Eft/tapping Q & A Podcast W/ Gene Monterastelli - Emotional Freedom Techniques

Support the podcast! One of the main reasons that people say they don't tap is because of the belief that tapping is not going to work. This is a reasonable concern. Tapping is weird. It seems unreasonable that tapping on our body would be able to provide healing and relief. When I have encountered this resistance in the past I have asked the person who doesn't believe in tapping if they would be willing to tap on the fact that they don't believe it is going to work. A funny thing happens...they are willing to tap on their disbelief in tapping. You will notice in the first paragraph above I wrote "the reason that people say". I used the word say very deliberately. Sometimes people don't tap because they don't believe it will work and sometimes they say that as a mask for the real reason they don't tap. This week we explore why you don't tap and how to tap for not tapping. (Trust me it will make sense and it will work.) Subscribe in: Apple | Android | Spotify

Support the podcast! Recently I have been asked by a number of my clients about what type of daily tapping I do. My own tapping falls into three main categories: The first is a practical approach where I do some tapping for every task on my to-do list. I covered this process back in Bonus Pod #46 Second, when I have a clear idea of the exact issue, emotion, or limiting belief I'm experiencing, I use one of the 13 tools that can be found in Advanced Anger Management. As I have stated before, the book isn't really about anger, but working towards good emotional health. Download a free copy via the link above. Third, every morning, right after I have made my first cup of coffee, I spend some time tapping using the Set-Up Phrase Generator. The Set-Up Phrase Generator is a little piece of software that you can access free of charge from any web browser. Access the Set-Up Phrase Generator here: http://EFTSetupPhraseGenerator.com/ BUT before you do that, listen to this week's audio where I explain how it works, why

Support the podcast! Back in podcast 292 I chatted with Mark Wolynn about how we are starting to recognize the way that trauma can be passed on from one generation to the next through our genes. Recognizing that some of our issues have nothing to do with our own experience is useful because it offers us a new way to approach the work we are doing with tapping. In addition to the genetic component of trauma, our emotional understanding of our issues is also influenced by the generations before us. I have seen this time and again with my clients where they feel it is unsafer for them to heal these family patterns. The thinking goes like this: the trauma we are feeling unites our family and if we choose to heal this trauma, then we are abandoning our family. Healing our trauma means risking breaking an important family connection. This week we look at how we understand generational trauma and the sense of family connection it creates, helping us to recognize when we are sabotaging our healing. I have also inclu

Support the podcast! It makes sense that we would feel grief and sadness after the death of a loved one. But this is not the only time that we experience grief. The emotion of grief is our system telling us that we are missing or disconnected from something or someone that is important to us. This could be the end of a relationship, a missed opportunity, or when we realize that we have wasted valuable time by not acting sooner. These experiences create genuine grief, but because our definition of grief may be too narrow, we can miss the opportunity to tap for it. An emotion that goes unaddressed can simmer beneath the surface and cause us problems later on in life. This week we are going to tap for the shades of grief we experience that aren't related to death and dying. As always, below the audio player is a script that you can print out and use anywhere. Subscribe in: Apple | Android | Spotify  

Support the podcast! Recently I was talking with one of my clients. She has been doing an amazing amount of transformational work in her life. Personally, professionally, and emotionally everything was better, but she was struggling. The basic thrust of our conversation was "I know everything in my life is getting better, so why do I feel worse?" On the surface this might seem like an odd situation, but it happens a lot more than you would think. Much of it comes down to the fact that there are different types of problems and not all of those problems are created equally. We always start with the most pressing problem first. For example, if you think terms of Maslow's hierarchy of needs, we will worry about food and shelter before we worry about living a life of purpose or a fulfilling career. The same is true when we are dealing with our emotional life. We start with the most pressing needs, such as feeling safe in the world, and then we move on to higher level needs, such as issues of self-esteem and self-w

Support the podcast! Jealousy is such corrosive emotion. It makes us think ill of others. It makes us feel bad for ourselves. I don't know about you, but it leads me to make poor and rash decisions. The worst part of jealousy is feeling the emotion about someone else, but having to deal with its negative consequences. Recently, I was at a professional training event and was so overcome with jealousy of the person presenting on stage that I could barely think straight. I was able to do some tapping in the moment to clear my head, but I realized that it was a big enough issue that I needed to deal with it in a deeper way. Over the next few weeks I spent some time every single day tapping for jealousy and all the other feelings around it. This week's tap-along audio is one of those tapping sessions, with the tapping script also available in a text version. Subscribe in: Apple | Android | Spotify

Support the podcast! One of the reasons that the human species survives is because of our innate ability to learn. Every time we experience something new, we have the opportunity to learn how the world works and how our fellow humans react to a certain set of circumstances. With each new experience, we are able to make subconscious comparisons with prior experiences. New information means we are able to update our understanding of ourselves and of the world we inhabit. There are two problems with the way that we learn. First, we sometimes learn the wrong lesson. Because we may not fully understand a situation, we draw inaccurate conclusions. Second, at times we are presented with new information that conflicts with our old lessons and beliefs, so we choose (consciously or unconsciously) to ignore the new information. This conflict means that sometimes not only do we not accept new information about ourselves and the world, but it actually gets in the way of our transformation. In this week's podcast I share w

Support the podcast! It can be difficult to remain focused on doing the work to improve your life. Sometimes you are pushing forward without seeing any progress. Sometimes the goal seem so far away that it is impossible. AND sometimes we just feel alone on the journey. When we are trying to improve our lives it's common to feel that the people around us are unwilling to do the same, and may even be resistant to the fact that we are changing and growing our own. This can make the work of transformation to feel lonely. This week I have words of encouragement to keep you going, even when you feel alone. Because the truth is you are not alone. It might feel like it, but there are many thousands of people who are on healing journeys, just like you. This week we tap to know that we aren't alone AND that the work we are doing in our own lives makes it easier for others, and the work others are doing is clearing a path for us. (Below the audio player you will also find a text version of the tapping script.) Subscribe

Support the podcast! This is Part 7 of the 7-part Productivity Series. Each week we have been tapping for a specific emotional block to taking action. Check out the full series. Even when we know the right action to take, it can be difficult to do because we are so good at sabotaging ourselves. The Take Action Now program was created to eliminate self-sabotaging behavior so you can take decisive action towards achieving your goals. Full details here. Being successful is hard enough. It becomes even harder when we are worried about others judging our success. Others may judge our dreams as being foolish. They may be jealous when they see us chasing our dreams and being successful. They may even feel that we are judging them because they aren't experiencing the same success as we are enjoying. Worrying about these types of judgments makes us less likely to take action because being judged isn't any fun. In this week's tap-along (with a printable tapping script below audio player) we tap for taking action in spi

Support the podcast! This is Part 6 of the 7-part Productivity Series. Each week we are going to tap for an emotional block to taking action. Check out the full series. Even when we know the right action to take, it can be difficult to do because we are so good at sabotaging ourselves. The Take Action Now program was created to eliminate self-sabotaging behavior so you can take decisive action towards achieving your goals. Full details here. One of the difficulties with being successful is that success is not an all-or-nothing proposition. Success usually comes in stages as part of a process. When we are doing the work and taking action we are often too close to what is going on to see the progress we are making. This can be discouraging and slow down our progress because it doesn't feel like the effort we are putting in is paying off. This week's tap-along audio (and printable script below the player) will help you to recognize the progress you are making and to regain your momentum. Subscribe in: Apple |

Support the podcast! This is Part 5 of the 7-part Productivity Series. Each week we are going to tap for an emotional block to taking action. Check out the full series. Even when we know the right action to take, it can be difficult to do because we are so good at sabotaging ourselves. The Take Action Now program was created to eliminate self-sabotaging behavior so you can take decisive action towards achieving your goals. Full details here. There is a part of us that wants to everything in exactly the right order, and that's because there are times in which the order we do tasks really matters, such as when baking a cake. But for most tasks or projects, there isn't an exact right order. There may be an overarching plan that needs to be followed, but it doesn't have to be done in exact steps. This concern about the right order of tasks can be a stumbling block to taking action because on some level we are worried about wasting energy and having to redo actions because we did them in the wrong order. This tap-

Support the podcast! This is Part 4 of the 7-part Productivity Series. Each week we are going to tap for an emotional block to taking action. Check out the full series. Even when we know the right action to take, it can be difficult to do because we are so good at sabotaging ourselves. The Take Action Now program was created to eliminate self-sabotaging behavior so you can take decisive action towards achieving your goals. Full details here. There are times when we have a clear vision of what we wish to do, but we are held back by our emotions. This part of us may be worried that our vision isn't right for us, that others don't believe in our vision, or we are mistrustful of our own inner guidance. This tap-along audio (with a printable tapping script below) will help you to trust in your inner guidance, trust your vision, and help you to take action even when those around you just don't get it. Subscribe in: Apple | Android | Spotify

Support the podcast! This is Part 3 of the 7-part Productivity Series. Each week we are going to tap for an emotional block to taking action. Check out the full series. Even when we know the right action to take, it can be difficult to do because we are so good at sabotaging ourselves. The Take Action Now program was created to eliminate  self-sabotaging behavior so you can take decisive action towards achieving your goals. Full details here. When we are faced with doing something that we don't know how to do or that we don't have a great of experience with it is common that we won't take the action we what. This is because there is a part of us that want to protect us from failure AND when we don't know how to do something failure is much more likely. This tap-along audio (and script below) will help you to take action when you are feeling dumb, struggling because you don't know where to start, and that others will judge you because you don't know what action to take. Tapping to this will make it easier for

Support the podcast! This is Part 2 of the 7-part Productivity Series. Each week we are going to tap for an emotional block to taking action. Check out the full series. Even when we know the right action to take, it can be difficult to do because we are so good at sabotaging ourselves. The Take Action Now program was created to eliminate  self-sabotaging behavior so you can take decisive action towards achieving your goals. Full details here. Allowing distractions, such as email or social media notifications, is one of the easiest ways to be unproductive. Distractions also come in the form of unruly thoughts rattling around in our heads. This tap-along audio (with a full printable script below the audio player) will help to calm your mind before you begin working, helping you to stay focused. Subscribe in: Apple | Android | Spotify  

Support the podcast! This is part 1 of the 7 part Productivity Series. Each week we are going to tap for an emotional block to taking action. Check out the full series. It is difficult to take action when we don't have a clear vision for exactly what we want. When we are unclear we have to deal with both practical and emotional blocks to taking action. On a practical level it is difficult to take action where we don't know what because we aren't exactly sure what is the best action. A clear vision create a tangible goal, which leads to concrete steps to take and the order to take them. Without that we can struggle to know what the best most constructive actions are. On a subconscious level we prevent ourselves from taking action as a way of saving energy and effort. When we don't have a clear vision the subconscious worries that we might choose to take a action that isn't useful. It see that we don't know exactly what we want and know that any action we take is just a guess as to if it is a useful action. The

Support the podcast! Betrayal is unlike other emotions because it creates problems beyond the immediate pain we feel when we realize we have been betrayed. Betrayal also sows seeds of doubt at a subconscious level, which can create lasting physical and emotional problems. This week I have a conversation with Dr. Debi Silber who has dedicated her research and work to understanding how betrayal impacts us physically and emotionally. More importantly, she has also developed a process (Post Betrayal Transformation) to help heal those wounds. In this conversation we discuss the conditions required for betrayal to happen, how it impacts us, and the first steps towards healing. During the interview Debi refers to a short quiz that you can take to see if you are being impacted by a past betrayal. You can take the quiz here. Guest: Dr. Debi Silber Contact: web @ PBTInstitute.com About: Dr. Debi Silber, founder of PBT Institute is a Transformational Psychologist, and a health, mindset, empowerment and personal developm

Support the podcast! I often hear from frustrated clients because they have tapped for an issue, but they haven't made any progress. When this happens they question whether tapping can help. The reality is that in many of these cases the issue isn’t whether tapping will work, but instead what is the best way to tap for an issue. This week I have for you a simple four-step process to ensure you are tapping in the most effective way to get to the root cause of an issue. Subscribe in: Apple | Android | Spotify

Support the podcast! (For me) one of the hardest feeling is the feeling of being an outsider. When you are standing in a room full up people and you just don't feel like you belong. In side of your head your mind is spinning as you are imagining what all the other people in the room are thinking about you. AND none of it is good! In most cases, almost everyone is more worried about other think of them than they are thinking of you. Last weekend I found myself feeling exact this way. Here is a tap-along audio and tapping script for when you find yourself in the same situation.

Support the podcast! It can difficult when we see our loved ones making choices that aren't serving them. Because we have distance on the situation we are able to see the bigger picture in that way that they can't. What can be even more difficult is the fact that they aren't able to hear us (and hear our advice) because they are so deep in the weeds with the issue there is nothing we can say that they are going to hear. This week I have for you a simple process that you can tap to when wanting better for someone in your life. It is a process that is going to change them. They are responsible for their own change, but what it can do is create the space which will allow them to see the situation more clearly and allow them to make new choices. Not only do I have the simple step by step to do this process in the audio, but I have also included a link where you can download this process and 13 other tools for free.

Support the podcast! Sometimes I put off tapping because I don't feel I have enough time for an in-depth tapping session. But often you don't need much time to make a huge difference to how you are feeling. Recently I had a small physical issue that was more of an inconvenience than the cause of any great pain. I never thought to tap for it because it was so small. Eventually I got around to tapping for it, which was really effective and I couldn’t believe I’d waited so long! Here’s the simple three-step process I used. Give it a try!