Eft/tapping Q & A Podcast W/ Gene Monterastelli - Emotional Freedom Techniques

Support the podcast! Even though tapping is such a powerful tool, at times it feels as if it is just taking too long to get the results we want. In this week's podcast we are talking about: Why healing sometimes needs to happen as part of a process How to make the healing process as quick as possible (when it doesn't feel quick at all) How to deal with the frustration of slow transformation In the last step we will tap for the frustration around our healing not happening as fast as we would like, and why healing has to be process. (The tapping script is also included below the player.) Subscribe in: Apple | Android | Spotify

Support the podcast! In my conversation with Brad Yates he shared the Zig Ziglar quote “You cannot consistently perform in a manner which is inconsistent with the way you see yourself.” The reason this quote came up is because we were talking about why we don't get the results we want with tapping that we are seeking. Often times we tap because we want something to change in our life. But if we don't believe we are the type of person who can have the outcome we want, then we are going to sabotage ourselves to make sure we don't get it. For example: If we can't see ourselves as successful business owner then we are going to sabotage our business growth. If we don't believe we are worthy of love then finding lasting romantic relationships are going to be hard. If we think it is too late for change then finding time to do tapping isn't going to happen. In this conversation we talk about four ways in which we can find the beliefs about ourselves that are incongruent with what we want and how to tap for them. Su

Support the podcast! Fear, worry, and anxiety are some of our most primitive emotions. Their main goal is to keep us safe and in some cases, alive. Because of their vital function, these emotions will override all our other emotions, ensuring that they are heard first. For the most part, this is a good thing and these emotions truly do keep us safe. Problems arise when our feelings of worry and anxiety are too intense for what is actually going on. In this week's podcast Julie Schiffman and I talk about how to figure out the root cause of our fear, and how to tap effectively for it. Subscribe in: Apple | Android | Spotify

Listen to both Kim and Gene in this year's Tapping World Summit. Supporters of the podcast have access to a bonus interview with Dr. Kim. Become a supporter today to have access the this and all the bonus podcast. Dr. Kim D'Eramo was frustrated that she wasn't getting the results that she wanted in her medical practice. Then she discovered tapping. Using tapping with her clients made a huge difference, but she still wasn't getting the results she wanted. Because of this she spent a considerable amount of time thinking about why there were issue that weren't clear and why symptoms where still lingering. In this interview we talk about the two main reasons why issue don't clear with tapping. Subscribe in: Apple | Android | Spotify Guest: Dr. Kim D’Eramo Contact: web @ DrKimDeramo.com; instagram @drkimderamo; youtube @YouAttractWellness; facebook @DrKimDeramo About: Kim graduated medical school in 2002 from University of New England College of Osteopathic Medicine, where she also completed a Fellowship in Ost

Support the podcast! In podcast #249 I talked to Rick Hanson about our three basic needs of safety, satisfaction, and connection. Most of the unconscious, subconscious, and conscious actions we make are motivated by one of these three needs. Tapping can be a powerful tool in helping us to make sure that we meet these needs in a healthy way. This week in the podcast I share with you how you can first, identify which one of these needs we are trying to meet and second, how to tap for each of these needs (because each need requires a different approach). If you didn't listen to the interview I did with Rick I would encourage to you to listen to it first before diving into the application. Subscribe in: Apple | Android | Spotify

Support the podcast! When people are looking for long term results with tapping they commonly run into one of two problems. Either they are working on the wrong issue for their desired outcome OR they are only working on a symptom and not the root cause. If you are making either of these mistakes, chances are that you're not getting as much as you can out of your tapping practice. New York Times bestselling author Rich Hanson has done a masterful job in breaking down the types of problems in relation to our sense of safety, satisfaction, and connection. He has also developed a clear set of tools which can help us to bring about transformation and healing in each area. When we know the right issues and we are using the right tool, transformation comes more quickly and is much longer lasting. Subscribe in: Apple | Android | Spotify

Support the podcast! Often times parenting can feel like it is a struggle. As a parent you have a clear idea of what needs to be done over the course of day. There are meals to be served, errands that need to ran, getting the kids to school, and all of the other tasks that fill daily life. Kids on the other hand don't have the same sense of priority or understanding of what needs to be done. Because of this it can feel like a struggle to get through the day. This week I have a conversation with parenting specialist Carrie Contey about how parents can move through the day getting done what they need to get done while still helping the kids to grow in a happy and healthy way. Subscribe in: Apple | Android | Spotify Guest: Carrie Contey, Ph.D. Contact: web @ carricontey.com; email @ hello@carriecontey.com; Instagram @carrieconteyphd About: Carrie Contey, Ph.D., is an internationally recognized coach, author, speaker and educator. Her work offers a new perspective on human development, parenting and family lif

Support the podcast! One of the best parts about tapping is how easily it can be combined with other tools and modality. Recently, Steve Well has been working use the power of intention combined with tapping to get deeper healing and longer lasting results. In the case the idea of intention is about the outcome we want (for example "my intention is to be confident speaking in public") but instead holding specific intentions about the healing process. He calls his new approach Intention-based Energy Process (IEP) or Intention Tapping for short. In the conversation Steve shares how he came to use intention in this way as well as teaching you the entire process. Note: For the first time since 2013 Steve is running live training in North America. There is a 3 hour workshop on April 4th and three day advanced training April 5th - 7th in Toronto. Here are details Subscribe in: Apple | Android | Spotify

Support the podcast! In this conversation we talk about how tapping can be used to:   * Remove the one part that is making it harder * How to find the right part to focus on * How to let go of wrong part to focus * How to deal with extreme nerves - often called the [yips](https://www.mayoclinic.org/diseases-conditions/yips/symptoms-causes/syc-20379021) in sports   No matter what level or what setting you need to perform in, Tom will how you how to use simple tapping to get the most out each opportunity.   Making mistakes can be frustrating, but it is even more frustrating when it is something that you know you can do, have done before, but in the moment, when it is most important that you get it right that you mess up. Athletes deal with problem all of the time. There are actions that they can do over and over again in practice, but when they get in to a game setting they mess up. Often times when we think of the mental game of performance we are only thinking athletic terms, but the same thing can happen wi

Support the podcast! I can't imagine not being a thoughtful, kind person in the world. I am glad that at least some of the time I am able to respond to other people's wants, needs, and suffering. But one of the consequences of being known to be thoughtful is that other people often come for help. In extreme cases, they aren't looking for help, they just want us to solve their problems. At some point it can become too much and just because someone we love it having a hard time, it doesn't mean we are responsible for solving all their problems. We can be thoughtful, helpful, and caring without taking on everyone's burdens. In this week's audio I have a story about how I was able to change the dynamics of a relationship where I had let a boundary down to the point that it was making my life difficult. There is also a tap-along that will make it easier for you to be the kind and thoughtful person that you are without having to take care of every burden of everyone you know. (A printable tapping script can be foun

Support the podcast! Note: To get 2019 off on the right foot, we're going to end 2018 and begin the new year with a four-part series on how to make what I call "pro-you choices". These are choices that are all about taking care of yourself. This is Part 3 of 4. You can find all four parts in the Pro-You Choices Series. For those of us who are of a thoughtful and caring disposition, it is natural to want to care for others. The problem comes when we spend so much time taking care of everyone else, we don't spend the time and attention that we need to take care of our own needs. The simple truth is: If we don't put ourselves first, no one else is going to. This week I have a tap-along audio (with printable tapping script below the audio player) to help to manage the guilt we may feel when we decide to take care of ourselves. Subscribe in: Apple | Android | Spotify

Support the podcast! Note: To get 2019 off on the right foot, we're going to end 2018 and begin the new year with a four-part series on how to make what I call "pro-you choices". These are choices that are all about taking care of yourself. This is Part 2 of 4. You can find all four parts in the Pro-You Choices Series. I find that "I don't know!" is one of the hardest phrases to say. When I say it, it is easy for me to feel disempowered, incompetent, and less than. In a recent interview, actor and director John Krasinski talked about how the most powerful thing you can say is that you don't know. It is an interesting idea. When we are able to acknowledge that we don't fully understand what we are supposed to do or how to do it, we are actually putting ourselves in a place of power. Our honesty means we can make the best possible choice, without fooling others or ourselves. This week I have a tap-along audio (with printable script below the player) that will help you to be comfortable with not knowing. Subscri

Support the podcast! The month of December is a super busy time of year. There are work parties, holiday parties, meals with friends, family obligations, performances, recitals...the list goes on and on. In a vacuum, going to any one of these events is fine, but when they stack up on top of each other they can just become too much. Actor and comedian John Hodgman wrote last week in his newsletter: ALL SOCIAL PLANS ARE OPTIONAL. Especially HOLIDAY PARTIES. Everyone will understand if you can't make it. They probably won't even notice you're not there (sorry, narcissists!). And if it's a one-on-one thing, that's OK too. Your friend will forgive you if you cancel. They will probably be relieved, too. There is a part of you that knows this, and there is a part of you that feels like you are failing if you follow through and actually do this.   This week I have a tap-along audio (with script below the player) that will help you to give yourself permission to say "no" to at least one invitation so that you are h

Support the podcast! Sometimes we make choices that hurt others. Sometimes our emotions get the better of us, or we act thoughtlessly and cause someone else pain. Either way, it's easy to beat ourselves up for the pain we have caused. Even when we apologize and do what we can to make amends, we may still feel bad. This week's podcast covers how to tap for those times when we have unintentionally hurt others with our words or actions. We tap for feeling bad because we have caused someone else pain, for feeling like a failure because of the mistakes we have made, and to create space to learn from the experience so that we make better choices in the future. I have also included a printable version of the tapping script below the audio player. Subscribe in: Apple | Android | Spotify

Support the podcast! Tapping is great because it can be used on so many different issues, both physical and emotional. It works for issue from the past and worries about the future. Because the tool is so flexible, sometimes it is hard to know just where to start. You want to get the most out of your tapping and you don't want to waste your effort. When we are worried that we are going to do something wrong, such as picking the issue to tap on, it's easy for us not to take action at all. This week's podcast will teach you three ways to tap when you don't know where to start. Subscribe in: Apple | Android | Spotify

Support the podcast! Note: This is Part 4 of 5 in the Most Commonly Asked Questions series. Make sure you check out all 5 parts. Often our harshest critic is the one living inside our own head. It points out everything we are doing wrong, all the expectations we are not living up to, and how we are destined to fail in the future. As hard as it is to believe, our critical voice exists because it's supposed to help us! By pointing out what we have done wrong in the past, it wants us to act differently in the future. The problem is that it doesn't work out that way. Instead it just beats us and makes us feel bad. Subscribe in: Apple | Android | Spotify

Support the podcast! Gratitude and thanksgiving are powerful tools in helping us to be present in the moment and to help us to be even more aware of the blessings we have. But giving thanks isn't always the easiest of tasks because our lives aren't perfect. There is pain, struggle, and disappointment. This week I have a tap-along audio (and script below the player) to help us to be more thankful without being pollyannaish about the realities of our lives. Subscribe in: Apple | Android | Spotify

Support the podcast! Note: This is Part 3 of 5 in the Most Commonly Asked Questions series. Make sure you check out all 5 parts. Attempting to tame clutter can feel like an overwhelming task. There have been times when I've spent hours trying to clean up... I work and work and work, but somehow it doesn't feel like I am getting anywhere. When clutter persists and you just can't seem to get a handle on it, it's usually because there is an emotional issue underlying your resistance to cleaning up. This week I share with you a simple process that you can do to start getting rid of your clutter. The process will help you to uncover the underlying emotional resistance AND it will show you how to tap to resolve it. Subscribe in: Apple | Android | Spotify

Support the podcast! Note: This is Part 2 of 5 in the Most Commonly Asked Questions series. Make sure you check out all 5 parts. It can often feel like we are dealing with the same issues over and over again and when that happens, it can feel like tapping is just a giant waste of time. Our reasoning tells us that if tapping was working, the issue would be taken care of. There are three main reasons behind why it can feel like we aren't making any progress with our tapping. This week I explore these reasons and what we can do to recognize the true progress we are making.   Subscribe in: Apple | Android | Spotify

Support the podcast! When someone joins my mailing list, one of the two questions I ask them is, "What is the biggest issue you have when it comes to tapping?" When I started asking this question I expected to receive lots of answers about specific topics or issues that are particularly hard to deal with. I do get a lot of these types of responses, but a good 25% of the responses say something along the lines of, "I know tapping works, but I just don't do it." This week I have for you three simple steps you can take that will transform tapping from this thing you beat yourself up for not doing, into something you reach for every day. (Full transcript of the audio can be found below the player.) Subscribe in: Apple | Android | Spotify