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The research and experience behind using goals, rewards, and punishment to motivate. Extrinsically motivated environments are harmful! We must keep our baseline rewards as something that must be earned, not a privilege. When we do punish or reward we need to be very careful! “When it comes to motivation, there’s a gap between what science knows and what business does. carrot-and-stick motivators—doesn’t work and often does harm. We need an upgrade. And the science shows the way. This new approach has three essential elements: (1) Autonomy (2) Mastery (3) Purpose”

Coach Rick Stevenson shares his experience of two transformational activities he did with the parents and his players. 1. Invite them to practice with the team. 2. Invite them into the locker room after a game.

Applying one of my top books of 2017 to coaching... Essentialism by Greg McKeown What is it? How it applies? How to decipher and execute what is essential? Episode helps us to reflect at any stage of the season! Some key questions: 1. What do we need to do more of? 2. What do we need to start doing? 3. What do we need to do less of? 4. What are we willing to be bad at? 5. What do we want to be great at? (Known for) The best teams are 1 sentence teams! 6. Are we trying to fit players into our system or are we trying to create a system that fits our players? 7. How can we maximize the strengths of our personal and our team?

Guest Episode featuring Dr. Ellen Reed (Bio Below) 2 Practical Tools for Coaches to Train the Mind to Focus on the Essential & Build Player Confidence -Success Logs for Post Performance (How to & Benefits) -Pre-Performance and Practice 3 Minute Routine to Mentally Focus For More Information go to JasonSelk.com Bio: Dr. Reed has worked side by side with Dr. Jason Selk for over 10 years, and she has extensive experience in mental training for consistency, accountability, and execution in business, athletics, academics, and the performing arts. Dr. Reed helps numerous athletes, students, and business leaders reach their peak performance through developing the mental toughness necessary for success. Dr. Reed utilizes her in-depth knowledge and experience in athletics and the performing arts to help athletes and teams from the student to the professional level overcome obstacles and outperform the competition. Dr. Reed also has substantial teaching experience in the University setting, and her backgroun

8. Reading with the Parents 9. Invite Parents to Practice with the Team 10. Team and Family Gathering

6. Holding Office Hours- Opening Lines of Communication 7. Weekly Emails- Using them to continue the dialogue on healthy sports parenting!

3. Start a Conversation About Healthy Sports Parenting 4. Ask Parents For Their Thoughts 5. Create Standards of Excellence and Commitments for Parents

1. Building Relationships with Authentic Vulnerability 2. Communicating and Modeling Our Core Values

This episode, Nate discusses... 1. Lessons Learned from Past Mistakes 2. Clearly Communicating What Really Matters in the Sports 3. Opening Up Communication between the Coach and Parent 4. Presenting Beneficial Information for Parents 5. Creating a Positive Experience for the Sports Parent

Special Guest Nate Sanderson is a State Championship Coach in Iowa and works as the Director of Product Development at Breakthrough Basketball. More importantly, Nate puts character first in coaching and is intentional in everything he does on and off the court. In part 1, Nate discusses: 1. The problems of a “dealing with parents” mentality 2. A special parent meeting format to start “working with parents” 3. Opening lines of communication 4. Shaping parent expectations 5. Setting some boundaries

What are your non-negotiables as a coach? We can do a lot to empower those we lead by having them set standards for the team, but we still need to have some of our own standards. Can you enforce those rules out of love and without judgment of the person?

Coaches do you value your values? Who we select for the team, who we recruit, and who we play says a lot about what we value. Are we reinforcing our core values as a coach? Or are we just committed to getting the result we want in the next game?

Episode 8 provides examples of some special ways to develop leaders and tap into the intrinsic motivation of the team by giving them a voice!

Running sprints and other conditioning are GOOD things. When we use them as punishment, we make them BAD things! Episode 7 discusses the damaging consequences of using conditioning as punishment and beneficial ways to condition in a practice setting.

The differences are subtle in using boundaries and consequences instead of rules and punishment, but the impact is transformational in the culture and character development of those we lead. When we fail to use boundaries and consequences we nurture a sense of entitlement and allow other people's problems to become our problems.

J.P. Nerbun speaks with Mike Neighbors on the transformation from results focused to process focused and how the team literally burned their goals at Washington. Coach Neighbors is a NCAA Final Four basketball coach and now the current women's coach at Arkansas. While his winning record is impressive, he is an even more impressive coach due to his willingness to share with others and the transformational program he built at Washington.

One of the best mental training tools out there is a journaling activity like a success log or a what went well journal. We need to retrain the mind and share our positive mental attitude with those we lead. We need to help them focus on the controllables. What journaling activities have you found to be beneficial?

What benefits have you seen from reading as a team and what are your top books? Episode 3 discusses the benefits and the logistics behind reading together as a team!

This episode I discuss Commitment 1 of the 6 part series "6 Commitments to Make this Season". The first commitment is to be authentic and vulnerable with your team. The question for this podcast is: How have you found authenticity and vulnerability to be beneficial in creating a transformational culture? I tell a few stories showing how your relationships will become more meaningful and connected, they will be built on love and empathy, and you will start to model the change you want to see in others. Follow me on twitter @jpnerbun Email me jpnerbun@gmail.com Forum thriveonchallenge.com/forum

Today’s Question: What do you do to help move your team from results orientated to process orientated? Essentially how do you shift their focus off the mid-level goals like championships, trophies, and personal awards to focusing on what is within their control by making commitments. Today’s episode is more of a prologue to the 6 part series: "6 Commitments to Make this Season."