Eft/tapping Q & A Podcast W/ Gene Monterastelli - Emotional Freedom Techniques

Work with Gene - 4 Month Program Detials In podcast #204 I showed you a straightforward technique that you can use to tune into the emotional states that you would like to have as you move through the day. This week’s podcast is something I use to help me to tune into the type of person I would like to be. The script I have used is very personal and is inspired by my Catholic faith so I don't expect it to be helpful for everyone. If it works for you, great! If changing the language makes it work for you, great! If it doesn't work for you at all, not to worry! Come back next week for something else that might be helpful. The tapping script can be found below or you can download the pdf.

The Center For Nonviolent Communication created one of my favorite tools, the feelings inventory, which I used a great deal when working with the incarcerated. I found that the men I had the opportunity to work with lacked vocabulary when it came to describing emotions. Even though their emotional experience was highly nuanced, they had only a very limited way of talking about it. Talking about and creating change is difficult with a limited emotional vocabulary because our experience can only be described in stark and blunt terms. In working with these inmates I found that when I spent time with a comprehensive list of emotions it deepened my understanding of my own experience, which helped me to transform my emotional state. This week I share a simple tool with you to help transform your emotional state. If you have ever thought "I don't know what to tap on" or "I don't know where to start" then this is the tool for you.

Work with Gene one-on-one! In my own life I have found that my level of confidence has less to do with how good I am at something and much more to do with how comfortable I am with myself at a given moment. I think it is a mistake to believe that all we need to do is get better at something to be more confident. In reality confidence is all about who we allow to be the judge our success. No matter how good we are we will not feel confident if we judge success based on what others think. This week we tap to shift mentally how we see our actions moving from judging our success based on other's interpretation of events to our own. 33% off your first order of Pain Relief Miracle

33% off your first order of Pain Relief Miracle "In most pursuits, one's self is one of the biggest hurdles to get over. You can't pursue something and be committed to it if you're apologizing for it at every party." – Lisa Kudrow, Vasser Commencement Address, 2010 For some reason part of us believes that it is not proper to want more. Maybe it is because we recognize that we already have it better than so many other people. Maybe it is because we have been taught that we should know our place. Maybe it is because we don't want to jinx our dream by saying it out loud. Regardless of the reason, there is often something in us that feels ashamed of our dreams and ashamed of wanting more than we already have. Not only does this prevent us from striving for more, it also adds the emotional burden of feeling shame, my least favorite emotion. Here is a simple tap-along to help you feel more comfortable with your dreams, which will lead to meaningful action.

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I hear it all the time from my clients when we are tapping together. We’ll finish a round of tapping and they will report that while we are tapping their critical voice is saying the exact opposite to our tapping phrases. I know how frustrating this can feel, but in reality it is one of the best outcomes to happen when you are tapping. That seems counterintuitive, but it is quite true! Listen here to see why and how you can leverage this to get more out of your tapping.

Making big decisions can be difficult because the choices aren't always clear-cut and there may be many pros and cons to consider. When this happens it can cause us to seize up and fail to make a choice at all. Here is a tap-along audio to help you clear your head and make the best choice you can.

As humans we are skilled at learning from our past. This also means that we can be overly critical and spend too much time beating ourselves up over poor choices we have made in the past. Part of us resists self-forgiveness because of the concern that we will repeat the same mistake over and over again. Here is a tap-along audio to help you stop beating yourself up for the past and know that you have learned the lessons from your mistakes.

There is an amazing contradiction that exists for most people who use EFT. On one hand we know how powerful it is. On the other hand we don't use it as much as we could. I have even heard many clients report that there are times when they actively resist tapping. Just last week I had a client tell me: I knew I should tap because my emotions were getting the best of me. While thinking this there was a part of me that just said "No! I refuse to tap." It was almost as if there was a small child inside of me that was throwing a temper tantrum refusing to do it. There is a very good reason why we resist tapping. Here is why we struggle AND what you can do about it.

Here in the United States the unofficial beginning of holiday season happens tomorrow with Thanksgiving. As much fun as the holiday season can be it is also a time of stress and overwhelm. There is a never ending list of tasks that need to be done to get ready for the holidays AND it seems every night of the week there is another holiday party to attend. It can quickly become too much. Here is a simple tap-along audio help you manage the holiday craziness.

It is that time of year again (at least in the northern hemisphere) where every time you turn around there is another person coughing or sneezing. I have found tapping is a great way to keep these seasonal bugs at bay and to help to get healthy once you have gotten sick. This week I have the tapping script I use to get and stay health. I have provided both a pdf and audio of the script. Please feel free to share these as far and wide as you would like. Download the tapping script pdf!

One of the most common questions I receive is “Where should I start? I have so many issues to tap on that I feel paralyzed. What should I do?” This is a great question. The truth is there is no one place to start, but it is much more important that you do start. I know how intimidating tapping can feel the first time you are trying it on your own. You want to get it exactly right. You feel self conscious because you it feel and looks weird. As you do it, you will feel more comfortable. As you feel more comfortable, it will be easier to do. In this week’s podcast I have for you a process that is great for new and experienced tappers alike. For new tappers it will provide a great guide to help you get your feet under you. For experienced tappers it will help to uncover new issues that need to be tapped on. To do this process you will need to go to EFTSetupPhraseGenerator.com/ Listen to the podcast first, then go to the site to try it out.  

Recently I was reminded of the Joan Didon quote “Self-respect is a discipline, a habit of mind that can never be faked but can be developed, trained, coaxed forth.” I find this quote so encouraging because helps me to recognize that self-respect is a point of view about myself that I can cultivate. This week I have for you some tapping that will help you (and me!) recognize that we are worthy of self-respect. Below you will find both a tap-along audio and the tapping script. I choose to know I am worthy of respect…I choose to know that I am worthy of respecting myself…I don’t need to do anything to prove that I am worthy of self-respect…I am made for self-respect…I don’t need to do anything to gain my self-respect…I know I am not perfect…I know I make mistakes every day…I know there are things in my life I would like to improve…Even though I am not perfect…I am worthy of self-respect…I am worthy of seeing that I am good…I am worthy of seeing that I am lovable…It is possible to see that I am worthy and still k

In survey after survey public speaking finishes near the top of the list of people’s greatest fears. It’s a fear that can hold us back professionally and can cause us much anxiety and discomfort ahead of having to speak in front of groups. Most basic tapping and EFT trainings teach that when we fear something we should look for the first time we had a bad experience. The problem with doing this when it comes to public speaking is that often the moment in our past that taught us that public speaking was dangerous had little or nothing to do with public speaking. In this week's conversation I talk with EFT Founding Master Tania A. Prince about the many different root causes that can lead to a fear of public speaking and how we can tap for them. Guest: Tania A. Prince EFT Master Contact: web @ eft-courses.co.uk, e-mail @ contact page Biography: Tania is an EFT Master (one of fewer than thirty in the world). She has extensive experience of using EFT with clients and has worked on a vast range of issues, including

(At least here in America) one of the most common pieces of advice you’ll hear for overcoming fear is to "just grit your teeth and fight your way through it!" That advice is plain silly! Fear is not something we should simply muscle through. Instead, it is a primitive emotion that does everything it can to keep us safe. This week I have a conversation with Dr. Mary Ayers who was in exactly that situation. She had to do something that scared her and was told by those around her that she just had to overcome the fear and get on with it. She decided to take another path. She faced the fear head on, figured out why it was there, and removed it. Not only does Mary share her own experience of transforming fear, she shares how she did it AND how you can do it too. Guest: Dr. Mary Ayers Contact: web @ TapIntoAction.com; web radio @ The Chickenshits Guide to Success; facebook @ Tap Into Action About Mary: Dr. Mary Ayers knows how to get people un-stuck! With her years of experience as a therapist and a coach, you won'

[This week's podcast is sponsored by Pain Relief Miracles. Receive 30% off your first purchase.] Perfectionism is tricky. At its core perfectionism is motivated by wanting everything to be just perfect, because when everything is perfect it becomes manageable. Making life manageable is great but the problem is that it will never be perfect. And when things are not perfect we can very easily fall into beating ourselves up for “failing” to meet impossible standards. This week I have a tap-along to help us be gentler with ourselves for not being perfect, and to forgive ourselves for being unable to reach unattainable goals.

It is not uncommon for us to pick up the emotional beliefs or emotional burdens of our loved ones. In most cases we don't even realize we are doing it. Emotional beliefs are often formed when we are children because we are so impressionable at a young age. We usually shoulder the emotional burdens of loved ones out of the desire to care for or protect them. At a certain point we realize that we must let these go in order to be healthy. This week I have a tap-along to help you to release emotional burdens and beliefs that are not serving you. Even if you don't think you have experienced either of these I encourage you to tap through this audio because we often don't realize what we are carrying emotionally. I would love you to share your experience of this tap-along in the comments below.

There two common misconceptions in understanding how grief affects us. First, many people believe that the 5 stages of grief as defined by Elisabeth Kübler-Ross (denial, anger, bargaining, depression and acceptance) are the way humans always experience grief. Second, many people believe that grief is only experienced around extreme events, such as the death of a loved one. Grief is a much more complicated and subtle process than those two perceptions would lead us to believe. In this week's interview with Sherry O'Brian we talk about the many different ways that we may experience grief and how we process it. I am guessing if you haven't had a loved one die recently you are thinking that this podcast isn’t for you. But I encourage everyone to listen to this because more than likely grief is present in your life in an unexpected way and you will find this conversation very helpful. Guest: Sherry O’Brian Contact: web @ mindbodyspirit-innergrations.com About: Sherry O’Brian, LCSW, DCEP is a psychotherapist who ha

Sometimes we get caught up in our emotions and make poor choices that we later regret. We want to make the best choice, we know what the best choice is, and we still let our emotions get in the way. We can know exactly what triggers us and even when we spend time tapping on an issue that triggers us emotionally, we can still find ourselves highly emotional in a moment when these issues come up again. This week I share how you can tap for these instances so that you will be happy with your choices as the emotions come up. Make sure you listen to see why I have chosen the artwork in this post.

My clients are always telling me that they would like to tap every day but have a hard time making it a habit. One of the reasons I think people struggle with creating a daily tapping habit is that they don't know what to tap for. And because they don't know where to start they feel silly or frustrated and so they don't do it. My friend Wendy Merron has created a wonderful tapping process for the beginning and ending of the day that she calls "AM/PM Tapping". I love its simplicity and find that it’s the perfect way to start and end a day. You can download a printout of the process here Below you can hear Wendy describing the process and also hear us tapping through it so you can tap along too. Contact: web @ TheCenterOfSuccess.com/ ; book @ Powerful Thinking on Purpose About: Wendy Merron is a Board Certified Hypnotist (BCH), Certified National Guild of Hypnotist Instructor, Adjunct NGH Faculty Member, and founder of the Greater Philadelphia Chapter of the National Guild of Hypnotists. She teaches the NGH Hyp