Principles Into Practice With Kain Ramsay

Some relationships flourish, some survive in name alone and some will completely fall apart. In our current Western culture, relationships are often seen to be successful if partners stay together, whereas those relationships that break down are considered failures. This is despite the fact that many so-called successful relationships continue even though neither partner is committed to the relationship. Likewise, ending an unhealthy relationship is ultimately a choice and not a necessity which may or may not allow each partner to find a new and more meaningful relationship elsewhere with another partner. Relationships could be referred to like cars, in the way that they can break down for many reasons. Sometimes it is the driver's fault, sometimes it is a mechanical failure and sometimes it is the actions of other road users. Like a car, a poorly maintained relationship is more at risk of breakdown. If a relationship isn't growing, it's unfortunately dying - and you can tell a lifeless relationship by th

Sometimes it can feel like a distance or a void is growing in what may have once been a good relationship or friendship. In this video I have attempted to explain what this void is, where it comes from and how growing apart from some people can merely be 'Just a part of Life'. 'The quality of your life is the quality of your relationships.' Each of us have a wide range of relationships with other people which can form in either a family, intimate or a social context. Each of us also have casual relationships being those that we know a little bit about, but not too much - nor are we willing to find out much more! With as the social medias continue to grow in popularity, people have more and more casual and hugely shallow relationships which can where many problems begin. Then we have friends, people we communicate regularly with. All of us have friends at work, in our neighbourhoods, at our schools, universities or in our churches and social groups. As we journey through life we will commonly have less fri

Relationship forms the core of our experience as humans. We define ourselves and are defined by the nature of our relating. There is a universal concept called “interdependence” which would suggest that nothing exists independently. Everything exists interdependently. In applying this concept to relationship, we do not and cannot exist independently of one another. It is through relationship that we come to know ourselves. It is through relating that hold up a mirror to others for them to come to know themselves. By providing us with information about ourselves that we cannot see without the lens of relating, relationship provides us with a path of revelation and insight into what makes us tick and as we learn more about ourselves, our lives and the importance of our relationships with others takes on a far richer meaning. In order to learn as much as we can from the revelations our relationships give us, we must be willing to take responsibility for the ways we relate to one another. If we don’t take r

To "put things in perspective" means to see them from an objective viewpoint (or one that is generally different from your own and not based upon your emotions). For example: A young person may be emotionally devastated by a breakup with a boyfriend or girlfriend. The best way for that person to get over the hurt, is to see the relationship from the viewpoint of his or her whole life, rather than just for the present. While no one should deny that a breakup always result in hurt feelings and a sense of loss, anyone who has lived through a challenging breakup will tell you even though times might be tough at the moment, it is not the end of your life, and the best thing to do is continue living and dreaming of how great your future could be. That would be a great example of "putting things in perspective". In this lecture, I share another story that will hopefully give you a greater depth of insight into exactly what I mean here. Kain http://www.kainramsay.com

Your perspective is the way you see something. If for example you believe that toys corrupt children's minds, then from your perspective, a toy shop will be an evil place! Perspective has a Latin root meaning "look through" or "perceive," and all the meanings of perspective have something to do with looking. If you observe the world from a dog's perspective, you see through the dog's eyes. When drawing a picture, perspective gives your drawing the appearance of both depth and distance. If we say someone "has perspective," we mean she has a wise outlook on life. This wise outlook is something that over the next 3 lectures, I hope you will grow to develop in the context of your outlook upon relationships. http://www.kainramsay.com

This Lecture incorporates a story of 'Margaret's Bird', which tells about a bird who chose to value the security of his cage over freedom in the context of his very own life. Although security is most people's first choice in life, it may not be the option that provides us with the outcomes we truly want! A common problem that many of us face in life and our relationships, is our innate desire to please other people in order to be accepted by them. The reason why this is a problem, is that if our need to be accepted by others comes at the cost of our freedom to simply be ourselves in our relationships, the only person we end up making truly miserable and lonely is ourselves. The need to feel significant, of value to others and secure within ourselves are three universal motives that drive and often govern us all in some way. Security in a relationship lies neither in looking back to what it was, nor in forward to what it might be, but living in the present and accepting it as it is right now in the present.

Your time is here on Earth is limited, so don't waste it by trying to be someone that you're not. It's true that if we don't know who we are in life, we'll never fully know how to effectively act, behave or build the depth of healthy and authentic relationships that we long for. The root cause of many of the challenging emotions we face in life throughout life can be found in our attempts to be accepted, liked and loved by other people - when often, we may not have even paid that very compliment to ourselves. As we journey through life we grow accustomed to wearing a variety of different masks, which show themselves through who we become when associating with the differing people in our lives. Many of the most challenging difficulties we can face in our relationships, come when the 'masks' that we wear, become a road block for the most important people in our lives getting to truly know and accept us. If we haven't yet grown to understand and accept who we are as individuals, how could we ever be able to

Choose Life, Choose a job, Choose some mixed up priorities, Choose to conform to the rules of others, Choose to not speak up, Choose to pay high interest rates the bankers, Choose to conform, Choose Choice, choose some new toothpaste even ...... Choose Life! In free Life Balance Coaching podcast I've tried to share with you in a slightly different way about the extent and variety of the choices we have in life and the about the rules that we choose to conform to. Choosing life is about choosing how to respond and react to other people that come into our lives, it's about free will and the freedom we have to conform to the rules of others or simply make up a new set of rules for ourselves. A very wise man once suggested that the definition of a fool is someone who continues down the same path he's always gone down except, continues to expect a fresh new outcome every time. Change is good, making new choices is good, choosing life is good, freedom is good. If you haven't yet checked out my brand new website

So shoot me for what I'm about to say, but unfortunately for many it's true. Isn't blaming other people, our parents, the boss, society, the Church, circumstances or God!!! for the emotional challenges we face and experience throughout life a cop out! It's absolutely true that we have absolutely NO control over the things that happen to us in life, the things that people say to us or the things that people do. However, there isn't one person on the face of this planet who's not 100% in complete control of how they react or respond to any circumstance or situation that life throws. How we respond in life to our external environments is pure expression of our depth of character, personal maturity as human beings and the extent of our self control. A wise man once stated that 'A man who is able to take control of his own emotions is a man suitable for leading a nation!' It's easy to brush emotions under the carpet, to dis-acknowledge them or attack those people or nations which we see as a threat, however,

The start of each year in the time where we contemplate change, doing new things, we dream dreams and develop hopes and plans for what the year will bring. New years resolutions are the means by which many of us make some degree of commitment to making change, things we'd like to alter and things we'd like to resolve - however, could many of us be aiming too low or too insignificantly? It's true that we all hope for deeper feelings of security, a more enhanced feeling of self worth, esteem and confidence to be our very best and ultimately to increase our level of significance in the world by finding our life purpose and being able to commit our time to things of more meaning and value to others. Making more money is nice, as is increasing our ownership of materialistic possessions, our ranks, reputations and how we're viewed in the eyes of others. These thing within themselves though, will seldom deliver us the fulfilment that we long for. In this first free life coaching podcast of 2014, i've not gone 't

In this short podcast, I'll ask you a series of profound and brutally critical questions as to the reasons behind 'WHY' you do the things that you do in life. King Solomon, son of David, the once King of Israel wrote 'Without vision, man perishes'. Steve Jobs, the founder of Apple during its initial startup said, "There's something going on here... something that is changing the world... and this is the epicentre". Now whatever these men's perspectives were on life, they have both impacted the world in two contrasting yet phenomenal ways! We've all heard the saying "Life is a journey" which unfortunately doesn't help us too much when things get desperate in the midst of out circumstances -- and we've all been there at some point! In the same way in would be unrealistic for the farmer to yield a crop on the same day as he plants his seed, it would unrealistic to believe that the student will be offered a top corporate job whilst on his 2nd year in study. In the same way again, to move forward out of wha

You Tube Video Link: http://youtu.be/wIAtjp0qkK4 No-one's content with staying the same, day in, day out, and we all want to change in order to live bigger and better lives. Becoming bigger on the inside benefits everyone. Human beings are the greatest invention in the world, however, they are also one the most undervalued and unrecognised inventions in the world. Having travelled the world with the good fortune to experience a wide range of the differing cultures, I have grown to recognise ONE universal trend: This trend is that BIG people, live BIGGER, bolder and can be more confident. BIG people lead, BIG people initiate, BIG people are more popular with wider social circles and know how to be more confident by living BIGGER and more exciting lives. BIG people take greater risks, the achieve greater things, they think BIGGER thoughts and have greater hopes and dreams for life than what small people do. BIG people are more generous people, they are more loving people, they are more reliable people a

You Tube Video Link: http://youtu.be/bvIF6czcZj4 Kain Ramsay is one of Scotland's most dynamic and transformational Life Coaches who offers a fresh and unique approach to Life Balance Coaching by focusing on the Core Identity (Core Identity Coaching) through which he integrates a variety of models and practices from the fields of Therapeutic Counselling, NLP and Life Coaching. Whether you are attending one of Kain's workshops or events, his programmes, or whether you are woking intimately with him, you will come away feeling not just refreshed with a fresh new vigour for life, but with a greater depth of insight into the core of who you are, a greater sense of clarity into a significant purpose for your life, and of unconditional value. Living right is good, but living BIGGER is better! This is Life balance coaching. http://www.kainramsay.com Scotland Life Coaching, Dunfermline, Fife, UK