The Sonya Looney Show

In this Mindfulness in Action episode, I’m recording on a trail run and thinking out loud about something I’ve been re-examining in my own life: the pressure to constantly optimize and get better.We hear it everywhere: be more productive, improve every day, maximize your time. And while growth and striving for excellence matter, I’ve been noticing how easily that mindset turns into pressure, guilt, and a constant feeling of not doing enough.In this episode, I share how I’ve been unlearning that pattern, what it actually means to “strive well,” and why doing less can sometimes lead to better performance, creativity, and well-being.I also guide you through a simple mindfulness practice you can do while moving to help you notice:Where you’re putting pressure on yourselfThe inner voice telling you to do moreHow to reconnect with contentment in the middle of effortThe goal isn’t to stop growing, it’s to redefine what getting better actually looks like. If you’ve been feeling stuck in the cycle of always needing to

Sometimes it's hard to say what you mean. Oren Jay Sofer says, "Communication is a learnable skill and it’s one of the most powerful levers for making change in your life and the world." Non-violent communication is about taking responsibility for what we are experiencing using empathy, deep listening, know how to make requests.// This episode is a replay from the Sonya Looney Show. It originally aired October 22, 2020. //Author and renowned meditation instructor Oren Jay Sofer regularly teaches a mindful approach to non-violent communication. spent two and a half years of living as an Anagarika (renunciate) at branch monasteries in the Ajahn Chah Thai Forest lineage. Today, his teaching combines classical Buddhist training with the accessible language of secular mindfulness.  Since the early 2000s, Oren has had a deep interest in the relationship between contemplative practice and communication. A graduate of the BayNVC North American Leadership Training, he has taught classes and workshops in

What if the version of “success” you’ve been chasing is actually keeping you stuck in survival mode?In this episode, I sit down with author and coach Jon Rosemberg to talk about what it really means to move from high-functioning survival into genuine thriving. Jon shares his deeply personal story of growing up in Caracas, Venezuela, living in chronic vigilance, and eventually discovering that achievement and productivity were not the same thing as peace, agency, or well-being.This conversation hit me on a very personal level. So much of what Jon shares mirrors my own journey of questioning performance-based definitions of success, asking whether external accomplishments actually create the feeling I’m looking for, and realizing that thriving often has much more to do with connection, meaning, and agency than with metrics.We talk about the body’s role in helping us recognize survival mode, how to challenge the beliefs that keep us trapped in proving and performing, and Jon’s practical AIR framework: Awareness,

I’ve known Jenny Smith since the early 2000s, back when I was a brand-new pro mountain biker watching her absolutely dominate at Nationals. She’s been a mentor, a competitor, a mom who kept racing when that wasn’t common, and someone I’ve always admired for her longevity in sport.In this episode, Jenny and I talk honestly about aging as female endurance athletes, especially navigating perimenopause, hormone changes, recovery shifts, strength training, anxiety, inflammation, and evolving expectations.We discuss how training needs to change as estrogen fluctuates and why strength training becomes even more important for bone health, metabolic health, and performance. Jenny shares the reality of needing more recovery, setting goals that reflect your life stage and responsibilities, and how to embrace aging with flexibility, wisdom, and self-compassion instead of fear. Plus, we cover hormone replacement therapy and getting medical support.This conversation is for women who love endurance sport and want to keep pe

The most valuable skill I’ve ever learned isn’t about performance, mindset, or even resilience. It’s communication.In this solo episode, I’m teaching you one of the most powerful tools I use as a coach, mentor, professor at the University of Pennsylvania, keynote speaker, parent, and partner. It comes from motivational interviewing and it’s called OARS: Open-ended questions, Affirmations, Reflective listening, and Summarizing.These skills have completely changed how I show up in conversations. They’ve made me a better coach, teacher, partner, mom, and human.Motivational interviewing is a client-centered communication approach designed to guide people toward what matters most to them. Instead of telling someone what to do (which often undermines autonomy and competence), this framework helps people feel heard, understood, and empowered to make their own decisions.In this episode, I walk you through what active listening really means (and why most of us aren’t actually doing it) and how to ask open-ended questi

Many of us know what burnout looks like: exhaustion, cynicism, and the feeling that we simply can’t keep going. But there’s another state that shows up far more often and it’s easier to miss. It’s called brownout.In this episode, I sit down with Jessie Reese, leadership and executive development specialist and positive psychology practitioner, to unpack the critical difference between brownout and burnout, and why so many high-achieving people, especially women, are quietly living in that in-between space.Jess shares her environmental alignment model, a practical framework that helps you see how all parts of your life (work, caregiving, relationships, health, identity, and invisible labor) draw from the same energy reservoir. Together, we explore why adding more self-improvement often backfires, and why the most powerful move is often asking a different question: “What is the most impactful thing I can do to relieve pressure right now?”We also talk about the cultural pressure to “do it all,” why trying to mak

In this Mindfulness in Action episode, I’m sharing a spontaneous trail-side reflection on something that’s been very present for me lately: how we manage drive without burning out and how we stay truly connected in a world that keeps telling us to “go bigger.”I talk about rethinking social media impact, why I’m increasingly prioritizing local and real-time connection, and how and asking better questions can completely change the quality of our relationships. I also share some simple practices I’ve been using, like voice memos and short phone calls, to stay meaningfully connected without adding more pressure or noise.Synchronous, human connection matters so much for feeling valued. That's why I wanted to explore how curiosity helps us move beyond surface-level interaction, and why small, intentional shifts can have a bigger impact than trying to reach everyone, everywhere.I close with a short mindfulness practice you can do anywhere to help you reconnect with your body, reflect on when you feel most conne

One of the things I love most about podcasting is getting to have the conversations I wish more people could hear, especially the ones that normalize what so many of us quietly struggle with.I sit down with my friend and fellow MAPP grad Corinne Kneis, a psychotherapist and wellness educator whose work beautifully bridges empathy, mindfulness, ADHD, and anxiety.Corinne and I first met during the Master of Applied Positive Psychology program at the University of Pennsylvania, and I’ve long admired how she brings both science and humanity into her work. In this conversation, we explore what empathy really looks like in therapy and everyday life, why so many women mask ADHD with anxiety and perfectionism, and how mindfulness can help create space between emotional overwhelm and thoughtful response.We also talk openly about sensitivity, burnout, overfunctioning, and the strengths that often come with ADHD—like curiosity, passion, and love of learning. Corinne shares practical tools therapists use (and that anyone

Gratitude is one of the most researched, and misunderstood, topics in psychology.In this episode of Grow the Good, I sit down with Dr. Bob Emmons, one of the world’s leading gratitude researchers, for a candid, nuanced conversation about what gratitude really is, where it comes from, and how it shapes our striving, relationships, and sense of meaning.What makes this conversation especially rich is Bob’s journey. Long before he became known for gratitude research, his work focused on striving, goals, and purpose. It’s a foundation that deeply informs how he thinks about gratitude today. Bob and I explore how research often reflects our own life questions (“research is me-search”), and how gratitude emerged for Bob not just as an academic interest, but as a personal turning point.We unpack why gratitude isn’t about forced positivity, how entitlement quietly erodes well-being, and why authentic gratitude helps us see what (and who) we might otherwise take for granted. We also discuss the emotional depth of grati

In this special Mindfulness in Action episode, I’m sharing a very personal reflection from the trails of Squamish, BC where muddy puddles, forest quiet, and time on the bike create space for clarity.For the first time in over 22 years, I’ve made the decision to step away from competitive bike racing. Not because I can’t race, but because my life, priorities, and sense of fulfillment have shifted.In this off-the-cuff, honest conversation, I reflect on what it means to let go of an identity you’ve held for decades, how task-focused mindfulness has shaped my thinking, and why courage sometimes looks like choosing less instead of more.This episode isn’t just about sport. It’s about transitions, motivation, family, mattering, and learning to listen to yourself when something inside is asking for change.If you’re navigating a transition, feeling stretched thin, or questioning what really matters in this next season of your life, I hope this episode helps you slow down, reflect, and reconnect with what’s true for yo

What if improving your well-being didn’t require more time, effort, or productivity, but simply a deeper relationship with the world around you?I’m your host Sonya Looney, and in this episode of Grow the Good, I’m joined by nature connectedness researcher Dr. Holli-Anne Passmore and well-being practitioner Molly Peterson for a rich, science-backed, and deeply human conversation about how our relationship with nature shapes our mental health, meaning, and sense of presence.Together, we explore what nature connectedness really means, and why it’s not about hiking more miles or living in the wilderness, but about attention, intention, and emotional connection. Sonya shares personal stories about how nature has helped her regulate, heal, and reconnect during demanding seasons of life, while Molly and Holli-Anne bring powerful research and practical tools listeners can use immediately.This episode is for anyone feeling overstimulated, disconnected, or craving more meaning in everyday life, whether you live in the

Why do we sometimes feel mentally exhausted even when our bodies are rested? I’m your host Sonya Looney, and in this episode of Grow the Good, I’m joined by neuroscientist Dr. Scott Frey and former professional cyclist Brent Bookwalter to dig into the science of central (brain) fatigue, life transitions, and how to balance performance with well-being.Through stories from elite sport, neuroscience, and personal growth, Scott, Brent, and I explore how understanding brain fatigue can help us better navigate change, maintain motivation, and thrive through life’s transitions.I’ve been through this. You’ll hear about when I realized that my high need for mental stimulation was impacting my racing performance, and how learning about mental fatigue helped me reframe training and recovery in both sport and life.Whether you’re an athlete, professional, or parent trying to “do it all,” this conversation will help you understand your brain’s limits and unlock tools to work with your mind, not against it.Top 5 Takeaways:W

What makes relationships truly thrive, not just survive? In this episode of Grow the Good, I sit down with Suzie Pileggi Pawelski, positive psychology expert and co-author of Happy Together: Using the Science of Positive Psychology to Build Love That Lasts, to explore how strengths, gratitude, and intentional effort create lasting connection.Suzie shares her evidence-based framework for building flourishing relationships using character strengths, gratitude, and virtue. We talk about how to balance differences, embrace vulnerability, and move beyond “utility-based” love into Aristotelian “love of goodness.” I also share some of my own reflection, from learning to appreciate my husband Matt’s different strengths, to maintaining intimacy while raising kids.If you’ve ever wondered how to bring more meaning, patience, and joy into your relationships (romantic or otherwise), this conversation offers both science and heart.Top 5 Takeaways:Relationships Thrive on Strengths: Knowing and celebrating your and your part

Today I’m sitting down for an honest reflection about something I’ve been moving through lately: change, identity, and social connection.As I’ve transitioned away from professional mountain biking being the center of my identity, I’ve been exploring how to define value beyond performance, productivity, or outside validation. It’s been a humbling and deeply human process, one that I know so many of us can relate to.In this episode, I share some personal stories, research on well-being and mattering, and practical tools to help you strengthen your sense of connection and self-worth. We’ll talk about how belonging shapes our mental health, why asking for help takes real courage, and how to reconnect with the parts of yourself that don’t depend on achievement.If you’ve ever questioned your worth, struggled through a life transition, or wondered where you fit, this conversation is for you. Let’s grow through it together.LINKS:- Embracing Life Transitions with Ilene Schaffer- Adult Children of Emotionally Immature

Bringing meditation into daily life is a different beast. Today’s moving meditation will be short, simple—and really hard, because we’re taking meditation on the move so you can apply mindfulness to everyday activities like workouts or a quiet hike. In today’s episode, I break down how to shift from an ego-focused to a task-focused mindset during physical activities.I’ll guide you through techniques to anchor your focus, using sounds from your environment or your own breath, to help maintain mindfulness. This practice isn’t just about sitting quietly; it’s about integrating mindfulness into every part of your day. Whether you’re pushing through a tough workout or enjoying nature, I’ll show you how to keep your mind present and engaged.Here's what you'll learn:• Real-World Mindfulness: Learn to extend your meditation practice beyond the cushion and into dynamic activities.• Catching the Wander: Focus on recognizing when your mind drifts and gently guide it back without judgment.• Anchors of Focus: Di

What if resilience isn’t enough?In this episode of Grow the Good, I sit down with Dr. Nick Holton and Dr. Adam Wright, co-founders of the Antifragile Academy, to explore how to move beyond just surviving life’s stressors and instead use them to grow stronger. Nick and Adam share a science-backed, integrative framework that blends psychology, physiology, and purpose to help you thrive under pressure, navigate transitions, and build a more grounded sense of identity.We unpack the difference between resilience and antifragility, how to reframe volatility as a feature, not a flaw, of growth, and why thriving requires both distress tolerance and meaning. Whether you’re an athlete, a high performer, or simply someone who wants to show up better in life, this conversation will expand how you think about potential, identity, and well-being.Top 5 Takeaways:Antifragility vs. resilience: Resilience helps you bounce back; Antifragility helps you grow stronger through challenge.Thriving = pleasantness + distress tolerance

THIS EPISODE IS A GROW THE GOOD REPLAY // I'll let you in on a secret: communication is not just about talking and using words. It's about listening. Yes, the foundation of communication is being a good listener.As a health and wellness coach, I've received formal training in communication, plus recording over 350 hours of podcasts has been a master class in listening and communication.In today’s solo deep dive, I will share strategies and actionable practices to help you become a better listener, approach conflicts with a new mindset, and ultimately, improve your relationships through the power of mindful communication. Struggle with small talk? Stick around and I’ll share some tips to spark conversation in any setting.Throughout the episode, we'll draw upon insights from various books on parenting, relationships, and communication, such as nonviolent communication and growth mindset talk. I'll also share my own personal experiences and observations, shedding light on the practical a

GROW THE GOOD REPLAY // Though mental well-being is the cornerstone of high-performance, achieving the elusive harmony between mind and body can feel impossible. I recorded this moving meditation as a guide for being mindful while riding a bike; encouraging us to connect with different parts of our body and senses while riding to help us stay focused and present.Together, we'll unleash the potential of blending athletic pursuits with the power of meditation and discover new techniques and practices that will help you achieve the perfect balance between your mind and body. Let's hit the trails together and see if we can find our stride.Here are the key takeaways:What is Moving Meditation: Understand the basic concept, different forms, and why it is essential for athletes.Implementing Moving Meditation: Learn practical tips and techniques to incorporate moving meditation into your training routine. Real-Life Applications: Gain wisdom from personal anecdotes and lessons learned by an elite athlete prac

Transitions are inevitable. Whether it’s becoming a parent, shifting careers, retiring, or simply navigating unexpected change. But why do transitions feel so unsettling, and how can we meet them with more self-compassion and patience?In this episode of Grow the Good, I sit down with my friend and fellow MAPP grad, Ilene Schaffer, to explore the psychology of transitions. With more than 25 years of experience in counseling psychology, Ilene shares her wisdom on navigating endings, sitting with uncertainty in the “neutral zone,” and creating intentional new beginnings.We talk about what it means to let go of old identities, how to clarify your non-negotiables, and why patience and self-compassion are the keys to moving through life’s changes with resilience.Top 5 Takeaways:Self-compassion is essential in transitions, whether the change is chosen or not.The “neutral zone” between endings and beginnings is where reflection and growth take place.Defining non-negotiables helps guide decisions during uncertain time

On this special crossover episode of Grow the Good, I'm resharing a  conversation with Travis Macy from The Travis Macy Show. - - - - - - - The Travis Macy ShowEp. 195. Perfectionism, Purpose, and Letting Go with Sonya LooneyWhat does it really mean to accomplish something and why doesn’t it always feel the way we think it should?This week, I’m joined by my good friend, longtime pro mountain biker, and mindset coach Sonya Looney for a deep and honest conversation about something a lot of us wrestle with, perfectionism.Sonya and I dive into what it means to strive with purpose, how to redefine accomplishment through contribution instead of comparison, and why feeling like we matter isn’t always about metrics. We also talk about big transitions, like Sonya’s move from full-time bike racing to trail running and mental performance coaching—and the freedom (and fear) that comes with letting go of old identities.If you’ve ever been stuck chasing numbers, doubting your worth, or wondering if it’s okay to want s