Eft/tapping Q & A Podcast W/ Gene Monterastelli - Emotional Freedom Techniques

Support the podcast by clicking here Taking action can be very difficult when we aren't exactly sure of our direction or what we think should be happening next. The problem is that it is hard to tap for clarity because we aren’t trying to remove a feeling of discomfort or a block that is in the way. We are just missing something we want. In this conversation with EFT Master Carol Look we talk about how to tap for more clarity and its power. We even do a little tapping for clarity in the interview, which makes taking action much easier. Guest: Dr. Carol Look Contact: web @ CarolLook.com; twitter @CarolLookEFT; About Carol: A pioneer in the Energy Psychology field, Dr. Carol Look has brought unprecedented innovations to the application of Emotional Freedom Techniques (EFT), and has produced outstanding results for her clients around the world. Don’t forget to check out all of Carol's other podcast interviews

Support the podcast! Almost daily I receive an email asking something along the lines of, "What is the best way to tap for [insert issue]?" It’s great that people are looking for the most effect ways to clear an issue, but sometimes I think this question can be problematic. In this audio I explore the question of the best way to tap. What I share here will help even the most experienced tapper to tap in a more effective way.

Support the podcast When working with my clients one-on-one, we usually spend a lot of time tapping for the world views and beliefs that have been passed along from parents. It makes good sense that we pick up the beliefs of our parents because they are usually our closest relationships. Mark Wolynn's work looks at how we inherit our parents’ beliefs, not through the day-to-day of living with them, but genetically as a result of the trauma experienced by past generations. This idea emerged just over a decade ago and there is now a large body of scientific evidence in support of it. In the interview Mark explains how trauma is passed on genetically in our DNA, how we can identify the traumas that have been passed down, and what we can do to clear them. If you find this topic interesting, check out Mark's book IT DIDN’T START WITH YOU: How Inherited Family Trauma Shapes Who We Are and How to End the Cycle, which contains a much more comprehensive conversation on how you can identify and clear inherited traumas.

Support the podcast! EFT and tapping are powerful tools in the face of strong emotions in the moment. It is amazing how quickly we can feel better just by tapping without words as we are experiencing difficult or overwhelming feelings. Some events are so big, however, that they bring emotions that need be dealt with both before and afterwards and for these a more strategic plan is needed. Recently, Gwenn Bonnell and her family lived through a major hurricane. Knowing that the hurricane was coming meant they had to deal with the anxiety of the unknown ahead of time. They then lived through it and also had to deal with the aftermath. In this conversation Gwen talks about how she tapped before, during, and after the hurricane. The tools she shares can be used for anything that uproots your life either directly (like a natural disaster) or indirectly (a mass shooting in another part of the world). Guest: Gwenn Bonnell Contact Gwenn: web @ TapIntoHeaven.com; web @  TapAwayPain.com; email @ gwenn@tapintoheaven.com;

Support the podcast! Back in April I talked with Dr. Peta Stapleton about the scientific research that she has done over the last decade on the efficacy of tapping. In our last interview Peta talked about how she and her team had just been given access to an fMRI (functional magnetic resonance imaging) machine for their research. Using an fMRI machine allows them to see the impact that tapping and EFT have on the brain. In this interview we get an update on how they are using the fMRI machine, what they have learned so far, and what they will be testing in the future. Make sure you check out our original conversation about the research around tapping. Also, at the bottom of this page you will find links to many of the scientific papers that Peta has published with evidence that tapping works. Guest: Dr. Peta Stapleton Contact: web @ PetaStapleton.com; twitter @PetaStapleton; instagram @petastapleton About: Dr. Peta Stapleton has 22 years of experience as a registered Clinical and Health Psychologist in the St

Did you know you can support the podcast to make it better? It is a little known fact that there are approximately 40,000 neurons in the human heart and around 500 million in our stomachs. Together these neurons are sometimes referred to as "little brains". The heart and stomach are connected to each other and to our brains via the vagus nerve. 80% of the information traveling on this path goes from the stomach and heart to the brain. This means that a huge amount of information comes from the neurons of the stomach and heart to the brain, helping us to make choices all day long. On some level we already know this because we use phrases like "I have this gut feeling that..." or "My heart is tell me to…" The process of mBraining uses this information in a deliberate way to create healing and transformation. Andy Bryce and his wife Maxine are certified in mBraining and are the first people in the world to combine it with tapping. In this interview Andy talks about mBraining, how it can be combined with tapping,

My friend Pamela Bruner often says that "Small business ownership is the master's degree of personal development." The reason she says this is because when we own a business, we are constantly being pushed to do tasks that make us uncomfortable. And because we are constantly in these situations, we have many opportunities to lean head on into the underlying issues that hold us back from taking action. Pamela is a firm believer that mindset work is essential and fundamental to being successful in business. In this conversation we talk about the most common mindset issues experienced by small business owners, and the easiest ways to address them with tapping. Support the podcast! Guest: Pamela Bruner Contact: web @ MakeYourSuccessReal.com, twitter @ PamelaBruner, facebook @ MakeYourSuccessEasy; phone @ 888-403-4057 About Pamela: Pamela Bruner is a Business Success Coach, author, speaker, and EFT (Emotional Freedom Techniques) expert. After removing her own marketing fears to grow her business from \(375/month

Support the podcast! One of the phrases that my clients find hardest to use in their tapping is, "I give myself permission to be easy and gentle with myself". The reason they find it difficult is because it feels as if it’s giving themselves permission to do less work, not to try, or to be satisfied with something that is less than. Recently I had conversation with one of my clients who reported struggling with using that phrase, even though she recognized it would be useful. Below is the recording of that conversation, used with her permission. In the conversation we cover why it is useful to use the phrase and the many reasons why we resist doing so, as well as how we can position ourselves for great healing by tapping with the phrase. As an added bonus, you have the opportunity to hear me working one-on-one with a client in real time, which I hope you will find instructional.

Support the podcast! Money Event! It is amazing how effective our system is at finding ways to feel better. When something is wrong (even when we aren't consciously aware of it), the system starts to take steps to feel better. The problem is that our system is geared to react with short term solutions. Its only concern is to stop the discomfort right now, so it isn't motivated to make good long term choices. For example, when I am highly stressed I start to crave ice cream (particularly cookies and cream flavor). When I eat the ice creamy goodness, my body is flooded with all the biochemicals that come along with digesting a lot of  sugar. In the short term, I stop feeling overwhelmed. If I keep making these choices in the long term, it becomes very unhealthy. In this conversation with Manal Khalife we talk about why we make self-medicating choices, the surprising types of self-medicating choices we can make, and how we can stop them. Guest: Manal Khalife Book: Food, Drugs & Love: How to Stop Escaping &am

Uncomplicate Your Relationship With Money Support the podcast! Dealing with money is a fact of life. We can't live without it. In the best of all possible worlds money would be perceived just as a tool that helps us to fulfill our daily needs. The problem is that on an emotional level we don't perceive money as simply a tool. Instead, we write stories about ourselves in terms of our relationship with money. Not having money can mean that we don’t feel worthy. If do have money, we feel like we are being greedy. It is as if we can't win. No matter how much money we do or don't have, we write a negative story about ourselves. This week I have a conversation with Brad Yates about how we can uncover the past experiences responsible for the conscious and unconscious stories we tell around money. We also talk about the first steps we can take to tap for these stories. Guest: Brad Yates Contact: twitter @EFTWizard; web @ TapWithBrad.com; facebook @ facebook.com/BradYatesTapping About Brad: Brad has had the privilege

There is a very common struggle that caregivers have. It is that they are notoriously bad taking care of themselves. If you have been around the self-help world for any amount of time, this is not going to come as a surprise to you. What might be surprising is that one of the places that this lack of self care shows up in the way that caregivers struggle with money. In this conversation with Melissa Lester Olson we talk about why caregivers struggle with self care and struggle with their relationships to money and what we can do about it. Melissa is one of the hosts of the event Improve Your Relationship With Money which is happening in November in Orlando. I am going to be one of the speakers at this event and I would love to see you there. Full details. Support the podcast! Guest: Melissa Lester Olson, LCSW Contact:* Web @ MelissaLesterOlson.com; Email @ here; Phone @ 770-313-7768; Facebook @ MelissaLesterOlsonLCSW Bio: Melissa Lester Olson is a therapist and EFT Practitioner in Atlanta, GA. Melissa special

Support the podcast! I might seem counter intuitive, but there are three good reasons to why our loved ones don't want us to heal and transform. This can even be true for the people in our lives who are vocally supportive of us. In most cases this lack of support from our loved ones is happening on a subconscious level. This week in the podcast I talk about the three reasons why our loved ones don't want us to change and I provide a tap along audio for each of the reasons. You can also find the tapping scripts written out below the audio player. (Did you know that you can take many of the tapping script with you through the free Tapping Q&A app? Download it here: Apple App | Google/Android App)

Join me at "Uncomplicate Your Relationship With Money" Support the podcast! Desire can be a double edged sword. When we want something that we don't have, but see others with it we feel left out. In some cases we even feel as if we are not as worthy or not as valuable as others because they have it and we don't. On the other hand we can feel bad for having desires as all. When we have desires we can beat ourselves up for being ungrateful and unappreciative for what we have. What I find most amazing is the fact that we can feel both of these emotions at the same time. We can feel bad for not having what we want AND we can feel bad for wanting more. This week I have a tap-along audio and script to respond to both ends of the emotional struggle with desire.

Join me at "Uncomplicate Your Relationship With Money" Support the podcast! Tapping for negative past experiences is often the easiest kind of tapping because we know the details of the past experience. While tapping we have the opportunity to state exactly what happened, how we interpret those events, how we felt about them back then, and how we feel now. No matter how long we have to tap to find relief, the tapping itself is straightforward. Tapping for the emotion of dread can be much less straightforward. Dread is a worry about the future and, since the future is unknown, it is much harder to find specific details to tap for. Here is a tap-along audio and tapping script to help you to tap for dread. I recorded the audio while I was in the grip of feeling dread myself, so you have the opportunity to experience the way I tap when dealing with an issue firsthand.  

Support the podcast! Why do you tap? It seems like such a silly question to consider. Obviously (!) we tap to make ourselves feel better, remove pain, to be healthier, and to create a more enjoyable life. I don't disagree with any of those ideas. In a global way that is why I use Emotional Freedom Techniques as well. But it doesn't get to the heart of the reason why we tap. For me, there is a simple underlying principle that informs how I understand change, where to start when working with an issue, and how I can evaluate the long term success of tapping. I am always trying to get better at what I do. In order to do that I need constantly to re-evaluate and challenge my own assumptions. I would love to hear your thoughts on this idea in the comments below. Your feedback will make me a better practitioner.  

Support the podcast! One of the first techniques that any good tapper learns is the "movie technique". In the movie technique you replay the details of a past event in your mind, as if you are watching them in a film. As you replay the past events, the moment you get to an emotion in the memory, you stop and tap for the emotion. This is a very effective way of clearing the emotions from a past event. The problem is that there are often more emotions that need to be cleared than just the ones that show up while you are replaying the past memory. Not only do we need to deal with what happened, but we also need to clear the emotions we feel today as we think about that past event. Here is a simple technique to make sure you are clearing the emotional baggage from the past memory AND also clearing your relationship to the past.

Support the podcast! People with a kind heart and helping disposition are often those who have the hardest time reaching out for help. This can happen for reasons ranging from not wanting to be a burden to others, to believing that since we possess the tools of healing, we are responsible for taking care of ourselves. Everyone (and I mean everyone) needs help from the outside. We can't and aren't meant to go it alone. This week I have a tap-along audio and tapping script for those who find it difficult to ask for help or to accept help when it is offered.

Support the podcast! It would be great if we could find a solution for every problem. But that is simply not possible. Some illness can't be cured. Death is inevitable. There are even times when solutions are available, but for a variety of complex reasons our loved ones aren't willing or able to choose change. Whether there is no clear solution or the solution isn't being chosen, it can leave you feeling helpless and heartbroken. 

Support the podcast! There is a huge difference between knowing what to do and actually doing it. Just because tapping is a powerful tool doesn't mean that you will always remember to reach for it in times of emotional distress. When my clients are recounting something from the previous week that was hard, I ask them if they tried tapping for the issue. They usually reply somewhat sheepishly, "No… I forgot." My aim is not to try to shame them by asking that question. I just want to know what happened so we can do the best work in the moment. We set amazingly high standards for ourselves. Part of us believes that if we know how to do something, then we must be perfect at it every time. That is simply not the case. It takes time for new skills to become a habit. But we are human beings and we simply aren't perfect, meaning that we don’t always reach for the right tool. Below you will find a tap-along audio and tapping script to help you to be easier with yourself when you aren't doing the action you want to tak

Unfortunately, death is an unfortunate fact of life. Even with the passing of a loved one is expected it is an emotionally difficult experience. When we are facing the emotions that come after the death of a loved one, the goal is not to eliminate all of our emotion. Sadness is appropriate. Sadness is healthy. Instead we can tap to make sure that we are have proportional well informed emotions. The tap-along audio and script that you can find below is perfect any time you are feeling the pain of the death of a loved one. It could be right when it happened, on the anniversary of their death, or on a random day that you are reminded of them.