Zen Parenting Radio

Why do we get "triggered" by certain people or circumstances?  You could call it a "trigger", or you could call it   a "thorn".  A thorn is when you are disturbed because something you are experiencing feels similar to a negative (or uncomfortable, or unresolved, or painful) experience from the past. Instead of feeling/responding to something in present time, the experience can trigger old pain from the past.  That makes the present experience feel like too much to bear, and you may respond in an inappropriate or over the top way. An example is when you are driving and somebody cuts you off - you go from being calm to out of control very quickly, and most likely you are having a response based on old thoughts or experiences (that person thinks he's better than me, that person doesn't respect me, that person is a jerk driver just like that guy who hit me 10 years ago....).  When we pull up all of that pain into a present-time situation, it's understandable why we go from 0-60 so quickly. We played a few cli