Tslmiami Dating Advice Podcast

Is all about building the courage to approach consistantly,  this constant approaching is what will open up the largest possible pool of women for you to potentially date.   The more active you are the more fluid you can date because the opportunities are coming in.   Unless you are a famous celebrity or have a status funnel like Dan Bilzerian,  you will have to approach.  How can you possibly be abundant and you are not creating opportunities constantly.   Is a constant game until you decide you want to stop.  Say you are comfortable in a commitment and want to arrange it and stop then fine,  but if you're trying to date and play the field,  you must keep the leads coming in.  That's just a suggestion,   it doesn't mean you have to do it.  My goal is not to create sex addicts,  approach isn't only used for sex,  it can be used to make connections.  But i know a lot of you want to date and choose.   Having

Its 2020 right now,  probably not the best time to date due to the ongoing pandemic,  which is unfortunate.  Hopefully some of you who have been dating previously have stocked up that rotation.   In this video I want to talk about three dating coaches who have created some buzz in the recent months and just give my thoughts on the situation.  Not necessarily from a negative standpoint,  but just a man voicing his opinion based on experiences.  At the end of the day every man has something to contribute to the betterment of our dating lives so the more good stuff the marrier.  I also mention in the video a young approach practitioner with a solid blog mikemehlman.net you can check that out lots of good free practical content.

I came across an ad of this guy and thought i'd do a video on it because there is a couple of things i liked about his approach and ideas i thought i'd hi light.  The direct approach is beautiful and is backed up by his apparent confidence.   Believing in yourself and your worth is strong and allows you to communicate nothing but stability to the woman,  you wont crack down in the face of pressure,  rather you remain stoic and unphased by it which subconsciously tells the woman you are a man of war.   A man of war triggers all her attraction switches because as a wise man once said,  attraction is not a choice.  Start bulletproofing your inner confidence and creating real concrete beliefs about yourself and following through on them daily to achieve a higher level of confidence.  It all starts one habit change at a time.   Don't be afraid to fail your way there.   We're here to make it click.

Welcome back to another weekly segment about improving your dating life and what steps to take.   Getting over insecurities is essential to be able to have the confidence to approach often.  The reason being is you do not want to take rejection personally. Part of the reason we are afraid to approach a lot is because of the fear of rejection and taking it as a personal rejection.  If you dissolve insecurities and find joy in rejection and realize it's only part of the process,  then you will open up more opportunities for yourself.  There is no magic pill,  there's simply women who will happily respond to a confident male who is not doubting his self worth and characteristics.

I thought i'd break down some fundamental principles for you guys that want to dive into cold approach once is safe and the corona virus is gone lol.  Even if you're unable to cold approach now is fine because cold approach will only be a small percentage of what will make you an attractive guy.   Sure having the courage to go up to women is nice, but let's face it anyone could walk up and say hi if correctly encouraged.   But what will make these women want to date you?  well that's going to be who you are,  how genuinely confident you are and the type of person you've worked to become.   It starts with identifying your self worth and really managing the way you think about yourself.  It's actually a life changing journey especially if you're a very insecure guy.   Lets face it,  you didn't actually think you could remain insecure and attract women.   We have to engage in a full 360 and make ourselves the best versions of ourselves in

I wanted to touch on some points about confidence and while i'm at it I had to mention AMS,  popular dating coach on the community right now handing out red pill advice with conviction and it never hurts to be told that you should self improve and that women respond to confident males who have it together.   It's also good to be able to have the confidence to approach a woman in places besides nightclubs so that you can have a magical moment during the day rather than the nighttime just like in romantic novels.  But all magic aside,  is good to know you can meet women any time and is good to know how.  And nope,  it isn't by going up and reciting a technique.  Is by going up and owning it.

In this video I go into detail about my thoughts on the process of getting better at cold approach and attracting women.  There's been a huge focus over the years on actual "game" rather than what truly creates attraction.   Is it the words you say or is it the person you are.   If you look at the majority of attractive males,  they do not change what they say exactly,  they are who they are.   It isn't the words,  its the feeling behind the words and the person saying it.   What are these words conveying.   The best way to get your words to convey attraction to the woman is by filtering it through a mind that has harvested confidence.  Confidence in approach comes from approaching and from socializing,  that is something you must engage in over and over and it can be enjoyable.  But for the 2 hours of social engagement you're putting in.  There's at least 10 hours of self development and crafting of who you are as a per

Don't judge my grooming,  I am indeed quarantined inside my house unable to cut my hair and I decided to let my beard grow, full caveman.  On to why you're here.  Hope you're all staying healthy.  Lets talk about getting laid,  because after this pandemic we will resume the festivities.  Decided to dive into this topic of what you can expect when getting into cold approach.  I'm not here to make promises,  i'm here to talk about what's possible so that you can apply this yourself and think for yourself.  Learn from experience,  learn from everyone,  put things to the test,  and find out for yourself.  My job is to fasten that learning curve and prevent you from falling into a pit of frustration.  Early on when I started cold approaching I worked on some essentials and had a couple situations where chicks were attracted to me and then they lost attraction because I didn't know how to move things forward or in which direction.   &nb

There's a disconnect between what creates attraction and cold approach.  Approaching alones breeds confidence eventually,  after many approaches,  confidence in the fact that you will not die if you do it and confidence in being social.  But I deeply believe that how you come across as a person is the most decisive factor that determines weather you get the attraction or not,  meaning how confident are you in yourself and what you have to offer.   That being said ,  the reason you need to hold your own is because in spite of how confident you feel ,  rejection will happen the overwhelming majority of the time.  So it is essential you develop real self love which provides thick skin  in order to not be concerned with rejection at all.  It's the man who can grasp this concept who will go on to have an amazing dating life.  Who doesn't want to date a non needy non approval seeking guy who knows he's awesome.  Sounds like a fun time. There's el

Picking up girls can be fun,  if you look at it as fun.  The problem with most guys is that they're doing it for need.  They need to get girls.  First of all a woman is a human being,  so the idea of picking up girls for fun can actually work because there are plenty of women that just want to have fun.  I've met so many girls throughout the years that just want a casual sexual relationship.  I've also met women who want something serious.  So picking up girls for fun should not be looked down upon.  At the end of the day you're only going to end up having fun with the girls who want to have fun.  The ones who want something different,  you'll quickly find out.  Is important to have good communication,  that is why social coaches exist,  because guys might be clueless in how to go about playing the dating game.  Is why my job can be fun.   Anyways that being said,  in the above video I will go over some ways you can get

So i came across this very open minded female,  this is funny because there are periods where you approach and actually not much happens for a week or two,  maybe more if luck is not on your side,  but then the universe has a way of lining stuff up for you all in the period of a few days.  Crazy how that works,  nothing is a definite constant.  So anyways this story is about a wave I was ryding where I was coming across females who were down.  This particular female was very open minded and in a very explorative vibe,  she was young wild and free.  So I decided for research purposes to ask her how many guys she had been with and I wasn't going to judge,  i'm having fun myself,  mind you,  I always wear protection this is very important to practice safe sex so that it doesn't go beyond a "fun time".  Specially when you are not going to establish a long term relationship and you don't have patterns with the person you're seeing,  you must be

Cold approach is undeniably an important aspect of meeting people,  be it warm or cold,  you must make the move and present yourself.  Is making the move everything?  absolutely not.  You must not only learn how to sell yourself but you must also be selling something worth buying.  obviously.  You ever heard the saying looks matter?  well of course they do,  it is part of your smv.  Does that mean that you must look the best in order to get laid?  well it certainly would help but no,  and here's why,  women carry smv also.  SMV is known in the web as sexual market value,  there are things beyond are biology that we look for in order to mate,  for the most part.   These days we've evolved beyond the animalistic instinct and now we are a bit picky.  The good news is ,  this applies to both men and women and is not that hard to put yourself together.  You got to understand most people are average anyways, &nb

Had a couple thoughts on this subject thought id share,  unfortunately I gotta write a description so this video is about me giving my thoughts on stephiscold and cold approach ,  as if the title wasn't obvious enough.  Not much of the writing type but I don't really manage the youtube,  my boy does and he says this is important.  anyways i don't want to spoil the video so i aint gon say nuthin.  lulzzzzzzz WATCH IT

As you can see , I've had a thread of my most recent videos discussing how each individual coach has helped my dating experiences along.  I will make this video about who I believe to be the best innovator of cold approach in this millenia.  The one and only mike Mehlman.  As I explain in the video,  his confidence is contagious and his disconcert for tactics is spot on.   I love his method of approach because it basically ties in to being yourself,  best self if you want to succeed more and nothing else.   Clean and to the point.  Doesn't float around this misconception that just anyone can learn some "skills" and get results.  IT just leaves you with the idea that if you're confident and believe in yourself you can actually meet women by being straightforward and direct.  Don't be held back by the inevitable notion of rejection and believe in who you are and what you've got to offer, by of course making something of yourself,  and not being af

We're back with another video this time talking about my experience doing some of the tom torero style daygame.  Funny enough this is how I met my ex girlfriend who we shared great moments together.   Meeting people doesn't always have to be based solely on hooking up,  you can develop solid relationships from this as was my case, but as you will see in the video things don't always go so well.  But we live and we learn.  This is my story of mastering day approach and an update on where I am now.

I wanted to make this cool little video to talk about some of the experiences I've had and what has helped me immensely in dating back then when I starting doing night approach more often in order to sort out and have a better dating life.  Keep in mind I no longer do much night time approaching,  if I want to get dates I achieve that during the daytime and throughout my day I can meet people.    In this video I dive into one of the mindsets that helped me a lot in south beach Miami nightclubs and bars,  great way to meet people if you try it out yourself and have a lot of fun.  This was during the prime time of the real social dynamics movement led by tyler who was a pioneer when it came to social dynamics and introducing yourself and having a blossoming dating life.  Bottom line is most men really have no clue how to go about meeting people ,  so it is important to have good healthy examples of how to do so.

It's time to dive into another texting break down.  Too many guys asking silly questions like "what should I text her first".  When you ask that question it’s a clear giveaway of your lack of experience and if the answer is anything besides "WHATEVER THE HELL YOU WANT" then you're also inexperienced as well in anything useful when it comes to dating.  Let me explain why,  you've been fed super gimmicky marketing for the last 10 years about what the right thing to text a girl is,  so your mind is brainwashed.   Is a simple as that.  The blind leading the blind.  Or should I say, the con leading the blind.  Now of course some of these guys giving terrible texting advice don’t know any better.  But let me catch you up on some serious game,  whatever little bs results you were getting with regulating what you say through text will increase tenfold once you understand the concept I break down in the video.  If the concept flies over your head,  

I was browsing around and I saw this video by a guy named dan bacon who gives highly marketed cookie cutter relationship and approach advice.  But anyways is not terrible advice and I found this gem he mentioned in one of his videos.  Now I'm not one to hate but I am very transparent about my opinion and I like what I like,  I've also taken a lot of action myself so I know what success in dating looks like, talks like, and feels like.  Anyways I'm not going to be saying anything negative because I do not know this guy,  might make a more thorough review in the future but for now I'd like to point out this tinder point he made in one of his video which I think you guys will find useful.     It basically demonstrates some factual statistics about how 1% of men are getting most of the success, which we kind of know already and some more facts about not all dates leading to hook ups and how the majority of men online are pretty much left for scraps but we all pretty much kn

Lets get into it    I pity the day you show up to my bootcamp wearing clothes fabricated in the 80s with an oversized fit and a fedora with a feather on it.   Expecting me to do magic tricks in order for you to attract women.  Not even a miracle will save you from bad style my friend.  That'll be the day I can just get up from my couch,  throw anything on,  run up out the basement ,  start approaching girls and not expect highly pitiful reactions due to my inability to put a decent outfit together.  Lets save you and me the trouble and hit you with this style guide.    Your style for daygame is basically like your uniform for a basketball or a football game.  You don't run into the field without your uniform.   I want you to educate yourself,  yes,  educate yourself in style.  Sorry buddy,  you cant be out here looking like a bum.  Go cut your hair.  A good start is instagram,  and you proba

I came across this popular video commenting on the subject of attraction,  is there are many scientific explanations to attraction but coming from someone who's out here dating and actually experiencing what it is to attract and be attractive and breaking it down for guys so they can also adhere to practical advice rather than a lot of scientific terms and mindsets.    What we like to preach in our channel is practical tested advice that will help your dating life go from zero to one hundred real quick.  The dating advice community for men has recently undergone a pivotal crisis due to the public eye zoning in on weird tactics being shared.  Is time to make dating practical and healthy again.