Havilah Cunnington

How do we give feedback without putting the other person’s brain into defense mode? Our brain often goes into fight, flight or freeze and the goal in all of this is to keep our brain in discovery mode for us to actually implement changes. When we say “yes, but” your brain tends to focus on the “but” part and believes that the person is standing opposed from you.  In this week’s episode, we’ll be discussing how to give feedback that is brain friendly by using the “Yes And” technique. Learn more and connect with Havilah: + havilahcunnington.com  + truthtotable.com  + theinfluencertable.com --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/havilah-cunnington/support

In this episode, Ben and Havilah discuss the topic of relationships and the challenges that come along with them. Real transformation begins when we start to see our differences as a strength, not a weakness. PURPOSE digital course AVAILABLE NOW ✨ https://truthtotable.com/purpose-course/ Learn more and connect with Havilah: + havilahcunnington.com  + truthtotable.com  + theinfluencertable.com --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/havilah-cunnington/support

Your purpose is unique to you and is the force that causes you to go past obstacles. It says, I'm not giving up or running out. God is in the middle of this! When you discover how God created you and learn to celebrate your own ability to see life uniquely, you'll take hold of the driving force that empowers you past the obstacles in life! PURPOSE digital course AVAILABLE NOW ✨ https://truthtotable.com/purpose-course/ Learn more and connect with Havilah: + havilahcunnington.com  + truthtotable.com  + theinfluencertable.com --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/havilah-cunnington/support

Purpose is a hot topic today, and it seems that everyone is trying to find out why they were put on the earth. An entire generation is asking the same question and actively trying to discover why they're on the earth. In this episode, you'll learn that your purpose is something you already carry within you, and that it just needs to be uncovered with God. Havilah explores three reasons behind the difficulty in finding your purpose, and casts vision for the steps to discover the purpose that is already residing inside of you. Once its acknowledged, developed, and refined; you will become a person of purpose! PURPOSE digital course AVAILABLE NOW ✨ https://truthtotable.com/purpose-course/ Learn more and connect with Havilah: + havilahcunnington.com  + truthtotable.com  + theinfluencertable.com --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/havilah-cunnington/support

If you really want to grow and have a wholesome spiritual life, there are some things you’ll have to say no to because you know what’s good and what’s bad for you. In this episode we’ll be talking about self care. 1 Corinthians 10:23 (AMP) “All things are lawful [that is, morally legitimate, permissible], but not all things are beneficial or advantageous. All things are lawful, but not all things are constructive [to character] and edifying [to spiritual life].” Learn more and connect with Havilah: + havilahcunnington.com  + truthtotable.com  + theinfluencertable.com --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/havilah-cunnington/support

If we’re busy taking care of other people’s backpacks when they’re capable of doing it on our own, we won’t be able to be the spiritual person that we’re called to be. Each of us need to carry our own load. In this week’s episode we’ll discuss how to protect the areas that Christ holds us responsible for. Galatians 6 2-5 NIV 2 Carry each other’s burdens, and in this way you will fulfill the law of Christ. 3 If anyone thinks they are something when they are not, they deceive themselves. 4 Each one should test their own actions. Then they can take pride in themselves alone, without comparing themselves to someone else, 5 for each one should carry their own load. Learn more and connect with Havilah: + havilahcunnington.com  + truthtotable.com  + theinfluencertable.com --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/havilah-cunnington/support

Your life is too short and your calling is too great to stay offended. Pain can sometime’s feel offensive and shameful. The idea of forgiveness in the greek is the idea of letting it go. In this week’s episode we’ll be discussing the area of forgiveness. Questions to ask yourself: What areas in your life do you need to forgive yourself for? Who do I need to forgive? Learn more and connect with Havilah: + havilahcunnington.com  + truthtotable.com  + theinfluencertable.com --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/havilah-cunnington/support

The moment we begin to redefine our pain, it allows us to be mature. Pain is important for our development and allows us to know that we are in process. In this week’s episode we’ll be discussing the moment we begin to transform. Every time you begin to experience pain, you are presented with a choice; you can either climb out of your pain or stay in the pit. Learn more and connect with Havilah: + havilahcunnington.com  + truthtotable.com  + theinfluencertable.com --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/havilah-cunnington/support

In this episode I talk about one of the critical components to being a Christ follower and living a vibrant life is to overcome the things that you face daily. Let's break the power of pain in your life. We'll be discussing the areas of pits of pain. Consider it pure joy, my brothers and sisters, whenever you face trials of many kinds because you know that the testing of your faith produces perseverance. Let perseverance finish its work so that you may be mature and complete, not lacking anything. James 1:2-4 NIV Four areas we end up in pain: - Childhood - Relationships - Physical Ailment - Personality Learn more and connect with Havilah: + havilahcunnington.com + truthtotable.com + theinfluencertable.com --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/havilah-cunnington/support

Today I have a special guest with me. Not only is he my baby-maker and the love of my life but he is also my business partner and ministry partner. We were having a conversation in our kitchen, and I thought this would be something you could benefit from too. We’ve been running Truth to Table full-time for two and a half years now, and we feel like we are no longer in survival mode. We now ask ourselves, how do we move forward? I’ve been struggling with knowing when certain thoughts are fear or wisdom. A lot of the hesitations I have are not grounded in wisdom but in fear of going without. It’s been hard for me to admit because I usually would not say I’m a fearful person but more of a risk-taker. But when I’m not doing well, I grow resistant towards situations and people due to fear. I’ve had to do some work internally to get rid of that child-like fear of being trapped in a painful situation. In this podcast, I want to share with you how I work through these fears and constraints. I hope this encourages

Today I have a special guest and friend on the podcast with me, John Bevere. We will be talking about the wilderness season together and how God takes us through different seasons in our lives. God allows us to go through the wilderness to develop character. God told David, he would be king, but then David had to go through the process, which is the wilderness. Joseph was given a dream but was forced to go the exact opposite direction of that dream to be ready for the promise. God wants to put us into a place of influence, but we need the character first. We don't always go through this season because we did something wrong but because we need it to go where He's called us to go. Promise. Process. Promotion. In the wilderness, it feels like God’s presence is far away from us and the promises He made us even further. But when you understand the purpose of the wilderness, you have the proper behavior to grow through it. If you don’t steward the wilderness properly or understand it, you will never understand

In this podcast episode I want to talk about rejection, abandonment and building more confidence. I grew up in a safe home. But just because we’re not raised around something doesn’t mean we’re not touched by it. My Dad’s story was a story of rejection, abandonment and a lack of confidence but when he found Christ, he started to go after those things and find healing. I was raised in a home of love and safety, but that generational thread that followed my Dad would love nothing more than to knock on my door. Instead of saying those were his issues, I realized that spirit of rejection and abandonment wants to follow my story as well. The narrative of abandonment and rejection sounds so familiar in our thoughts that it doesn’t even sound surprising to us. But when we hear those negative narratives in our mind, we have a decision to make. We can go to self-pity, or we can stay soft and open to the people around us and realize God is divinely orchestrating everything in our life. In those moments we have to

In this episode, we continue on with part three of a live teaching from my recent study, Leap Into Love.  To learn more about Leap Into Love, visit: https://truthtotable.com/leap-into-love/ –> You can connect with me online through all the social media links below Facebook: www.facebook.com/mrshavilah/ Twitter: twitter.com/mrshavilah Instagram: www.instagram.com/havilahcunnington/ –> You can also find lots of resources including books, Bible studies, online course and more at truthtotable.com. --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/havilah-cunnington/support

In this episode, we continue on with part two of a live teaching from my recent study, Leap Into Love. To learn more about Leap Into Love, visit: https://truthtotable.com/leap-into-love/ –> You can connect with me online through all the social media links below Facebook: www.facebook.com/mrshavilah/ Twitter: twitter.com/mrshavilah Instagram: www.instagram.com/havilahcunnington/ –> You can also find lots of resources including books, Bible studies, online course and more at truthtotable.com. --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/havilah-cunnington/support

In this episode, we dive into part one of a live teaching from my recent study, Leap Into Love. We explore the power of making a conscious, and intentional choice to embrace yourself as God’s most significant work. To learn more about Leap Into Love, visit: https://truthtotable.com/leap-into-love/ –> You can connect with me online through all the social media links below Facebook: www.facebook.com/mrshavilah/ Twitter: twitter.com/mrshavilah Instagram: www.instagram.com/havilahcunnington/ –> You can also find lots of resources including books, Bible studies, online course and more at truthtotable.com. --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/havilah-cunnington/support

If you don't steward the mundane, then you won't be prepared for the supernatural. It isn't always easy but we are all called to grow and refine the gifts we've been given. Routine is the foundation that allows us to stay diligent and become the person we are called to be. --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/havilah-cunnington/support

I want to talk to you about the power of parenting. I’m so excited to have my mom joining us today for this topic. I wanted to take this time to encourage you in this holiday season, especially if you’re a mom or you’re a working woman or have a lot to navigate! Give yourself the grace to learn and be open during this time of the year. This podcast will hopefully help you keep your focus on the important things this holiday season. Our kids can't take a backseat to the hustle of the season. If we don’t have a strategy, the season will take over. We will arrive in January and have forgotten to parent in December. This month is critical for parenting, but it can be challenging to navigate when it comes to how generous and how strict we should be. In the end, your kids want you and your time. How are you spending quality time with your children and investing in them this holiday season? It doesn’t have to be perfect, just one day at a time. Thank you for joining us today! You can do this! Here is a special P

On this episode, Bill Johnson joins us in a fascinating discussion about life, faith and the supernatural. The power belongs to the believer to decide what we have in our world. We underestimate the power of permitting the enemy to steal and destroy. Havilah and Bill talk about how we often do not understand the struggles but faith is proven faith when the mystery remains. Want to learn how to preach? Take the survey here: https://goo.gl/forms/pQqqzm4ylhYzL0Ts2 –> You can connect with me online through all the social media links below Facebook: www.facebook.com/mrshavilah/ Twitter: twitter.com/mrshavilah Instagram: www.instagram.com/havilahcunnington/ –> You can also find lots of resources including books, Bible studies, online course and more at truthtotable.com. --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/havilah-cunnington/support

In this podcast episode, I want to share with you how we created our family values. I want to give you some tools that are working for us. This is not something I want you to idolize, it’s not a formula and it takes me a lot of effort to think about these things. Our family values: 1. Jesus is the center of our family. 2. Our family is a team, everyone counts. 3. We gather our family and friends around the table. 4. We are givers. We exist to give love and serve. 5. We value creating over consuming. 6. We steward our time, schedule and responsibilities. 7. We honor God by living healthy. 8. We live within our means and save for the future. 9. We value experiencing the world together and making lasting memories. 10. We live grateful lives by expressing thanks. I hope this helps you today! Keep going, you can even start today! Get your vision clear and spell it out. Figure out what works for you and do it! Thank you for giving me a few minutes of your day, I always appreciate it. --> You can connect with me

In this podcast episode, I am going to talk about setting healthy boundaries. Learning about healthy boundaries in my life set my world on fire in the best way possible. One of the biggest questions I get is “How do you do all that you do?” and my answer to that is “I don’t!”. But I do have very clear boundaries that allow me space to be me in a really crazy life. It’s no ones responsibility to know what they’re taking from you. You are the only one who knows whose taking from you and you need to be unashamed in your ability to say yes and no to fight for the things others will never know about. We can put a lot of blame on others for us being exhausted, overwhelmed and conflicted. Often we can expect others to put limits on us in order for us to say no. At the end of the day it’s no one else’s responsibility, we need to show up as adults and own our day and our responsibilities. --> You can connect with me online through all the social media links below Facebook: www.facebook.com/mrshavilah/ Twitter: t