The Dating Den

Marni and Chris move on to dissect a new show, The Ultimatum: Marry or Move On. The new series means a new group of 20-something couples but the same relationship issues. Does everyone who issued an ultimatum get their way? Was an ultimatum the best way to wash out the issues or is it just a manipulation tool?   Key takeaways from this episode:   Ultimatums can be pattern interrupters Wherever you go, there you are Defaulting to bad behaviors Ultimatums are the opposite of dating with dignity   Manipulating Another Person to Get What You Want   It seems that all the contestants thought they would go on the show and then get their way. So, it begs the question, when we make an ultimatum, are we using manipulation as a tool to make the other person do what we want? Or, we are at our wit’s end and are tired of having our non-negotiables infringed upon?   Marni says it is unfortunate but people usually only make changes because they reach a pain point. Chris says some of the couples may be using the ul