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We talk about 2 communication traps couples fall into when they are talking about anything pertaining to their relationship. If you can avoid these 2 ways of communication you can solve a huge portion of your relationship problems.

How does someone become unfaithful? Is it something they are predestined to do or can it be prevented altogether? Are you raising an unfaithful child? How can you ensure that your child is able to have a healthy committed marriage even if you have not.

When do people officially throw in the towel and quit the relationship? Many people think it's the affair that causes the break up but that's not the case most of the time. There is so much more that destroys the relationship. In this episode we talk about what "done" and "checked out" really looks like.

Are some wounds so big that they can't be healed? Why is it that some people heal and others don't?

Why does my spouse lie? Many who experience infidelity struggle to understand why their spouse won't come out with the full complete truth while some will spill the beans at the drop of a hat. In this episode we talk about why people lie while others don't.

So many couples have no idea what's possible when it comes to long term healing. They merely scratch the surface when they recognize their negative cycle and understand emotion...but did you know that's only the start? In this episode we talk about super-primary emotion and what it can do for your marriage.

Picking up the pieces of your life after an affair can seem impossible in some ways. But this episode will help you to alter your thought process and inoculate yourself against the crazy feelings after infidelity.

In this episode we talk about how to forgive. So many people think that by forgiving they are somehow weak or saying that it’s okay to cheat. We help you to understand how you can forgive without sending the message that it’s okay to hurt you. healingbrokentrust.com/episode23

In this episode we answer the question “Brad how do I talk to my wife about this? She told me before I had this affair; I never want you to tell me if you have ever cheated on me. I don't want to know that because I have been betrayed by someone else before in the previous marriage.” Has your spouse said something like, “I will leave you if you ever cheat on me, if you ever sleep with anybody else, I'll leave you.” If you’ve heard this statement then this episode is a must listen episode! healingbrokentrust.com/episode22

Did you know that there are 10 different types of affairs? In this episode we outline the different types of affairs that people experience and how they are alike and how they are different. Understanding this one thing will transform the healing process for you. You will understand your partner and the situation so much better and that will expedite the healing process for you. Go to healingbrokentrust.com/episode21 for the downloads.

In this episode we help you take control of the destructive thoughts that keep you stuck in unhealthy patterns that keep you from post-traumatic growth. In particular we discuss abusive labeling, blaming, unfavorable comparisons, and more. Sometimes you need an outside source to point out what is true and what is just your mind playing tricks on you. We will give you simple things you can do to begin transforming your thoughts so you can take back your day, your week, your month, your year, and ultimately YOUR LIFE!

The ABC model of thought renewal, the lies we tell ourselves, and how our thoughts make a difference in how we feel This episode talks about renewing our mind and how we can sometimes wrongly personalize, assume, and catastrophize our situation and other things you must stop right now.

We answer questions: I would really like to know, how do you know you are recovering and what is the process?  What steps can I take to recover from the trauma? Knowing what to expect through the healing process is really important to making sure you fully recover from infidelity.  In this case, trauma is a stage of the healing process.  Inside of the trauma stage there are micro steps that if you understand then you will have an easier time healing and taking back your life.  Don’t miss this episode.

We answer the questions of: I have been struggling with my spouse’s affair for a year now. I just can't stop thinking about it and I have nightmares. I still feel like it happened yesterday. How do I know when I need to seek individual counseling? Is it possible to forget the affair and put it behind me? Is it important to deal with our past when we’re dealing with this present betrayal? How do I handle the intrusive thoughts? Symptoms of PTSD are further explained and triggers are better understood in this episode.

We answer the questions of: How do we work through our anger and talk about the affair without pushing the betrayer away? What you're doing that is making the trauma worse. What is PTSD? Why does it matter when recovering from infidelity? What specifically makes PTSD so hard to recover from?

In this episode Brad & Morgan a listener question: "I learned about my wife's affair with her co-worker two months ago. She has since stop seeing this person and is trying to help me heal, but I still can't seem to stop thinking about her with him. I feel obsessed with knowing what happened. My wife is becoming tired of answering the same questions over and over and I feel worried that she will leave me just because of my obsession with knowing what's happened. I feel like I am going crazy, why do I feel this way?" They address the questions of am I crazy? What’s wrong with me? How come I can't get over this? And what to do in the first 90 days.

Brad & Morgan answer a few listener questions in this episode.  One question is "I have been married to my spouse for 20 years. I would like to know how to fall back into love with my spouse."  We also discuss ideas to increase romance without pushing your spouse away after infidelity.

Brad: Almost every couple, there is a period of ambiguity, that uncertainty that they go through. Are we going to stay together or are we going to be done? I want to spend a few moments just talking about this, the most important things that effect ambiguity. And I would say on this, it is really the factors that influence uncertainty for a spouse to choose to stay and factors that affect the spouse who is going to leave. I want to just go over these because they can help save your marriage; help you guys work through this a little bit more on what the spouse who had the affair is thinking and the spouse who was betrayed, what they are considering. And these are things that I hear, by no means is this list exhaustive. I have got 20 different things here, there could easily be 40 things but I just want to go through this. One of the things that is really important for injured spouses that affects if they want to stay or go, is the amount of deception involved by the one who had the affair; the amount of decept

So many people struggle with feelings of ambiguity after discovering infidelity in their relationship. Many people want to know should I stay with my spouse or partner or should I leave? We talk about the pros and cons of both and give you sound advice on handling the feelings of should I stay or should I leave my marriage.

After the affair(s) life can feel like it's ending. Sometimes you just have no idea how to get back to normal. You still have to go to work and take care of children and you can't just stay in bed and nurse your own wounds. You have to go about normal life even though you're wrecked. So this episode is all about ways to manage the crisis after infidelity.