality in to her work - W.T. draws from his own personal business experiences and goal setting mentality.The differing viewpoints compliment each other bringing a wider perspective to those who are hungry to find a new way of looking at life and manifest what they desire.Together they created the Your Invincible Power book series and today we are going to talk about their latest book: How to tame your ego and fuel your ambition.In its attempt to keep us safe, the ego often puts up road blocks, sets limitations and produces fear and anxitery which saps your motivation and keeps you stuck. Understanding your ego and all its tricks is key to stepping out of your comfort zone and dreaming big. 

Mastering Your Habits is the Key to Living a Healthier, Happier, and Fulfilling LifeJames believes that mastering your habits is at the core of living a healthier, happier, and more fulfilling life.He teaches that small choices and tiny habits shape our lives and for this reason, he passionately spreads knowledge and awareness on the science of behavior and habit formation.Most people approach goals from an “outcome” perspective – meaning they focus on the end result but James suggests focusing on building small, daily habits that make it easier to automatically make decisions that inevitably move you towards your outcome.It’s a practical, very effective approach to creating the life you want, so listen and learn more!

Listen now or download my conversation with Alycia Ripley.Alycia is a published author of three novels and numerous short stories and articles. She is a testament to what hard work, positive thinking and direct focus can do.In this conversation, Alycia shares her views on how everyone can use the power of positive thoughts and actions, taking risks and thinking outside the box to create the reality they want.

Listen to my conversation with Dr. Barbara Becker Holstein.Dr. Holstein is an author and practicing psychologist committed to helping girls, tweens, teens and women of all ages develop a strong sense of self, and the confidence, resiliency and the courage to explore their talents and potential to the fullest.She coined the term The Enchanted self and her book The Enchanted Self, A Positive Therapy utilizes positive psychology techniques to help women rediscover and reclaim the aspects of themselves that they are proud of. Her website Enchantedself.com is full of information on how you can start to look for the positive rather than the negative about yourself and learn to recognize and develop your talents and strengths.In addition to women, Dr. Holstein has a variety of resources for tween and teen girls and their parents. Her website TheTruthForGirls.com not only features links to two of her books The Truth: The Diary of a Gutsy Tween and Secrets: Diary of a Gutsy Teen but also has blog, videos and tons

Listen to my conversation with Joshua Tongol author of the book The Secret to AwesomenessThrough his own experience with healing his physical ailments, Josh came to understand the power of thought and the role the subconscious mind plays in creating individual reality.He describes himself as someone who aggressively did not believe in miracles, yet he couldn’t deny the physical healing that took place once he made his healing a reality in his own mind.In this conversation, Josh and I talk about the subconscious mind – specifically how it creates your individual reality and how you can use thoughts, words, and feelings to direct it to create the life you want.

Listen to my conversation with The Emotional Pro, Ilene Dillon.Ilene has worked as a psychotherapist, author, Internet radio host, coach, continuing education provider and professional speaker. Her mission is to exponentially increase the love in individual, family, community and the world, which has led her to learn about all emotions. In this conversation, Ilene and I talked about emotions - why we have them, what they are trying to tell us about areas where we need to heal and grow and why it is important to become a master of them. Ilene also highlights the work of CCGL Global Academy, an online-based community of experts who’s mission it is to heal, unite and empower individuals, families and communities while working together to raise the next generation.

Listen to my conversation with the Unstoppable Frankie Picasso. Frankie is a Professional Certified Life, Business, Relationship and Master Coach Trainer. She is also radio host and author of the book Midlife Mojo: How to get through the midlife crisis and emerge as your true self.In this conversation, Frankie and I chat about negative self-talk, and how it molds your self-image and inhibits your ability to create the life you want.Your self-image is formed in early childhood during the socialization process and is supported by the messages you receive from those around you. Gradually the voices of authority figures such as parents or teachers bury themselves in your sub conscious and the words they use become your words…your self-talk.If the messages that you received were largely positive, your self-image will be healthy. As a result, you will feel confident and self-assured in your day-to-day interactions and activities.If the messages were negative, your self-image will be unhealthy. You will experience f

Listen to my conversation with Michael Cupo, author of the book It’s Only Monday In Your MindMichael wrote the book to share his personal insights into the workings of the mind and how creating a stillness in his mind allowed him to see the conditioned mind patterns that kept him on a quest to seek pleasure and happiness outside of himself.It is his mission to help others understand what conditioned mind patterns are, how they are formed and how creating a still, disciplined mind can lead to peace and happiness.

Listen to my conversation with multi-published author and self-development expert Robin Marvel After enduring a childhood filled with abuse, homelessness and teen pregnancy, Robin chose to overcome these challenges to create a life of purpose and passion.She has devoted her life to showing others how to do the same. Using her story, books and workshops as tools, she is inspiring others to break negative cycles and choose to live the life they desire and deserve.Motivated by a drive to break the cycle of poverty that she inherited, Robin made a solid commitment to change and create the life she wanted.Although the first steps towards any change are commitment and follow through, Robin is quick to point out that breaking habitual cycles of thinking and behavior is not as easy as flipping a switch. Since there will be times when you backslide and engage in behaviors that are not moving you closer to your goal, part of your commitment must be to get back on track no matter how many times you veer off co

Listen to my conversation with New York City-based writer, wellness coach and yoga guide, Quentin Vennie.Quentin utilizes his experience in personal training, yoga and juicing to influence and transform lives. His approach is to address the obstacles occurring inside the body, allowing the external changes to occur as a direct result.In this conversation, Quentin shares his personal journey and how he used juicing, yoga and meditation to overcome his addition to prescription drugs and learn to manage his once debilitating general panic disorder.Quentin was originally diagnosed with a panic disorder at age 14, but his mother rejected the doctor’s recommendation for medication.The disorder gained new footing when he was in his mid-20’s. This time the anxiety attacks were unmanageable and, after receiving a diagnosis of generalized anxiety and general panic disorder, he accepted medication as a treatment. In addition, he experienced severe migraine, so he was prescribed a powerful narcotic for the pain.Within 8

Listen to my conversation with Emilie Cortes motivational speaker and owner of Call of the Wild Adventures, Inc., an all women’s adventure travel company.About 10 years ago Emilie discovered a passion for outdoor activities especially mountaineering. Through her experiences challenging herself in the outdoors, Emilie gained a tremendous amount of confidence in her leadership and decision making ability. She learned that she could count on herself to be resourceful and think on her feet. Her self-empowerment grew and directly impacted her personal and professional life in a variety of positive ways.It was while she was sidelined with an injury that Emilie began to see how she could create a space for others to have similar types of self-discovery experiences. This realization caused her to leave her 17-year career in financial services and pursue her passion.Emilie says Call of the Wild Adventures caters to women only because she feels it is important to give women the space to have physical challenges and to

Let Go of HeartbreakIn this conversation Alana Mbanza, Author of Love Sick: Leaning to Love and Let Go, talks about ways to not just let go of heartbreak but to find meaning in the experience and learn and grow from it. Through her correspondence with others who have shared their own experiences with heartbreak, Alana noticed several common thought patterns that kept people from healing at the end of a relationship and unable to see the higher purpose behind the experience.Some common reasons that people have a hard time letting go of heartbreak are:You are telling your self that he or she was the “one”By shifting your perspective and understanding that there is no “one” person who is “meant” for you is essential to releasing the relationship and healing. Gain the insight that the person was meant to teach you something that you needed to know or show you something about yourself that you needed to see.  You are glamorizing the relationship.This makes it impossible to let go of heartbreak because you only rem

Mindfulness is not a new concept. It has been around for thousands of years and is the foundation of spiritual practices around the world.But what does it really mean to practice mindfulness?Listen to my conversation with Janetti Marotta author of 50 Mindful Steps to Self-Esteem.Simply, when you practice mindfulness, you are being open and accepting of the present moment for what it is.  It means experiencing the rain without wishing it was sunny. Or feeling the heat without wishing for a cool breeze. It’s about enjoying a cool breeze without hoping it lasts forever or being disappointed when it stops. It’s accepting that life can be difficult and owning the awareness that it is our attachment to a thought or feeling that things should be different that creates our individual suffering.The practice of mindfulness is about learning to shift from trying to change what is happening to being with what is happening.When things don’t go the way we want, we resist what is happening. This resistance leads to dissatis

In this conversation mental strength expert, author and founder of Warrior Mind Coach, Gregg Swanson talks about the goals and how to develop a goal achieveing mindset..The key to reaching goals is to develop a goal achieving mindset.We’ve all done this: You set a goal with the best intention to reach it and about four-to six-weeks into your quest, you start to falter, lose momentum and eventually fall off the path completely.Why? Were you lying to yourself about your commitment to reach your goal? Well, in a way you were, though not intentionally.While your conscious mind was making the commitment, your unconscious mind had its fingers crossed – so to speak.You see, reaching a goal such as getting in shape or getting out of debt requires you to alter what you normally do; to change your behavior. The challenge is your unconscious mind, whose job it is to automate behaviors to ensure that you not only physically survive but emotionally thrive, does not like change.A goal achieving mindset can only be develope

The Power of Conscious ChoiceListen to my conversation with Intuitive Medium, Reiki Master, Author and Spiritual Teacher Shelly Wilson.Taking responsibility for the choices you’ve made and being brave enough to face the consequences, see patterns of results and consciously choose different ways of thinking, acting and reacting are the most fundamental steps that you can do to regain your personal power and move from being a victim to victor.In this conversation, Shelly and I talk about the power of conscious choice and how viewing all experiences as opportunities to grow enables you to live a live that is free of self-blame and judgment.Visit Shelly’s website to learn about how she can assist you on your spiritual journey. You can also access her books: 28 Days to a New YOU, Connect to the YOU Within, and Journey into Consciousness and courses: Stop Existing and Start Living! andOpening Your Heart to Love.  

In this conversation, Amy shares that the true nature of all human beings is well-being, clarity and peace of mind. Anytime you’re suffering, experiencing confusion, pain, fear, or loss; or questioning yourself or your abilities you are stuck in negative habitual thinking and that is what is holding you back from the peaceful experience of who you really are.Her message is simply to rediscover your true nature there is nothing to do, nothing to change, you are already perfect and life is easier than you are making it.

In this conversation, Pam and I talk about the importance of using joy and gratitude to open channels to receive what you want.When actively seeking to manifest what you want, it is easy to approach the process by focusing on the absence of what you want. For example, when seeking to attract a romantic partner into your life, instead of feeling lonely and asking for what you want, be grateful for the  friends and loved ones already in your life and seek to add a special someone to the mix. Or if your finances are tight and you are seeking to attract a better paying job, do so by being grateful for your current job and salary and seek to move to your next level financially.The bottom line is, if you are dissatisfied with your life or experiencing a sense of lack, you will attract more opportunities to feel these feelings. It is the basic “like attracts like” principle of the Law of Attraction. Remember, the universe cannot distinguish between what you want and don’t want. It only responds to your thought vibra

In this conversation, Jana shares practical ways to fight fear and move into a hopeful place of trust and faith.In addition to being an author, speaker and inspirational humorist, Jana is an ovarian cancer survivor and founder of the Been There – Got the Wig® Breakfast Club and Ministry.Her mission is to uplift and inspire others to fight fear.She focuses on three ways to fight fear: Adopt a positive attitude Program your mind and spirit Take steps to add humor As Jana points out, it does not matter what you are facing. Whether it is a life threatening illness, a divorce, job loss, foreclosure or any other situation that challenges your sense of safety and well-being, the feeling of fear is detrimental to your ability to move through the challenge and heal.It is a documented fact that individuals who actively practice ways to fight fear and cultivate a positive mental state heal from physical disease quicker and more often than people who let fear overwhelm them to the point of hopelessness and depression. T