Reach - Then Teach

Dear Hannah, So how do you deal with the frustration that accompanies feeling like you are not being heard? I have no answers. I do have an approach that I am still LEarning. First step ... remember what frustration is, Derrick. Frustration is an emotional response to a lack of control ... of people, circumstances, outcomes, etc. I am not in control of anything but me. That establishes a clear boundary for giving and taking advice. I am never in a position to tell someone else what to do. Nor do I want to be - because I will not become responsible for someone else's choices. However, I am well-positioned to offer the truth about my perspective. Hear me twice. I do not have THE truth. I do have MY truth. I am remiss to not share my truth - but I need to declare it as such. I have crossed the line, though, when I think my truth is THE truth, and should therefore be your truth. Second step ... I remember the times folks shared their truth with me ... and I still chose to learn the hard way. I ha