Legally Clueless

In this episode of For Mannerless Women, Adelle sits down with Lolo Cynthia, a women’s rights advocate and unapologetic voice on women’s liberation, sexuality, and self-determination. Lolo shares her bold journey of becoming, from creating the persona of “Lolo” at 18 to embracing her true self today. She opens up about therapy as a catalyst for transformation, learning to trust her gut, and the revolutionary act of decentering men. Together, we unpack:Why proximity to power is not power.How to break free from performing for the male gaze.The pushback women face when they reject society’s rules.Practical steps to begin your own journey of becoming.This conversation is raw, unfiltered, and deeply affirming, reminding us that liberation is tough, lonely at times, but always worth it.✨ Join our community & keep up with Legally Clueless Africa:Newsletter: www.legallycluelessafrica.comInstagram: www.instagram.com/legallycluelessafrica/TikTok: www.tiktok.com/@legallycluelessafricaYouTube: www.youtube.com/c/Legal

In this Mid Week Tease, Adelle explores the characters children often adopt in dysfunctional families, the hero, the clown, the scapegoat, the lost child. These roles may have kept us safe as children, but they can trap us as adults, shaping our relationships, our sense of self, and even how we love. This episode dives into:What family dysfunction creates these childhood roles.The most common characters children adapt.The hidden cost of carrying them into adulthood.How to shed these roles and step into your true self.Navigating family relationships after you’ve stopped playing the part.Wellness Talk This SaturdayWe’ll be going even deeper into these themes at our upcoming Wellness Talk on Family Dynamics & Boundaries happening this Saturday, with therapist Faith Guchu.

This is Episode 340 of the Legally Clueless Podcast!We’re sharing the first part of Petronilla Njoki’s powerful story. From growing up in a single-parent household, navigating tough teenage years, and later stepping into motherhood, Petronilla opens up about the challenges she faced, including a traumatic delivery and the emotional rollercoaster of caring for her firstborn through serious health struggles. This episode is about resilience, faith, and the strength it takes to turn pain into purpose.✨ Listen out for:How growing up “raised by the wild” shaped Petronilla’s independence.The harrowing experience of premature labour and an emergency C-section.The mental and emotional toll of navigating postpartum depression and a child’s delayed milestones.✨ Wellness Talk Reminder:We’re creating an intentional space for African women to gather and reflect on boundaries, family dynamics, and emotional wellbeing.

In this bold episode of For Mannerless Women, Adelle sits down with author and mother of four, Felgonah Oya, who shares her powerful story of getting divorced at 31 with four young children. Felgonah opens up about:Walking away from a marriage despite family and societal pressure.The shocking reactions she faced from friends and relatives.The long, messy, expensive reality of divorce in Kenya.Her raw healing journey—allowing herself to grieve, get angry, and slowly rebuild.Rediscovering identity, love, and dating after divorce.Writing as a form of survival and her latest book I’m Healed, Send Me Another Man.This episode is a reminder that choosing yourself is not failure, it’s freedom.Tap in for an honest, unfiltered conversation about divorce, healing, identity, and living life on your own terms.Links:Newsletter signup: www.legallycluelessafrica.com/Instagram: www.instagram.com/legallycluelessafrica/TikTok: www.tiktok.com/@legallycluelessafricaYouTube: www.youtube.com/c/LegallyCluelessYoutubeStory submission

In this week’s episode of The Midweek Tease, Adelle dives into one of the hardest truths about healing: sometimes, the people who hurt us never apologize. We’ll talk about:Why not receiving an apology can trigger anger, sadness, or even self-doubtHow waiting for an apology keeps us stuck in the painPractical ways to start healing on your own termsWhy closure is something you can create for yourselfPlus, Adelle shares details on our upcoming Legally Clueless Africa Wellness Talk: a safe space to dig deeper into these themes, learn tools to nurture your healing journey, and connect with a community of women doing the work of unlearning and becoming.Tune in to remind yourself that your healing is not dependent on someone else’s silence.

In this week’s episode, we hear from Christine, a mother whose journey of raising two daughters with rare diseases shifted her life from corporate boardrooms to building a powerful advocacy movement. Key themes in this episode:Parenting through disability and rare diseases in Kenya.Why community and support matter more than money.How inclusion truly begins at home.Turning personal challenges into collective advocacyConnect with the organization Christine founded here:https://rarediseasekenya.org/ ✨ Wellness Talk Reminder:We’re creating an intentional space for African women to gather and reflect on boundaries, family dynamics, and emotional wellbeing.

In this powerful episode of For Mannerless Women, Adelle sits down with Mwanga, Senior Associate at Alakonya Law, to unpack the legal truths every woman needs to know, but often isn’t told. We go deep into:Why wills aren’t always the safest option, and why trusts might protect your loved ones betterHow to safeguard your children and yourself if your spouse passes awayThe legal steps to take immediately after losing a partnerYour rights in the workplace, from maternity leave to protection against discrimination and harassmentWhy keeping receipts could be your most powerful legal weaponWhether you’re married, divorced, widowed, or single, this episode is a must-listen for understanding how to legally protect yourself and your future. Listen now, your legal empowerment starts here.

This week’s episode is deeply personal, I’m sitting down with my therapist and dear friend, Faith Guchu, who will also be the guest speaker at our upcoming Wellness Talk on August 30th at 10AM EAT (Virtual). Faith has been instrumental in my own healing journey. In this candid conversation, we unpack:Why healthy boundaries with family can be so hard to build and how to start.The guilt, fear, and loneliness that often come with choosing your peace.Healing without the apology you may never get.Compassion fatigue & navigating the “sandwich generation” (caring for both parents and children).Rebuilding your true identity after shedding roles you adopted in childhood.If your family relationships in adulthood feel draining, complicated, or guilt-filled, this episode is for you.

In this episode of Legally Clueless, you’ll meet Rachel Lubanga, the eighth born in her family, born with albinism, and raised in Kakamega, Kenya. Rachel opens up about her journey through special and regular schooling, the stigma and myths she’s had to navigate, the mental health challenges that followed, and the bold ways she has advocated for herself and others.This episode also connects to themes we’ll explore at our upcoming Wellness Talk in Nairobi – from setting boundaries with family, to reclaiming your identity, to healing from the silence of those who should have supported you.

In this powerful episode of For Mannerless Women, Adelle sits down with Barbara Malowa, senior partner at Alakona Law and the lawyer who supported Adelle through her own divorce. Together, they unpack the legal truths that every woman should know about marriage and divorce in Kenya. From understanding the marriage contract, property rights, and parental responsibility, to navigating divorce timelines, court processes, custody, and protection from emotional and physical abuse, this conversation is raw, informative, and deeply necessary. Barbara also breaks down:The 4 legal grounds for divorce in KenyaWhat proof the courts actually requireWhy marriage is easier to enter than exit legallyThe real cost and timeline of divorceWhat to do if you’re being financially bullied or emotionally abusedHow to document and protect yourself even when you're still in loveWhether you're married, thinking of leaving, or want to be prepared, this episode is for every woman determined to live shame-free and fully informed.

This week’s Midweek Tease is all about building healthy boundaries with the people we love most, family and close friends. Setting boundaries can feel uncomfortable at first, especially when guilt, cultural expectations, and old family patterns are involved.But the truth is: boundaries are essential for your mental health and for healthier, more respectful relationships. In this episode:

In Episode 337 of the Legally Clueless podcast, we continue with Part 2 of Karima’s powerful story. In Part 1, she took us through her childhood growing up in the Akorino church, obedience as an expectation, ridicule in school, and her quiet acts of resistance. Now in Part 2, Karima shares her adulthood: her marriage, her decision to walk away, and why in 2025 she removed her turban, a bold step into living life on her own terms.In this episode:Why she walked away from her marriageHer warning about the reasons we enter marriageThe decision to remove her turban after years of wearing itHow her identity shifted outside the Akorino churchThe peace and self-ownership she’s found sinceThis week, we’re inviting you to a powerful LCA Wellness Talk with Counselling Psychologist Faith Guchu. Family relationships shift as we grow and sometimes, they get more complicated. In this virtual session, we’ll unpack:

This week on For Mannerless Women, Adelle is joined by certified fitness & nutrition coach Michelle Adagala to unpack the myths, mistakes, and truths about women’s health, fat loss, and muscle building. Michelle breaks down why the scale isn’t your biggest marker of success, the role of muscle in long-term health, and why strength training is essential for every woman, at every age. In this episode, you’ll learn:Why muscle is your best ally for fat loss, hormone balance & healthy agingThe truth about calorie deficits, plateaus & metabolic adaptationWhat your plate really needs to look like (yes, you can still eat chapati & pilau!)How to start strength training at home without expensive gym membershipsCommon myths that hold women back from sustainable resultsThis isn’t about shrinking yourself. It’s about fuelling a stronger, healthier, freer version of you.Want to go deeper?Michelle’s coaching details are here:https://thrivebymitchelle.com/www.instagram.com/ac_mitchelle

In this week’s episode of The Midweek Tease, Adelle unpacks a quiet fear so many of us carry: the fear of being seen trying. She explores how cultural conditioning, perfectionism, and comparison keep us hiding our first attempts. And she shares practical steps and resources to help you overcome this fear, so you can live a fuller, braver life. You’ll learn:✨ Why the fear of being seen runs so deep

In this episode, we begin Part 1 of a gripping, bold, and deeply personal story from Karima, who was born into the Akorino faith, wrapped in a turban from infancy, and told her life must be governed by obedience. But what happens when obedience comes at the cost of selfhood? Karima shares the emotional, spiritual, and social weight of growing up Akorino: the mocking stares, the silence she was forced to swallow, and the small, brave acts of resistance she carried in her pocket.In this episode you'll learn:What it means to have your identity chosen for you from birthThe shame, isolation, and bullying she faced at schoolHow fear of hurting her mother shaped her decisionsThe first time a boy finally spoke to her and why it matteredRebellion wrapped in denim: the power of wearing jeans as an Akorino girlWhy she kept performing even when the church said it was sinfulConnect with Karima here: https://www.instagram.com/lylowkarima/This is Part 1 of a 2-part story.Next week, we dive into the cost of resistance, spiri

This week on For Mannerless Women, Adelle is joined by body talk practitioner Janet in a deeply revealing conversation about how our bodies store unprocessed emotions, trauma, and grief, and how that silence can manifest into chronic illness. Janet shares powerful truths about the innate intelligence of the body and how we’ve been socialized to disconnect from it.This episode isn’t just about a therapy session, it’s a roadmap to reclaiming your health, your softness, and your self-awareness. You’ll learn:What your body is really trying to say through symptomsHow women’s overgiving often leads to depletion and diseaseThe physical cost of silence, grief, and not feeling safe to express emotionsThe connection between emotion and digestion, menstruation, and immunityHow body talk therapy helped Adelle unlock the emotional blocks tied to her voice, creativity, and healingWant to go deeper?You can connect with Janet here: https://www.instagram.com/overflow.wellness/

In this episode, Adelle Onyango unpacks what real community looks and feels like, far from the loud, performative, and inherited ideas we’ve been socialized into. She speaks candidly about the power of chosen family, the quiet loneliness of being surrounded but unseen, and the importance of intentionally building a nourishing support system. You'll learn:What makes authentic community so hard to buildFour signs you're in the wrong communityFive tips to create a community that truly supports who you're becomingWhy it's okay to outgrow people and start freshHow two people and a group chat can be enoughThis is your gentle reminder that community is not about numbers, it’s about nourishment, safety, and being deeply seen.Tap play. Then ask yourself: Who’s in your corner?Join Our Community:Sign up for the Legally Clueless Africa newsletter here:www.legallycluelessafrica.com/ Legally Clueless on Instagram:www.instagram.com/legallycluelessafrica/ Legally Clueless on TikTok:www.tiktok.com/@legallycluelessafrica Subsc

In this episode, you’ll hear a story that holds deep loss, raw honesty, unexpected pivots, and the powerful role community plays in our healing. Grace Wanjiku, shares her incredible journey, from sacrificing her education as a firstborn, to navigating grief after losing her brother, to reaching a breaking point with depression that almost cost her life. Through it all, Grace’s story reminds us that healing isn’t linear and sometimes, it’s the very people we think we’re meant to save who end up saving us.In this episode, Grace unpacks:Being the firstborn and carrying unspoken expectationsLosing her brother and spiraling into a faith crisisAttempting suicide and finding help in the nick of timeThe stigma around mental health and resisting hospitalizationDiscovering purpose again as an MC in a male-dominated spaceHow community, therapy, and spiritual honesty carried her throughThis story will stay with you. It’s a reminder that even in our darkest seasons, hope and healing can still find us.Sign up for the Legal

In this deeply affirming episode of For Mannerless Women, Adelle Onyango sits with board-certified psychiatrist Dr. Vundi, known as The Women’s Psychiatrist, to unpack how our hormonal phases shape our mental health.Together, they dismantle the shame, silence, and stigma around PMS, PMDD, postpartum depression, perimenopause, and more. Dr. Vundi brings her powerful combination of lived experience and clinical knowledge to offer practical insights for navigating womanhood with grace, information, and community. Whether you're menstruating, postpartum, perimenopausal, or simply tired of being told to “tough it out,” this conversation is your language, your mirror, and your toolkit.MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE:– Cycle syncing & targeted self-care– Nutrition tips for hormone balance– Magnesium, Vitamin D & sleep– Mental health support for PMS & PMDD– Perimenopause, menopause, & sexual wellness– Community, self-trust, and dismantling shame

The Midweek Tease — A Legally Clueless Africa ProductionIn this episode, Adelle Onyango, unpacks what it truly means to decenter men. She reflects on how this journey began in the quiet spaces of therapy and not with a bold Instagram caption and how she continues unlearning societal conditioning that told her she needed to be chosen to be worthy.If you’ve ever caught yourself performing for approval, living for someone else’s gaze, or shrinking your voice to fit in, this episode is your reminder: you were never meant to be someone’s accessory, you were meant to be whole.She also shares practical steps to begin your own decentering journey and the simple but radical ways she's reclaiming herself, from trusting her intuition to laughing without apology.Tap in and share this with another woman who is choosing herself.Join Our Community: