Eft/tapping Q & A Podcast W/ Gene Monterastelli - Emotional Freedom Techniques

Uncomplicate Your Relationship With Money Support the podcast! Dealing with money is a fact of life. We can't live without it. In the best of all possible worlds money would be perceived just as a tool that helps us to fulfill our daily needs. The problem is that on an emotional level we don't perceive money as simply a tool. Instead, we write stories about ourselves in terms of our relationship with money. Not having money can mean that we don’t feel worthy. If do have money, we feel like we are being greedy. It is as if we can't win. No matter how much money we do or don't have, we write a negative story about ourselves. This week I have a conversation with Brad Yates about how we can uncover the past experiences responsible for the conscious and unconscious stories we tell around money. We also talk about the first steps we can take to tap for these stories. Guest: Brad Yates Contact: twitter @EFTWizard; web @ TapWithBrad.com; facebook @ facebook.com/BradYatesTapping About Brad: Brad has had the privilege

There is a very common struggle that caregivers have. It is that they are notoriously bad taking care of themselves. If you have been around the self-help world for any amount of time, this is not going to come as a surprise to you. What might be surprising is that one of the places that this lack of self care shows up in the way that caregivers struggle with money. In this conversation with Melissa Lester Olson we talk about why caregivers struggle with self care and struggle with their relationships to money and what we can do about it. Melissa is one of the hosts of the event Improve Your Relationship With Money which is happening in November in Orlando. I am going to be one of the speakers at this event and I would love to see you there. Full details. Support the podcast! Guest: Melissa Lester Olson, LCSW Contact:* Web @ MelissaLesterOlson.com; Email @ here; Phone @ 770-313-7768; Facebook @ MelissaLesterOlsonLCSW Bio: Melissa Lester Olson is a therapist and EFT Practitioner in Atlanta, GA. Melissa special

Support the podcast! I might seem counter intuitive, but there are three good reasons to why our loved ones don't want us to heal and transform. This can even be true for the people in our lives who are vocally supportive of us. In most cases this lack of support from our loved ones is happening on a subconscious level. This week in the podcast I talk about the three reasons why our loved ones don't want us to change and I provide a tap along audio for each of the reasons. You can also find the tapping scripts written out below the audio player. (Did you know that you can take many of the tapping script with you through the free Tapping Q&A app? Download it here: Apple App | Google/Android App)

Join me at "Uncomplicate Your Relationship With Money" Support the podcast! Desire can be a double edged sword. When we want something that we don't have, but see others with it we feel left out. In some cases we even feel as if we are not as worthy or not as valuable as others because they have it and we don't. On the other hand we can feel bad for having desires as all. When we have desires we can beat ourselves up for being ungrateful and unappreciative for what we have. What I find most amazing is the fact that we can feel both of these emotions at the same time. We can feel bad for not having what we want AND we can feel bad for wanting more. This week I have a tap-along audio and script to respond to both ends of the emotional struggle with desire.

Join me at "Uncomplicate Your Relationship With Money" Support the podcast! Tapping for negative past experiences is often the easiest kind of tapping because we know the details of the past experience. While tapping we have the opportunity to state exactly what happened, how we interpret those events, how we felt about them back then, and how we feel now. No matter how long we have to tap to find relief, the tapping itself is straightforward. Tapping for the emotion of dread can be much less straightforward. Dread is a worry about the future and, since the future is unknown, it is much harder to find specific details to tap for. Here is a tap-along audio and tapping script to help you to tap for dread. I recorded the audio while I was in the grip of feeling dread myself, so you have the opportunity to experience the way I tap when dealing with an issue firsthand.  

Support the podcast! Why do you tap? It seems like such a silly question to consider. Obviously (!) we tap to make ourselves feel better, remove pain, to be healthier, and to create a more enjoyable life. I don't disagree with any of those ideas. In a global way that is why I use Emotional Freedom Techniques as well. But it doesn't get to the heart of the reason why we tap. For me, there is a simple underlying principle that informs how I understand change, where to start when working with an issue, and how I can evaluate the long term success of tapping. I am always trying to get better at what I do. In order to do that I need constantly to re-evaluate and challenge my own assumptions. I would love to hear your thoughts on this idea in the comments below. Your feedback will make me a better practitioner.  

Support the podcast! One of the first techniques that any good tapper learns is the "movie technique". In the movie technique you replay the details of a past event in your mind, as if you are watching them in a film. As you replay the past events, the moment you get to an emotion in the memory, you stop and tap for the emotion. This is a very effective way of clearing the emotions from a past event. The problem is that there are often more emotions that need to be cleared than just the ones that show up while you are replaying the past memory. Not only do we need to deal with what happened, but we also need to clear the emotions we feel today as we think about that past event. Here is a simple technique to make sure you are clearing the emotional baggage from the past memory AND also clearing your relationship to the past.

Support the podcast! People with a kind heart and helping disposition are often those who have the hardest time reaching out for help. This can happen for reasons ranging from not wanting to be a burden to others, to believing that since we possess the tools of healing, we are responsible for taking care of ourselves. Everyone (and I mean everyone) needs help from the outside. We can't and aren't meant to go it alone. This week I have a tap-along audio and tapping script for those who find it difficult to ask for help or to accept help when it is offered.

Support the podcast! It would be great if we could find a solution for every problem. But that is simply not possible. Some illness can't be cured. Death is inevitable. There are even times when solutions are available, but for a variety of complex reasons our loved ones aren't willing or able to choose change. Whether there is no clear solution or the solution isn't being chosen, it can leave you feeling helpless and heartbroken. 

Support the podcast! There is a huge difference between knowing what to do and actually doing it. Just because tapping is a powerful tool doesn't mean that you will always remember to reach for it in times of emotional distress. When my clients are recounting something from the previous week that was hard, I ask them if they tried tapping for the issue. They usually reply somewhat sheepishly, "No… I forgot." My aim is not to try to shame them by asking that question. I just want to know what happened so we can do the best work in the moment. We set amazingly high standards for ourselves. Part of us believes that if we know how to do something, then we must be perfect at it every time. That is simply not the case. It takes time for new skills to become a habit. But we are human beings and we simply aren't perfect, meaning that we don’t always reach for the right tool. Below you will find a tap-along audio and tapping script to help you to be easier with yourself when you aren't doing the action you want to tak

Unfortunately, death is an unfortunate fact of life. Even with the passing of a loved one is expected it is an emotionally difficult experience. When we are facing the emotions that come after the death of a loved one, the goal is not to eliminate all of our emotion. Sadness is appropriate. Sadness is healthy. Instead we can tap to make sure that we are have proportional well informed emotions. The tap-along audio and script that you can find below is perfect any time you are feeling the pain of the death of a loved one. It could be right when it happened, on the anniversary of their death, or on a random day that you are reminded of them.  

Support the podcast! One of the main reasons we don't tap in the moment is because we are so lost in the emotions that we are feeling that we don't remember tapping is something we can do. There are other times when we are in the moment, we remember to tap, but we still don't do it because we don't know where to start. In these moments the emotional response is so strong we can't describe what is going on. We can't find the words to describe the root cause and we aren't thinking clearly enough to come up with a reframe for the situation. Because we can't find an entry point to tapping, we simple don't do it. Here is a very simple 3 step process to use in the moments that you want to tap, but you have no idea where to begin. The process is so easy that after you listen to this once you will have the process mastered.  

Support The Podcast Back in Pod #199 I shared with you a tap-along audio to help you when you are facing a big decision. The tap-along is about trusting yourself, creating space, and knowing that everything will work out for the best. I went back to listen to it again and I think it is an excellent and useful tap-along. At the same time, I think there is more we can do to create space for making good choices when facing a big decision. This week I have for you a simple tool with step-by-step instruction on how you can use tapping in the decision-making process. It's more than just feeling better about making the choice, but tapping while you are figuring out what is best for you. If you use the tool, please let me know how it worked for you in the comment section below.

Support the podcast! When tapping works, it feels like magic. You tap on a few points, you say a few phrases, and you get relief. When tapping doesn't work, you feel like a fool. You are sitting alone in your room muttering phrases to yourself, tapping on your body, and hoping it will get better. When this happens to me, not only do I question tapping in the moment, I also question all of the tapping I did in the past. I wonder if I have imagined my past successes. This week I have for you a simple tap-along that you can do when you feel like you have reached a plateau in your progress. I recorded it in the middle of feeling this exact frustration. So this isn't me giving you an option for this type of tapping, it is actually me dealing with it for myself.

Support the podcast! Embarking on a creative endeavor, whether for our personal or professional lives, can feel daunting. We struggle with creativity because: We want the ideas to emerge fully formed We are worried that our efforts will be judged harshly by others We are concerned about wasting time and not coming up with anything good We don't know where to start so it feels like a waste of time and energy even to try Because we don't want the process to go badly, we simply don't start (think of staring at a blank Word document and being taunted by that blinking cursor!). This tap-along audio (with script below) will help you to clear the emotional blocks holding you back from creative endeavours. Take a few moments to tap through this audio (or script) before brainstorming or working on a task that requires creativity and you will find your flow much more easily.  

Support the podcast! When a loved one is diagnosed with a serious illness it can difficult to know what to do next. On one level we want to be helpful but also recognise that they may need their space so we don't want to be intrusive. Often we are so shocked ourselves that we just don't know what to do next. At the 2017 Spring Energy Event I was given the opportunity to moderate a panel discussion between Annabel Fisher, Annie Siegel Alexander, and Ange Finn. All three of these amazing women (and tapping practitioners) have battled life-threatening diseases. (You can read more about the three of them at the bottom of this post.) The conversation is not primarily about how to use EFT for life-threatening illness, though all three of them talk about how tapping was helpful in their own journey. Instead we cover: Their individual experiences of diagnosis and treatment How they managed their emotional experience How their loved ones responded to the situation In the conversation you will hear practical advice o

Support the podcast! Last August I had a conversation with acupuncturist Beth Kearns about each of the tapping points we use in the basic tapping routine. If you haven't listened to the conversation, I encourage you to go back to it because it is informative. There are three main differences between tapping and acupuncture. The first and most obvious is that we tap with our hands and an acupuncturist uses needles. Second, when we are tapping we usually say phrases out loud and if not, we are still focused on a particular issue. This is not required with acupuncture. Third, when tapping we use the same seven to fifteen tapping points for any issue. An acupuncturist uses a custom set of points on the body for each issue from a choice of hundreds. In this conversation Beth explains her intake process to me, what she is looking for when working with clients, and how she decides which points to use. We even play act the intake process with me talking about the specific issue that first brought me to tapping. I fou

Support the podcast! We enter this world as a blank slate. With each new experience and relationship we begin to form a series of beliefs about the world and our place within it. These beliefs become the bedrock of our emotional experience because they determine our interpretation of everything that happens to us in life. This becomes problematic when the beliefs informing our experience are not useful or are outdated. For example, if I believe it is unsafe for me to be who I am called to be, I will live my life constantly feeling like an impostor because I am not being true to myself. At the 2017 Spring Energy Event I was given the opportunity to talk about how we form our beliefs and what to do when those beliefs become limiting and no longer serve us. In the talk I cover: How our beliefs are formed The eight operating principles I work from when working on changing or releasing limiting beliefs A simple process you can use to identify the beliefs holding you back and how to tap to transform them Operatin

Support the podcast! Last month I shared an interview with Dr. Norman Shealy about fibromyalgia. Dr. Shealy shared his experience from the point of view of a medical doctor who has worked with fibromyalgia for more than three decades. It’s a great interview and if you haven't yet listened to it, it is well worth your time. The interview stuck a nerve and I received a huge amount of feedback about it, including from a number of people who have worked with fibromyalgia successfully in different ways. I was lucky enough to get the opportunity to interview Sue Ingebretson about her work in the field and her own experience of overcoming fibromyalgia. This is not a debate between Norm and Sue, or anyone else. Instead this is more information that you will find useful. Guest: Sue Ingebretson Contact: web @ RebuildingWellness.com/; facebook @ FibroWHYalgia; twitter @ sueinge About: Sue Ingebretson is an author, speaker, a certified holistic health care practitioner, and the director of program development for the Fib

Support the podcast! One of the biggest questions about the tapping is how we know if it really works or if the positive shifts it produces are just down to some sort of placebo effect. Dr. Peta Stapleton finds herself in a unique situation. As a college professor charged with supervising a number of master's level students and their research projects, she has a disposition that is inclined towards the unconventional, and also lives in Australia, which is a little more laid back than the US and is open to new ideas than some other countries. Because of this, Dr. Stapleton has been able to perform rigorous research into the effectiveness of tapping for a number of issues for over 10 years. In this conversation we talk about her work, how the research studies have been done and their findings. This information is particularly great to have when you are sharing tapping with skeptics. Guest: Dr. Peta Stapleton Contact: web @ PetaStapleton.com/; twitter @PetaStapleton; instagram @petastapleton About: Dr. Peta Stap