Inner Hoe Uprising

The hoes chat about expressing gratitude, Zaya Wade, puberty blockers and the mental healths of young trans kids, what to do when your date robs a bank, what to do when the comedy show date turns dark, dealing with jealousy, finding your g-spot and much more!  Hoe(s) of the Week:  Tawanna (aka Tawee-wee), Matina (aka Martini), Tamaj (aka Panini), BigEYEKnows All (#MustStayWoke...niggas creepin), Camillion Here Camillion There Tougher than Nigerian Hair, T Ray Ray, Vana Rosas Aguirre (aka Bad Bitch contest u in first place), Erika (aka Pretty Ricky), Kristen Doherty (KD!), Black Poly Pride: (you down wit BPP)   Bae of Week: Courtney Brame of Something Positive for Positive People Podcast Self Care Tip: reach out to someone who you feel like you should have thanked/expressed gratitude to Fuck That (Currents Events): Bills targeting trans kids are getting defeated in state legislatures and the date that turned into a bank heist.  Puberty blockers, gender affirming surgies, suicide rates in trans teen

The hoes chat about how to ghost and let people know you’re only DTF with care, the new bill thats been introduced in congress to study the safety of sex workers, dating people who complain TOO fucking much, biphobia, battling back against self deprecation PLUS we watch some awful porn together.  Hoe(s) of the Week: Camille (aka Camillion here Camillion there tougher than Nigerian hair) and Sydnee D (aka Syd Deez Nutz)  Self Care Tip: Check out @whatswrongwithmollymargaret on Instagram for texting templates on how to deal with potentially awkward sexual and romantic conversations and how to put certain identifiers on your dating app profiles Fuck That (Currents Events): Sex in the snack aisle: Gas station faces possible closure over porn video  Points of discussion include: pornhub, exhibitionism, and the porn star @fellarunitall, men centric pornography  PoliDICKZ: Elizabeth Warren on Criminal Justice Reform (sex work, the violence against women act, rape kit backlogs and more)  Fuck Me (Our Li

The hoes chat about the life and times of Bayard Rustin -- the Black gay civil rights leader who went to jail 70 years ago kinda just for being gay, cute dates for film nerds and history buffs, how rape culture hurts men, sexuality and anti-depressants, sexuality, weight, face sitting and body image, and much more! Hoe(s) of the Week:  Terrell J (tee ray ray), Raymah, Ash, and Tawanna, & Dyme 203 Fuck That (Currents Events): California lawmakers ask Governor Newsome to posthumously pardon gay civil rights leader Bayard Rustin.  Other points of discussion: Adoption in lieu gay marriage, anti-sodomy laws, MLK, Adam Clayton Powell Jr, and the conspiracy to stop the March on Washington. Fuck Me (Our Lives): Rodecka: Face sitting, Body image, and being comfortable with my own weight Rob: My journey with Sex and SSRIs (Anti-depressants) and a new found love of masc on masc porn Sam: Contemporary Art by white people is so weird sometimes. Cute Date Suggestion: Have  a Black women movie marathon Fu

The hoes chat about how folks in 2020 are defining and navigating political beliefs on dating apps,  shame and nuanced approaches to dating, losing friendships after pregnancy, and much more! Hoe(s) of the Week:  Emeka and Danielle E. Self Care Tip: A reminder:  Be gentle with yourself.  Fuck That (Currents Events): How dating app users are considering their personal politics when it comes to finding potential partners.  Topics Include: Tinder, OK Cupid, Climate Change, and Sam’s deep personal shame.  Fuck Me (Our Lives): The #HowSamanthaGotHerGrooveBackChallenge, Bad Boys 3, Personal growth, and Sam’s deep personal shame. Fuck You (Your Lives):  I feel disowned by my friends after giving birth to my first child, help! Topics include: Grieving friendships, pregnancy, navigating relationships with depression, life stages, and a tad bit more on Sam’s deep personal shame.  HASHTAGS Use #InnerHoeUprising and #Podin to keep up with this conversation on social media and let others know that you ar

The Hoes chat about why you don’t need to stay hard for 4 hours, how antiquated ideas about sex and sexuality hurt da boys, the new Netflix film about a Black Cam Girl in the early 90s, group sex, and shitting yo pants.  Hoe(s) of the Week: Kitty L and Amber R.  Self Care Tip:  Manage your expectations Fuck That (Currents Events): The man who took bull stimulant to stay hard and the new book that reveals some obvious truths about what sex, love, and dating means to young men.  Viagra, erections, the pressure to stay hard. Peggy Orenstein’s “Boys & Sex: Young Men on Hookups, Love, Porn, Consent, and Navigating the New Masculinity,” and a brief tangent on the Aaron Hernandez documentary.  Fuck Me (Our Lives): Group Sex, sometimes you soil yourself in front of your partner and thats okay, being “jazzed to date,” and Numa Perrier’s new film Jezebel HASHTAGS Use #InnerHoeUprising and #Podin to keep up with this conversation on social media and let others know that you are listening.  SPONSOR(S)

The hoes chat about sleep, the young Black sex trafficking victim who’s facing life in prison for killing her trafficker, nude models and body shapes, dating while misanthrope, and PoliDICKZ aka your run down where the candidates stand on sexuality and gender.  Hoe(s) of the Week: Tamika and Elizabeth Self Care Tip: Akua gives tips on how to improve the amount and quality of sleep that you’re getting  Fuck That (Currents Events): Justice for Child Sex Trafficking victim facing life in prison for killing her trafficker — Chrystul Kizer Fuck Me (Our Lives): Sam doesn’t like people but thought Parasite was great film.  PoliDICKZ: A break down on Julian Castro’s proposed policies on sex, love, gender, sexuality and race — and why they’re important  HASHTAGS Use #InnerHoeUprising and #Podin to keep up with this conversation on social media and let others know that you are listening.  SPONSOR(S) You can smell amazing, be toxin free, & save 20% off your first Native Purchase by using the promo co

Happy New Year! The hoes chat about porn watching habits of 2019, media literacy, Butt Stuff, Anti-depressants and sex, the Get Sam’s Groove Back Challenge and much more!  Hoe(s) of the Week: @Wowow_vanaa and all the signal boosting homies, Our Patrons, Alia Sterns, Yewande A. Whitley H, Alicia T, and Kyrstal C Self Care Tip: Practice Lateral Reading, Media Literacy and Fact Checking  Fuck That (Currents Events): PornHubs annual user data round up and Vice’s annual “what people are putting in their butts” round up.  Fuck Me (Our Lives): How Samantha Got Her Groove Back Challenge Rob’s SSRI & Sex Journey Akua has a dating blockage  Fuck You (Your Lives):  I still have feelings for my ex International bae even though I’m in a new relationship. What should I do? HASHTAGS Use #InnerHoeUprising and #Podin to keep up with this conversation on social media and let others know that you are listening.  SPONSOR(S) Get accessible, affordable, private therapy online with Better Help. For 10% off your fi

The hoes do a deep dive on what sex, love, and dating has looked like in 2000s and the 2010 and predict what’s to cum in the 2020s. Bae(s) of The Week: Sam’s Fav Podcasts Podcasts you should listen while we are on break: QueerWOC, BagLadiez, Marsha’s Plate, Tea with Queen and J, A Little Juju Podcast, Ms. Vixen, Man Up, Flash Forward, The Black Guy Who Tips, Sexually Liberated Woman, 1619 Project, Stush an’ Bush, Not Yet & In Those Genes  Hoe(s) of the Week: Everyone who made this season possible Self Care Tips:  Listen to your inner dialogue and continue journaling Cute Date Idea: Please have a roaring twenties themed New Years party and speak in the accent.  Fuck That (Currents Events): The Hoes review the decades 2000-2009 and 2010-2019 from the lens of sex, love and dating. And then give some futuristic predictions of what sex, love and dating will look like in the 2020s 2000s: Madonna & Brittany, Girls Gone Wild, Online Dating, Dating Shows, Gay Marriage, The Pregnant ManSex Tapes, Po

Two Spirit Trans Femme Indigenous Rock Star Quiahuitl Villegas joins IHU to talk about growing up queer and punk, having a spiritual gender awakening, reconnecting with indigenous roots, Traditional Afro Latinx Music and much more!  Hoe(s) of the Week: @turtlexxo, veryone who wished us happy bidet; Angela D, NCSD Folks (Lakita, Leandrea, Matt, David, Desiree), PLUS Sophia and Chloe and Annie, and all of our new listeners  Self Care Tips: Flex & strengthen your introspection muscle Cute Date Idea: Attend a glass blowing or ornament making class to make a shared decoration for you and bae.  Fuck It (Topic of the Day):  Quiahuitl — a two spirit trans femme musician and educator —  joins us to discuss her gender, sexual, musical, cultural and life journey.  Points of discussion include: Growing up In Tuscon Arizona, the (false) gender binary, Yoreme, Yoeme, Yaqui, Mayo, Aztec, assimilating into whiteness, the early 2010s, punk rock aesthetics, Salvador Bahia Brazil, Samba, Cumbia, decolonizing,

Scientist, Youtuber, Intersex person, and Gayest of all Gays, Babalwa Mtshawu joins Akua and Sam to discuss her journey being an Intersex queer person living in South Africa First, Sam and Akua give some intersex 101, including definitions, condition descriptions, and misconceptions.  Points of interview discussion include:  Discovering that you are intersex, South Africa Khossa, Family dynamics, Coerced Intersex surgery, Androgen insensitivity syndrome, The Medical Industry and surgeons, Menopause, Hormone Replacement Therapy, coming out as intersex, pity, exotification, being a touch-me-not, body shame, sexual harassment, genetics, dealing with doctors, family secrets,  HASHTAGS Use #InnerHoeUprising and #Podin to keep up with this conversation on social media and let others know that you are listening.  RELEVANT LINKS AND NOTES Bad Bitch Affirmations: https://www.eventbrite.com/e/bad-bitch-affirmations-tickets-76587381921 Intersex 101 Notes: https://isna.org/faq/ RadioLab Gonads Series: https:/

Note: The guest of this episode now goes by Arrows Fitz and uses he/him/they/them pronouns.  Filmmaker, model, and Youtuber Ari Fitz joins IHU to talk about their gender journey to coming out as non-binary, growing up queer, sex on reality TV, navigating accountability on twitter ad much more!  Bae(s) of The Week: INNER HOE UPRISING!  Hoe(s) of the Week:  Lucky W, Whitney, Tamika C. Self Care Tips: Have monthly check in’s with yourself and your partner(s) Cute Date Idea: Make weighted blankets together Fuck It (Topic of the Day): Ari Fitz joins IHU to discuss their gender journey.  Points of discussion include: Processing ones gender and sexual identity in childhood, androgyny, harmful queer archetypes,  being kind to yourself, being on reality TV whilst Black and queer, f*cking on national TV, growing and learning in the public eye, coming to the conclusion that you’re non-binary, coming out on the internet, getting canceled on Twitter, navigating hurt, harm and accountability on the internet, attrac

The Hoes chat about science baes, getting away in nature, seasonal affective disorder, anti-depressants and sex drive, hiring a sex worker, body hair, coming out to your child, virginity pacts, and more! Bae(s) of The Week: @lab_shennanigans & Dr. Nadya Mason Hoe(s) of the Week: Happy Birthday Tamika C! & Kai P, Kitty L, ImSoLovelee, Ashlee Blackwell & Xavier G Self Care Tips:  Akua gives some tips on how to help combat seasonal affective disorder  Cute Date Idea: Go for a getaway in nature Fuck That (Currents Events): “Female First” Razor Brand encourages women to grow their mustaches, movember and cis normativity in advertising campaigns.  Fuck Me (Our Lives): Rob: I’m on Zoloft and my sex drive has declined  Akua: After 2 years without sex I miss it again. How to hire a sex worker and navigate sex without forming attachments? & Low-key coming out to my son.  Fuck You (Your Lives):  My sapiosexual boyfriend is abstaining from sex until marriage. How do I satisfy my sex driv

On the eve of Halloween Afrofuturist, Scholar, Visual Artist and Ultimate Philly Jawn Zalika U. Ibaorimi joins Rebecca and Sam to discuss horror, technology, Afro Surrealism, sexuality, Christianity and much more!  This is the part in our #OccultOctober series Bae(s) of The Week: @thouartanuli and @kieraplease and special shout out to @mototcityprettycreative Hoe(s) of the Week: @Wittywit & Jasmine MP  Self Care Tips: Take a Kink Test With your partner. & If you’re broke stay your ass at home (aka manage your finances)  Cute Date Idea: Go Hiking and attend a cider festival  Fuck It (Topic of the Day): Zalika U Ibaorimi joins the hoes to have an imaginative on Afrofuturism, Horror, Afro Surrealism, Christianity, Ifa, Digital Spaces, the End of the World and much more.  Points of discussion include Afrofuturism, Sexual Shame,Slasher Films, “Teeth”, “Carrie”  Trauma & Sex, “Catfish”, Digital Intimacy, Is Social Media “Real”?, Frictionless sharing, Instagram Aesthetics Desirability and B

Filmmaker, Goth/punk bad ass and Horror film connoisseur Monika Estrella Negra joins Sam to talk about the intersections of Black Womanhood, Queerness & Horror. Bae(s) of The Week: @AmorousEbony Hoe(s) of the Week: Waciuma Maina, Mel Lady, Gustavo Self Care Tips: Take a Self Care Quiz Cute Date Idea: Attend a mixology class with bae Fuck It (Topic of the Day):  Filmmaker and Horror film expert Monika Estrella Negra and Sam speak about the horror genre from the lens of Black Queer Womanhood.  Points of Discussion Include: What is the horror genre, transgenerational trauma, socioeconomic trauma, death, grief, the macabre, Goth Black kids, Haunted places,  Blackness and Horror,   Blaxplotiation films, Black Women and Queer Folks in Horror films, Tokenism, The Black experience watching horror films versus the white experience, Black Final Girls, Audre Lorde, A list of Horror must-watch films and much more! Films mentioned: Hell Raiser, Friday the Thirteenth, The Shinning, Tale of Two Sisters, Mi

Akua and Sam give you a quick rundown of Horror film genres to prep you for todays episode “Black Women are THEE Final Girls” with Monika Estrella Nega. 

Witch, Cunty Conjurer, and podcaster Juju Bae joins Rob and Sam to talk about all things at the intersections of African Traditional Religion and sex.  Bae(s) of The Week: Shelly Ann Fraser Pryce, Simone Biles, and Allyson Felix Hoe(s) of the Week: October Sex Trivia Attendees  Cute Date Idea: Try on Halloween Costumes  Fuck It (Topic of the Day):  Juju Bae joins the hoes to talk about Hoodoo, Ifa, and sex, love, and dating thru the lens of spirituality.  Points of Discussion include:  African Traditional Religions;  Ifa, Hoodoo, Espiritismo, Palo; Healing; Communicating with the dead; Gender and Sexual Queerness in African Traditional Religions ; Ancestors who pop up during sex; White and abusive ancestry; Reiki and Divination; Sex Magic, Orgasm Portals, and Manifestation; Glamour workings to amplify sex; Binding to people; Dating as a medium; Living people in romantic relationships with the dead; Hatian Vodou and Loas; Marrying deities; Ancestral trauma; Spiritual boundaries; Hoodo misconception

On a very spooky episode of Inner Hoe Uprising all four hosts come together over a metaphorical campfire to trade hoe-rror stories. Think “Lore” meets “Are You Afraid of the Dark” meets hoe-tales. Bae(s) of The Week: The Carnival KVNG @omgitsalphie Hoe(s) of the Week: Samantha B., Carla P., Melissa C., Aida J., Chris J., Carly & LoveAlwaysANg Self Care Tips: Make your house (or room or sleeping space) a home Cute Date Idea: Hit up The Worst Case Scenario Experience in Philly or hit up a survivalist course in your home town.  Fuck It (Topic of the Day):  IHU trades and react to three horror stories in the realm of sex love and dating. They are: The Phantom Fuckboy Thread by twitter user @CaIiKapowski “Viv’s Revenge . . . Or How the Douen Came to Love Herself” by Debra Providence & “Addicted” by Zane Themes include: Getting flewed out, rappers, Blueface, J’Ouvert, Carnival, Carribbean, Duppies, Sexual Harassment, Breakups, Shapeshifting, Duppies, Stalking, Graves, Revenge & more!

Rob and a Sick Sam are together to chat about navigating trauma in relationships, dating burn out, solo polyamory, getting ghosted and more! Bae(s) of The Week: Roselyn of Loving Solo  Hoe(s) of the Week: Lis20182019, Zuri Love, & @S_Hero4Hir Self Care Tips:  Get comfortable with discomfort Cute Date Idea: have a chilli making competition Fuck That (Currents Events): Is there a Gay Gene? Fuck Me (Our Lives): ROB Self Doubt and Negativity in a Relationship How to Vent to your partner Going thru therapy while in a relationship When to reveal your traumas in a relationship SAM Maybe dating won’t ever be for me. I want to date just to experience it but ya’ll won’t let me be great. Fuck You (Your Lives):  I go over to people’s homes but they won’t have sex with me, help and how to navigate hook ups.  My partner won’t touch me and why don’t you hoes talk about more queer experiences? & How should I reach out to the person who ghosted the f*ck outta me? HASHTAGS Use #InnerHoeUprising and

Journalist, Activist, and Sex Worker N’Jalia Rhee aka The Blasian Bytch joins the hoes to discuss life after a coma, the pressure to go into vanilla work, pro-sex worker activism, race, gender, ethnicity and size in sex work and much more!  Bae(s) of The Week: The FDNY woman graduates Hoe(s) of the Week: Yewande A., Anna T. Christina C. Zeziljah P. Lakisha W, Samantha B, Carala P V, & Melissa C Self Care Tips: Ground. Yourself with a non-fiction novel Cute Date Idea: Plan each others thrifted outfits and go plant shopping Fuck It (Topic of the Day):  Journalist, Activist, and Sex Worker N’Jalia Rhee aka The Blasian Bytch joins the hoes to discuss her 10+ years as a sex worker of many varieties. Points of discussion include:  Waking up from a coma, dancing, stripping, caming, phone sex, sugaring, the “whorearchy”, whoreophobia, racism, misogyny, & fatphobia in strip clubs, “extras”, the recession of 2008, Craigslist and Backpage, corporate America, Being Blasian & the implications of ra

Your Big Titty Goth JoyFriend  This week Zuri Love -- a Black non-binary goth nerdy babe chats with Akua and Sam about  escorting, full service sex work, companionship, and other forms of sex work. Bae(s) of The Week:  Marquise Wilson  Hoe(s) of the Week:  Vicki W, Carly, Jason G, Destiny E, Rosemary & KWezt, Tampa Hoes Notorious Vick, The Lone Ranger, Clit tv, and our potential people from Virginia, @daninicole, @_dooleynoted_, @NikaMiraEst, @HighQPersephone (asha), djyellabone, Joi_not_joi, Imsolovelee, tiffpeso, @anaspanikopita, @butimvikki, @GGEastLDN, @NotGeauxGabby, @MostDopeDanay, @ambivalentaddis, @LocGoody, @I_am_NJS, @MissxLita Self Care Tips: Put sleep, dates, getting together with friends and other enjoyable activities into your to-do list  Cute Date Idea: Grabs some disposable cameras and go on a photo walk  And if you’re in the NYC Long Island area hit up the A Kitten Kadoodle Coffee Cafe Fuck It (Topic of the Day): Zuri Love chats with the hoes about their experiences as an