In This Together With Dr. Josh + Christi

Kids are vulnerable, and vulnerability longs for safety. Perhaps it’s no wonder Jesus tells us to become like little children. Over time, our hearts grow hardened.In this episode, Josh describes what children need, and talks about the “why” behind the new KidsRQ (Relational Intelligence) curriculum. *Note: This is a continuation from last week's episode Cultivating Relational Intelligence in Kids Time Stamps:0:00 Introduction2:20 The vulnerability and dependence of a child9:40 The presence of Jesus in our healing journeyf11:50 KidsRQ curriculum layout and experiential exercises16:35 Get in with a free trial of KidsRQ Show Notes:Sign up for a free trial of KidsRQ! https://www.kidsrq.comJoin KidsRQ at the Founding Members rate: https://www.kidsrq.com If you’re interested in a marriage you love, fill out this form: https://www.famousathome.com/loveyourmarriage Register now for the Tender & Fierce Fall Cohort: https://www.famousathome.com/offers/dDt2Aobj/checkout Download NONAH's new single Find My Way Home b

We all want to raise emotionally intelligent kids. Even more, we want them to be spiritually alive. For us, that’s what relational intelligence is all about. An overflow of experiencing the relational gospel of Jesus.As we begin season 6, we’re covering relational intelligence in kids. In this episode, we start by introducing a brand new initiative called KidsRQ!Time Stamps: 0:00 Introduction3:00 The shift from emotional to relational intelligence7:56 Kevin Wallace joins the show to talk about the creative journey14:30 What is KidsRQ?19:06 Emotion regulation and increasing rates of anxiety and depression in kids23:18 The key components of KidsRQ Show Notes: Join KidsRQ at the Founding Members rate: https://www.kidsrq.com If you’re interested in a marriage you love, fill out this form: https://www.famousathome.com/loveyourmarriageRegister now for the Tender & Fierce Fall Cohort: https://www.famousathome.com/offers/dDt2Aobj/checkoutDownload NONAH's brand new single Find My Way Home by clicking here: https:/

Christi and Josh talk about the nervous system, childhood wounds, and why the motivation behind our spouse’s anger or criticism is deeper than we often give them credit for.If you’re looking to have an understanding of your pain cycle and how to cultivate a deeper sense of emotional safety in your marriage, this episode is for you.Time Stamps: 0:00 Introduction1:15 Christi and Josh update on life this summer6:15 Josh shares what’s coming for season 67:50 Introduction to the emotionally safe marriage 10:40 Your spouse’s motivation in the pain cycle18:30 The nervous system, childhood wounds, and your pain cycle29:17 A practice for interrupting your pain cycle and seeing your spouse 32:25 Learning what feels “safe” for you Show Notes: If you’re interested in a marriage you love, fill out this form: https://www.famousathome.com/loveyourmarriageRegister now for the Tender & Fierce Fall Cohort: https://www.famousathome.com/offers/dDt2Aobj/checkoutDownload NONAH's brand new single Find My Way Home by clicking he

The Tender & Fierce cohort is coming up again this fall! As we find ourselves sitting in between seasons on the Famous at Home podcast, we are replaying an interview with Christi about what it means to awaken the tender & fierce parts of your heart.In this interview, Christi talks about how Tender & Fierce got started and answers questions about the Tender & Fierce cohort. She also shares how to awaken the tender and fierce part of who you are, why it begins with curiosity, and how it is enhanced through community.Time Stamps: 0:00 Introduction4:50 The genesis of and meaning behind Tender & Fierce 10:46 What you can expect from Tender & Fierce17:24 Who is Tender & Fierce for?19:10 Why a Tender & Fierce retreat? 22:05 How to awaken your heart to be tender & fierce Show Notes:  Sign up for the Fall 2025 Tender & Fierce Cohort! Sign up here.https://www.famousathome.com/offers/dDt2Aobj/checkoutFor more information about the Tender & Fierce Cohort, click here. https://ww

Think about the deep neurobiological connection happening in your brain as you walk into a room and encounter someone who lights up at your presence, and the fulfilling sensation of knowing that person is beaming from the inside out with only one message, “I am so glad to be with YOU!” Without relational joy, there is no relational intelligence. Instead, relational joy is the antidote to the numbing out of our hurried lives because you walk around with a sense of knowing you are seen and loved.As we continue season 5 on relational intelligence, Josh provides what he calls the “JOY STARTS framework”—four principles and corresponding practices spelling the word JOYS to jumpstart relational joy in your life and in the lives of those around you. Time Stamps:0:00 Introduction & Review of Season 54:54 Moving from self-protection to experience life-giving relationships6:27 How our senses are tied to relational joy11:38 What relational joy feels like13:11 Introduction to the JOYS STARTS Framework13:50 Joy is foun

Sam Jolman says, “Talking to your children about sex should be likened to having 100 one-minute conversations.” As we continue season 5 on relational intelligence, therapist and author Sam Jolman joins us once again, this time to talk about how to help our kids script a narrative of romance. In this episode, Sam shares profound insights on age-specific ways to talk to your kids about their body, why it’s important to follow their questions, and how to cultivate a value-based, not a fear-based conversation. In the end, the goal is to help our kids experience awe, not live in shame. Time Stamps:0:00 Introduction2:19 Sam Jolman joins the show!3:10 Talking to kids ages 0 to 66:40 A profound insight on shame and glory12:09 Talking to kids ages 7 to 1220:50 Moving from fear-based to values-base conversation with your kids24:40 Talking to teens30:10 The difference between arousal and lust 33:20 Preparing our kids for marriage40:02 Innocence, not naivetyShow Notes: Get Sam Jolman’s book The Sex Talk You Never Got. ht

Sam Jolman says, “The realm of evil hates your sexuality… [and] tries to, as quickly and as early as possible, join shame to your sexual story.”As we continue season 5 on relational intelligence, therapist and author Sam Jolman joins us to talk about sex in marriage. Shame wreaks havoc on intimacy and relational connection, keeping us isolated and feeling alone.It was never intended to be this way. Author of The Sex Talk You Never Got, Sam offers a refreshing, pure, and healing perspective on how to discuss, heal, and redeem intimacy with your spouse.Time Stamps:0:00 Introduction2:39 Sam Jolman joins the show6:04 Shame and the assault on sex13:09 The human body created for pleasure19:54 Song of Songs and the deep “knowing” that is the bedrock for intimacy24:17 How to have the conversation of sex with your spouse32:33 The role of kindness and compassion in the healing of your story37:51 Talking about playfulness, safety, and sex with your spouseShow Notes: Get Sam Jolman’s book The Sex Talk You Never Got: http

How well do you manage your relationship with the screen? How would your spouse describe how well you manage your relationship with the screen? What about your kids?As we continue season 5 on relational intelligence, we discuss screen time and its effects on our nervous system. We share some sobering statistics about screens and hope by the end you honestly evaluate the answer to the question, “What role does the screen play in the quality of my life?”  Time Stamps: 0:00 Introduction 3:20 How do you relate with your screen? 8:57 Screens and the nervous system 12:12 Dopamine, screens, and temper tantrums 19:00 Multitasking, nervous system dysregulation, and attunement 27:20 Inattention in children’s television shows32:29 Becoming relationally intelligent with screensShow Notes:If you’re interested in a marriage you love, fill out this form: https://www.famousathome.com/loveyourmarriageRegister now for the Tender & Fierce Fall Cohort: https://www.famousathome.com/offers/dDt2Aobj/checkout Download NONAH's br

Forgiving others can be complicated. Especially when you’ve been hurt deeply by those you love the most.As we continue season 5 on relational intelligence, we discuss the reality of forgiveness, why it’s so complicated, and a helpful process for forgiving others. We also offer a beautiful story of deep forgiveness in marriage as a model and a path forward. Time Stamps: 0:00 Introduction to forgiveness and why it matters 3:16 The reality and process of forgiveness 7:50 The people we have to forgive 10:22 The complicated beauty of forgiveness 17:32 An example of forgiveness in marriage 21:30 The grace of our own forgivenessShow Notes: If you’re interested in a marriage you love, fill out this form: https://www.famousathome.com/loveyourmarriageRegister now for the Tender & Fierce Fall Cohort: https://www.famousathome.com/offers/dDt2Aobj/checkout Download NONAH's brand new single Find My Way Home by clicking here: https://bellpartners.ffm.to/findmywayhome

Why do we self-protect in relationships? Especially if it hurts our deepest levels of intimacy with those we love? Though we’re hurt in relationships, we’re also healed in relationships. As we continue season 5 on relational intelligence, we discuss the ways we self-protect, why self-protection is a form of artificial intelligence, and how to break free. Our hope for this episode is to give you hope that you can surrender self-protection and discover deeper relational connection with those you love. Time Stamps:0:00 Introduction 4:00 The ripple effect of relational intelligence 5:00 Self-protection as a form of artificial intelligence 8:12 The ways we self-protect 18:38 Ways to surrender our self-protection 24:06 Christi shares what she’s learning in her own journey of self-protection 31:43 Self-protection, overcoming fear, and the softening of your heart toward others 38:22 Disconfirming experiences, holding hope, and healing your heart Show Notes: If you’re interested in a marriage you love, fill out this f

In season 5, we’re talking about relational intelligence. In this episode, we’re specifically looking at it through the lens of marriage, the delicate dance of intimacy, and why emotional safety is so important. We also introduce season 5, which covers hot topics that challenge how we think about relationships, why we become numb to them, and how to navigate relational connections with those we love in a world becoming more artificially intelligent. Time Stamps:0:00 Introduction to season 53:00 The face-to-face nature of relational connection4:19 Why and how we numb in relationships13:11 Defining relational intelligence16:00 Marriage coaching options17:30 The delicate relational dance of marriage24:51 Emotional safety in marriage31:54 Your relationships in light of eternity38:40 The inside-out nature of marriage Show Notes:If you’re interested in a marriage you love, fill out this form: https://www.famousathome.com/loveyourmarriage Download NONAH's brand new single Find My Way Home by clicking here: https://b

In this episode, we address listener submitted questions, each of them around the constant demands and interruptions that come with raising children. Christi also walks us through an exercise to help calm nervous system dysregulation. Time Stamps:0:00 Introduction4:15 Costco trips, homeschooling, and the evolution of a marriage and family8:48 A practical exercise for nervous system regulation in the moment15:55 Listener question: Mom of 4 littles trying to find a soul at rest with all the demands26:36 Listener question: How to prioritize our sanity when constantly interrupted Show Notes: Ladies, interested in the fall Tender & Fierce Coaching Cohort? Register here: https://www.famousathome.com/offers/dDt2Aobj/checkout If you’re interested in a marriage you love, fill out this form: https://www.famousathome.com/loveyourmarriage Get John Eldredge’s latest book called Experience Jesus. Really.https://amzn.to/4ks1NdL Download NONAH's brand new single Find My Way Home by clicking here: https://bellpartners.ffm

What does it mean to "love your marriage?" Is it something you've thought about? Or perhaps something you brag about to others? In this episode, Josh talks about what we mean by loving your marriage, the deeper meaning of marriage, and poses three revealing questions to ask yourself about your marriage. Time Stamps: 0:00 Introduction 1:50 Tender & Fierce coming up 2:55 What we mean by loving your marriage 9:50 The purpose of marriage 13:44 Falling in love over and over again 16:27 How our marriage influences our kids 17:30 Cultivating our marriage with the Bridegroom 23:00 Three revealing questions to ask yourself about your marriageShow Notes: Ladies, interested in the fall Tender & Fierce Coaching Cohort? Register here: https://www.famousathome.com/offers/dDt2Aobj/checkoutIf you’re interested in a marriage you love, fill out form: https://www.famousathome.com/loveyourmarriage Download NONAH's single Find My Way Home by clicking here: https://bellpartners.ffm.to/findmywayhome

Sometimes people come into your life as mentors, but they also become dear friends. We met Bill and Laurie Lokey in 2018 and little did we know how Bill’s cancer journey would unite our hearts and deepen our friendship.As we continue our series on The People Who Shape Us, Laurie joins Christi to talk about the healing nature of relationships through grief and loss. No matter the loss in your life, whether it’s the loss of a spouse or loved one, or even the loss of a dream or deep relational hurt, we hope this conversation between Christi and Laurie encourages your heart.Yes, we’re wounded in relationship, but we’re also healed in relationship. Laurie and Christi spend time talking about specific ways to heal the inner wounded parts of who we are and how to navigate loss while living in relational joy!Time Stamps:0:00 Introducing Laurie and how we all met12:31 How Christi and Laurie partnered together15:50 How Laurie navigates “withness” with Jesus since the loss of her husband26:55 Healing the little boy and

Have you ever been walking through life when you happen to look over and see someone else walking in the same direction? It’s like your spirit shouts, “Oh, me too!”This is precisely what happened to Josh and Christi with their dearest friends, Luke (one-half of 4-Time Grammy Award winning For King & Country duo) and his wife, Courtney (founder of Technicolor Woman and author of Technicolor Woman Devotional). Their ensuing friendship is one they share about in this episode, because it’s a testament to how our closest relationships shape our character. And that’s not just a cute social media post; it’s a scientific fact. We truly are the sum of those we spend the most time with. As we continue our series on The People Who Shape Us, Luke and Courtney join us to talk about how trusted friends call us higher, the beautiful consequences of letting others in, and how our adult friendships even shape our children. Time Stamps: 0:00 Introduction 4:00 How we all became friends11:08 The character of friendship19:41

For the first time ever, Josh’s parents, Mike and Sharon Hess, join the show! We’re in a season called The People Who Shape Us, and we thought it fitting to have the most influential people in our lives share their own story of faith, and in this case, blended family.  Josh shares his perspective of growing up in a blended family, and Mike and Sharon address co-parenting, raising kids in a two income home on shift work, and overcoming shame. Looking for hope and healing in your story? May this one be your catalyst.   Time Stamps: 0:00 Introduction 4:30 Shift work and parenting on two incomes8:08 How our family navigated blended family20:19 Hard conversations with parents, teachability, and healing in blended families 35:00 From shame and isolation, to acceptance and community, after divorce 40:30 Showing respect for stepparents and stepchildren  Show Notes:  Ladies, interested in the fall Tender & Fierce Coaching Cohort? Register here: https://www.famousathome.com/offers/dDt2Aobj/checkout Download NONAH's

Did you know that being socially isolated is equivalent to smoking 15 cigarettes a day! What's really sad about this is that we're seemingly more "connected" than we've ever been, but research shows we're also more isolated.  Friend, it should be obvious by now that being "connected" does not equal relational intimacy. That's why we're addressing the beauty found in friendship as we continue our series on The People Who Shape Us. In this episode, Christi hosts her dear friend turned sister, Courtney Smallbone (author of Technicolor Woman Devotional of which you'll want to grab a copy!) to talk about the beauty and goodness of deep, safe friendship. Christi and Courtney talk about:The struggle of finding friends you can have deep connection withThe surrender and fight for healthy friendshipAuthenticity and vulnerabilityWhat it looks like to both champion and step onto the battlefield on behalf of your friendsAnd the beauty and goodness of finding Kingdom friends who are moving lock and step in the same directi

This episode boasts the MOST influential people we’ve ever had on the podcast! Ray and Lora Lee Wood, aka Christi’s Dad and Mum, join us for the first time ever to talk about what it was like parenting Christi (quite a trip) and the lessons they learned from being parents.This is a fantastic multigenerational episode for parents, grandparents, and in-laws alike. Ray and Lora Lee share practical and life-giving insights for parents across all ages and stages, and the secrets to keeping all three generations of their adult children and grandchildren so relationally close.  Time Stamps: 0:00 Introduction to Christi’s parents and the people who shape us4:30 Ray and Lora Lee reflect on their early years of parenting Christi 12:12 The lessons Ray and Lora Lee learned from being parents and the values they tried to instill 38:05 Parenting teens & older kids and strengthening bonds with adult childrenShow Notes:  Men, interested in the next coaching and discipleship cohort? Join the waitlist:https://www.famousath

As we continue our series on “The People Who Shape Us,” John Eldredge joins us. He is someone who has shaped how we pray and ultimately how we relate with Jesus ourselves. He’s been a mentor and spiritual father to many, and has significantly shaped how we lead even our children to experience Jesus for themselves. In the beautiful, kind words of a spiritual father, John shares stories about how he healed while raising his own kids, and what that healing did for how he started to relate to and experience the love of Abba in his own life. He also describes his own spiritual journey as having walked through what he calls “wardrobe doors,” a nod to C.S. Lewis’ pathway into Narnia.  He also shares how to find the people who can shape you in your pursuit and experience of Jesus. The key question John leaves us with is: “What has worked for you?”  Time Stamps:0:00 Introduction to John Eldredge and how he’s shaped us6:30 The beginning of John’s story to knowing Jesus7:34 The first wardrobe door11:47 John’s journey to

Welcome to season 4, where we spend each episode either honoring or talking to “The People Who Shape Us.”Make no mistake, we are who we spend time with — for better or worse. Whether it’s parents, mentors, friends, or extended family, we take time this season to let you in on the people who shape us, why connection is so difficult to find, and why we have to war for healthy relationships.  In this episode, we introduce season 4 talking about why healthy relationships seem so elusive, and what we have to do to find them.  Note: Registration for Cohort II of Tender & Fierce and The Field Experience ends soon. See show notes for details.Time Stamps:0:00 Introduction to Season 41:41 Registration for cohorts closing soon!2:38 Honoring how our parents shaped us6:17 The desire for connection and the lament of not having it10:23 Honoring the people who have shaped you15:30 Finding local people who shape us and we get to shape19:20 Exposing the lies of close relationships and how they develop24:38 How to war for h