10 Minutes To Save Your Marriage

Real simple this week: A listener writes in with an impasse -- he and his wife differ on the number of kids they want. She wants three, he wants two … what is a couple to do to resolve this foundational difference? James and Dr. Steve weigh in; listen, and see if you agree with their final answer!

A listener writes in with a scenario and a simple question: Am I asexual? James and Dr. Steve break down her information, and give their opinions on an element of a very hot topic these days: sexual identity. Listen along and see where YOU fit in!

James asks about fighting -- more specifically, what mistakes couples are most apt to make? Dr. Steve comes through with the answer … which both pinpoints common problems, and also provides solutions! Learn about handling conflict this week on TMTSYM!

James asks another doozie - what should people look out for when meeting someone for the first time? Maybe as the relationship progresses? Dr. Steve fires off the cuff and details three red flags everyone should be VERY wary to see...

Husband wants to live apart for awhile - wife wondering if this spells the end of the relationship. Kids are involved, one with special needs... a huge source of stress for all parties involved. James and Dr. Steve weigh in, and talk about marriages in trouble, and what different signals may mean.

In lieu of a listener question this week, James asks Dr. Steve about the fastest and surest way to END a relationship. The comedy writer and the psychologist discuss, and hi-light some issues to pay attention to -- to avoid problems down the road.

A listener writes in and scolds herself a bit for all the nagging she does at home -- but also expresses a desire to change. James and Dr. Steve look at "nagging", and arrive at some techniques that can help the listener make some changes both personally, and within her relationship.

A listener muses about how, despite trying to choose a current GF who does not have the negative qualities of his ex, he is starting to see certain mannerisms that make him fear he has chosen as part of a pattern. James and Dr. Steve provide their analysis of hw relationships are formed, and how we may be "primed" to see certain issues in the people we love.

A listener writes in to say they have stopped their medication, and are now returning to a state of anxiety, depression, and some light paranoia. The listener asked if they are "crazy", bur James and Dr. Steve take a more clinical look at not only this case, but discuss a bit about medication, and some of the pros and cons.

A bit different of a focus this week: A listener doesn't want advice per se, she wants us to publicly disabuse her boyfriend of HIS idea that they should eventually have 11 (ELEVEN) kids!!! James and Dr. Steve are not shy about honoring a listener commitment, so they gear up and take it head on!

She's in China... he's in Canada... they met by chance -- do they HAVE a chance??? She writes in to ask if it would be prudent to pursue this unlikely pairing as a real relationship, and James & Dr. Steve give their answer! See if you agree with us on this vexing new-world relationship quandary!

A listener writes in and asks for advice on how to get over an incident she went through with her boyfriend of several years -- he cheated on her when they were pretty young, but the emotional residue still bothers her. James and Dr. Steve dig into the question, and offer some solutions.

A listener is confused by some of the mixed messages she's getting from her boyfriend... So she does what ANYONE would do: She writes to James and Dr. Steve! The two deconstruct the relationship and offer ideas and advice to answer her concerns. Listen along, and see what YOU think! Agree or disagree with the hosts...?

Another great question - a listener writes that her aging father has recently moved into their home, and that he will not respect boundaries. Entering their area in the house, walking into their bedroom, generally not adhering to the agreement they struck when he first joined them. James and Dr. Steve take a shot at analysis, and solutions to the problem.

Another tough relationship issue this week... a listener begins law school with the support (and encouragement) of her husband -- who may now be having an affair and wants a divorce. She is confused and angry, and asks our advice. James and Dr. Steve handle it like the pros they are!

A listener writes in with a serious marriage problem: he is an atheist, and his wife has recently converted to become a Born Again Christian. He is concerned about the impact this conversion may have on their marriage, and asks James and Dr. Steve to weigh in.

Simply put: A guy (friend) and she struck up a deal to be friends with benefits -- but then he started not wanting the benefits! Now she's confused as to what to do next, and how to take this! James and Dr. Steve leave no stone unturned!

A serious question this week... A listener has been in what she describes as a horrible marriage -- and just when she was ready to walk out, he turns it around and behaves as she wishes he would have all along. They have a child... should she stay or should she go? She asks for advice, and James & Dr. Steve give her the lowdown.

A listener writes in because she is concerned that her long-time boyfriend has a history of not getting a good job, or of making any movement toward marriage and "adulthood". James and Dr. Steve give their advice, and discuss some the rash of arrested development that seems to be a growing concern nation-wide.

Even family members can have radically opposed beliefs and opinions -- and in this new world of managed identities and social media, how do we handle these conflicts? Grace and dignity may have to wait... hear what James and Dr. Steve have to say!