Girl Boner Radio

Have you ever felt frustrated, alone, anxious or depressed while using dating apps? Or wondered why swiping has led to a lot more swiping than actual dates? If so, you’re far from alone and there are reasons (that have nothing to do with you!) for all of that.    While some people do find healthy, happy experiences and relationships through the apps, Nancy Jo Sales asserts that the big corporations running them are more interested in getting you hooked than finding lasting romance or love—and that using these apps is actually nothing like meeting someone in a bar (as many folks suggest), unless that bar were racist, transphobic and dangerous.   In her new memoir, Nothing Personal: My Secret Life in the Dating App Inferno, Nancy Jo shares her own experience using the apps starting at age 49 and investigates the impact of Big Dating. And she recently joined August to discuss its themes and happenings.   A few things you’ll learn about in the episode:   A few of Nancy Jo’s sex and dating via app experiences, fr

If you’ve experienced unwanted pain during sex, you’re far from alone. Take it from psychologist Dr. Nazanin, who knows a great deal about it from personal and professional experience.   A few things you’ll learn in the episode:   What Dr. Moali learned about sex growing up in Iran  How sexual pain started impacting her life and relationship How she found her way to more pleasurable, adventurous sex How sex therapy changed her life  Common causes of sex-related pain Her advice for anyone going through similar sexual challenges   Learn more about Dr. Moali: https://sexologypodcast.com   Check out Dr. Megan’s latest Pleasure Picks: greatlifegreatsex.com/pleasurepicks    Support the show and get fun extras! patreon.com/girlboner     Sign up for occasional email updates or submit a question: augustmclaughlin.com   

Amy Baldwin and April Lampert weigh in on genital praising! A few things you’ll learn in the episode:   What Amy and April learned about sex early on How their paths met (Hint: it involved April spanking herself in a kitchen!) What genital/pussy/penis praising is  Benefits of this type of "dirty talk"/sexy talk Simple ways to get started  What to do if you feel pressured or obligated to have sex routinely, despite your health issues and lower libido   Automatically save 15% on your first Promescent order here: https://bit.ly/33z44hQ   Check out Dr. Megan’s latest Pleasure Picks: greatlifegreatsex.com/pleasurepicks    Support the show and get fun extras! patreon.com/girlboner     Sign up for occasional email updates or submit a question: augustmclaughlin.com 

Did you know the first fairy tales were written by women as feminist critiques? Fairy tales of all kinds can influence what we believe and experience around sex and relationships. Take it from August, a power dynamics expert/former dominatrix and a giantess dominatrix with over 20 years of experience.     A few things you’ll learn about in the episode:   The original fairy tales, which were written as feminist critiques of patriarchy  The storyline of the first fairy tale, by Baroness Marie Catherine d’Aulnoy How “Sleeping Beauty” parallels power struggles many women face today, with thoughts from Kashia Urbaniak How a Mother Goose story brought out kinky curiosity in Goddess Severa early on How Goddess Severa went from broke in NYC to a thriving dominatrix career, how her first session went down and what she loves about her work   Explore the Pride Month specials at The Pleasure Chest! thepleasurechest.com   Checked out Dr. Megan’s Pleasure Picks! greatlifegreatsex.com/pleasurepicks    Support the show and

Are you having the sex you desire, or has sex lost something over time - or perhaps seemed lacking to begin with? Ever wonder what actually happens in sex therapy?   Whether you’re having sex with a long-time partner(s) or having hookups, you have what Ian Kerner, PhD LFMT calls a sex script, both your own and one you co-create with your partner(s). And gaining awareness about your scripts can go a long way.   A few things you’ll learn about in the episode:   Why Ian says to all of his sex therapy patients, So Tell Me About the Last Time You Had Sex (which is also the title of his new book!) What a sex scripts entails How David and Kate, a couple in their mid-30s, found their way to pleasurable sex by unpacking their personal histories How Jonathan and Chris, a couple in their 40s, saved their relationship and sex life by cultivating a “rec-relational” style Dr. Megan Fleming’s tips for finding an ideal therapist Automatically save 15% on your first Promescent order here: https://bit.ly/33z44hQ   Check out

Sophie Saint Thomas, journalist and author of Sex Witch: Magickal Spells for Love, Lust, and Self-Protection, grew up in a sex-positive household and now embraces witchcraft and science. And she has a lot to say about cultivating the sex and love life you desire. A few things you'll learn about in the episode: How a penis candle spell she performed panned out What "love spells" in general are really about A powerful way to use tarot cards (that doesn't involve fortune-telling) Why monogamy and polyamory aren't your only relationship choices and how to choose your best format Sophie's take on post-breakup revenge Dr. Megan and August's thoughts for a listener whose demisexual boyfriend doesn’t desire sex very often   Follow Sophie on social media: Twitter: @TheBowieCat  Instagram: @TheBowieCat   Celebrate Masturbation May with a new toy from The Pleasure Chest! thepleasurechest.com   Support the show and get fun extras, including bonus content for this episode! patreon.com/girlboner     Have you checked out

Interested in starting a self-pleasure practice or getting more out of your single or dating life? Dr. Megan Stubbs’, author of Playing without a Partner: A Singles’ Guide to Sex, Dating, and Happiness, has so much to say about all of this!   A few things you’ll learn about in the episode:   What Dr. Megan Stubbs was surprised to learn about sex early on Beginner’s masturbation tips Why large dildos are so popular Casual sex tips and whether it’s smart to add your COVID vaccine status to your dating profile, with thoughts from Dr. Megan Fleming   Save 15%  at Promescent automatically at checkout by clicking this link: https://bit.ly/33z44hQ Support the show and get fun extras, including bonus content for this episode! patreon.com/girlboner 

“Claiming space is living your life unapologetically and bravely. And it sounds so much easier than it is.”  So says Eliza VanCort, and for good reason! The author, mentor and speaker speaks about her personal journey to claiming space and practical tips, particularly for women and anyone reared as a girl.   A few things you’ll learn in the episode:   Childhood experiences that made Eliza especially passionate about claiming space The role posture can play in self-confidence and perception A few wonky messages we learn about gender  How to claim space during sex Masturbation tips and products worth embracing   Learn more about Eliza VanCourt and her book: https://www.elizavancort.com   Dr. Megan’s latest Pleasure Picks: greatlifegreatsex.com/pleasurepicks    Celebrate Masturbation May with a new toy from The Pleasure Chest! thepleasurechest.com Support the show and get fun extras, including bonus content for this episode! patreon.com/girlboner 

If you’ve struggled to ask for what you want sexually or aren’t even sure what to aim for, you are far from alone. Kait Scalisi, MPH, founder of Passion by Kait, grew up in a household where no conversation topics were taboo, but conflict was. She now helps others find freedom in pleasure.   A few things you’ll learn about in this episode:   Positive versus negative messages about sex and conflict Kait absorbed growing up Kait’s advice for figuring out what you actually want in bed Kait’s thoughts on listeners’ desires and how to bring them up A sex communication tip Kait feels is super impactful and underexplored  Why slipping out during sex happens and what to do about it   Learn more from Kait and her team and get awesome related resources at passionbykait.com!   Save 15% on your first order of lube, arousal gel, delay spray and more at Promescent with promo code august15! Delayspray.com   Check out Dr. Megan’s FREE pleasure challenge: greatlifegreatsex.com/pleasure   Support the show and get fun extras!

Jordan Power discovered a family secret that changed the course of his life. Shana James realized she was bringing more to the bedroom than her body and desires. Dr. Megan weighs in for a listener who’s curious about “dirty talk.” How can you get started, years into a relationship? Learn more about Jordan on Instagram: @jpowercomedy   Watch Shana’s TEDx Talk: shanajamescoaching.com "Get sprung" with spring specials at The Pleasure Chest!  thepleasurechest.com Check out Dr. Megan’s FREE pleasure challenge: greatlifegreatsex.com/pleasure   Support the show and get fun extras: patreon.com/girlboner     Girl Boner Radio is hosted and produced by August McLaughlin, with transcript support from KM Huber.  

Promescent CEO Jeff Abraham speaks about his sexual empowerment journey, benefits of delay spray and his top sex tips for men and couples!    A few things you’ll learn about in the episode:   What Jeff learned about sex, growing up in the 1960s and ‘70s What led him from small town life to bigger pastures A few ways to keep sex exciting long term! How delay spray can help penis owners and their partners, whether they’re dealing with premature ejaculation (PE) or not Promescent’s mission and the tragedy that fuels Jeff’s work   Save 15% on your first Promescent automatically here!   Save $50 on Yarlap with promo code GB50! Learn more at greatlifegreatsex.com/pleasurepicks or yarlap.com.    For more Girl Boner fun, join August on Patreon: patreon.com/girlboner     Girl Boner Radio is hosted and produced by August McLaughlin, with transcript support from KM Huber.  

Desiree has lived with incontinence for about two decades, since age 6. She wanted to share her story with August because her symptoms have played a big role in her life, including her sexuality, relationships and self-esteem.    A few things you’ll learn about in the episode:   Desiree’s experience with urinary incontinence, including challenges and ways she’s learned to manage How she navigates sexual intimacy amid her symptoms Facts about urinary incontinence, including the 4 types and how prevalent it is Awesome accessible toys/accessories, available at The Pleasure Chest Dr. Megan’s latest Pleasure Pick, Yarlap. Save $50 at checkout with the code GB50! greatlifegreatsex.com/pleasurepicks This episode features voice over artist Rosa Delgado: rosamdelgado6 at gmail dot com   Girl Boner Radio is hosted and produced by August McLaughlin.  

Have you ever felt as though you’ve lost yourself or your confidence after a relationship? Or wondered how a romantic relationship that started out like a fairytale spiraled into lies, gaslighting and pain? If so, you may be one of the many people who’ve grappled with narcissistic abuse syndrome.    August has been there, as have numerous of her past guests. For this week’s episode, she explores the impact of narcissistic abuse with Dr. Kate Balestrieri, a sex therapist and psychologist who specializes in treating people on both sides of the equation.   A few things you’ll learn about in the episode:   What Kate learned about sex and sexuality growing up Common signs of narcissistic abuse syndrome How gaslighting can impact sex and intimacy Kate’s thoughts for a listener whose controlling ex restricted sex and affection Dr. Megan’s thoughts for a listener who’s haunted by her ex’s “porn addiction” How trauma can impact sex and pleasure Important truths about healing from trauma A few powerful things healing

Self-love plays an important role in everything from pleasure and intimacy to our everyday interactions. But how do you cultivate it, especially when things feel difficult?    In this Girl Boner Radio episode, Mike Johnson, author of Making the Love You Want, speaks about his childhood, how he’s cultivated self-love and the impact self-love has had on his life. He also answers Girl Boner listeners’ questions, reflects on how he was depicted on The Bachelorette, and shares his top tips for sexual empowerment!   A few things you’ll learn about in the episode:   Why Mike describes his mom as a shining star of resiliency, determination and persistence Gender roles Mike feels we should do away with, including personal examples from his life How Mike felt revealing the sexual assault he endured during childhood in Making the Love You Want The difficult breakup that brought Mike lengthy grief and how he found healing How he feels about how he was depicted on The Bachelorette Mike’s answers to listeners’ questions!

If you’ve ever had a one night stand and then felt like you shouldn’t talk about it, worried that you cared too much about sex outside of a relationship or acquired an STI from an abusive partner, you’re not alone. Ella Dawson experienced all of these issues and writes about them, both so she can process it all and to help others who relate.   A few things you’ll learn about in this episode:   Why Ella believes “casual sex” is a misnomer A few experiences from her life that illustrate major gaps in what we’re taught about physical intimacy outside of relationships The link between intimate partner abuse and STIs What you can get by joining Ella’s Patreon community! What to do when you start falling for your “friends with benefits” pal, with Dr. Megan Fleming   Join August on Patreon for GirlBoner extras: patreon.com/girlboner.    Join us on Instagram: @brosandprose  @GirlBonerMedia  @dr.megan.fleming    Girl Boner Radio is hosted and produced by August McLaughlin, with transcript support from KM Huber.  

Ever wondered why sex used to feel easy and pleasurable and gradually, or suddenly, that stopped? Or wished you could experience orgasms or great sex in the first place?    Dr. Bat Sheva Marcus, sex therapist and author of SEX POINTS, believes everyone who wishes to can have “rockin’ sex” and that all related challenges are surmountable. She spoke with August about her personal journey and lessons we can all learn from challenges she’s encountered in the lives of her clients, as well as her own.   A few things you’ll learn about in this episode:   Unforgettable sex-talk stories from Dr. Marcus’s childhood Why it’s important to consider sexual arousal, desire and functional challenges beyond the psychological Ways birth control can influence sexual desire and orgasms What many of us get wrong about fantasizing  The myth that women do better with monogamy than men Common factors that can lower what Dr. Marcus calls “sex points” What led her to “lose her orgasms” twice, and how she found her way back to that pl

Does great sex start at 50? It sure can, according to Tracey Cox, a renowned bestselling author and expert about sex and relationships.    A few things you’ll learn in this episode:   What leads to sexlessness in relationships When to accept or change that dynamic Myths about sexless marriages How to talk about low sexual desire or frequency, even if years have passed without sex The truth about “lesbian bed death” How to fuel female sexual desire The role body image can play in pleasure and desire How Tracey went from high to low libido, then to some of the best sex of her life Her top advice for anyone struggling in these areas What struck Tracey most while completing Great Sex Starts at Fifty Dr. Megan Fleming’s Pleasure Pick of the Month! And how you can enter a very special giveaway.   Join August on Patreon at patreon.com/girlboner.    IG: @GirlBonerMedia   @traceycoxsexauthor   @dr.megan.fleming   Girl Boner Radio is hosted and produced by August McLaughlin, with transcript support from KM Huber.  

Curious about threesomes? Or ways to make your next one better?    Stella Harris, a Certified Intimacy Educator, Sex Coach and author of The Ultimate Guide to Threesomes, is expert at ways to effectively become “a threesome person,” benefits of thoughtful threesomes and how to decide whether or not to bring this type of play into an existing relationship or your life in the first place.   A few things you’ll learn in the episode:   What many folks get wrong about threesomes Questions to consider before deciding on a threesome Why jealousy isn’t the worst thing (or unusual)  How intoxication can impact threesome play Ways to more comfortably ease into your first one Where to meet people for a threesome Dr. Megan Fleming’s thoughts for a listener who’s struggling after a threesome didn’t go as she had hoped   Register for Stella’s book launch party with SheBop here!   Check out the latest specials at The Pleasure Chest! Free, discreet shipping over $75.   Join August on Patreon at patreon.com/girlboner.   

Have you ever wondered if you orgasm “weird?” August hears about that a lot. The truth is, there are many ways of experiencing orgasm and all of those Os are valid.   A few things you’ll learn about in this episode:   First orgasm stories of Lynn Anderton, Dr. Lanae St. John and Jayne Renault, all of which took them by surprise 7 types of “female orgasms,” including sleep-gasms, back-gasms, cervical orgasm and more What we tend to get wrong when talking about “clitoral” and “vaginal” orgasms 3 types of orgasm penis owners may experience Dr. Megan Fleming’s thoughts for a listener who wonders if using a vibrator consistently can make it difficult to climax without one   To support the show and get fun extras, join August on Patreon! patreon.com/girlboner.  

Have you ever felt let down because your partner doesn’t meet your expectations? Or wondered if you’re having enough sex?    Dr. Gary Lewandowski, psychologist and author of Stronger Than You Think: The 10 Blind Spots That Undermine Your Relationship...and How to See Past Them, has been studying relationships for years through his Relationship Science Lab. He’s also been featured by The New York Times, NPR, The Atlantic and Cosmopolitan. His empowering TEDx Talk, “Break-Ups Don’t Have to Leave You Broken,” has been viewed nearly 2 million times.   Dr. Lewandowski joined August recently to explore several common relationship myths that can really cause problems, if you buy into them—which is easy to do! He also shared his own love story, including how he met his wife, some of the challenges they’ve faced and signs they’re on the right track.   A few things you’ll learn in the episode:   The difference a maximizer and a satisficer in terms of relationships, and which is a better aim Why a “sex challenge” isn