A Gay And A Nongay

Does gay love always need to be shown as a weird power play in the media? Well, when major TV shows like The White Lotus portray a major gay romance as... keeping it in the family... these are the questions we're left asking! On this week's episode of A Gay And A NonGay, James & Dan talk about the scene that has been on everyone's lips and reflect on their feelings. Later in the episode, we hear about Dan's story of his late mother's breast cancer treatment. Highlighting a severe lack of awareness about the scandal, James & Dan talk about the story and the role that attention can play in changing policy. Follow A Gay & A NonGay TikTok: ⁠⁠@gaynongay⁠⁠ Instagram: ⁠⁠@gaynongay⁠⁠ YouTube: ⁠⁠@gaynongay⁠⁠ Facebook: ⁠⁠@gaynongay⁠⁠ Website: ⁠⁠gaynongay.com⁠⁠ Email Us: ⁠⁠us@gaynongay.com⁠ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

On this week's episode of A Gay And A NonGay, we're talking about all things marriage! But, not how you would think... James & Dan are talking about how marriage impacts your physical appearance, and the differences in that between gay and straight men. This leads onto a bigger conversation around the societal perceptions of sexuality based on your look. Along the way, they explore the implications of male loneliness, the importance of maintaining individual passions and the necessity of inclusivity in striving for equality. Follow A Gay & A NonGay TikTok: ⁠@gaynongay⁠ Instagram: ⁠@gaynongay⁠ YouTube: ⁠@gaynongay⁠ Facebook: ⁠@gaynongay⁠ Website: ⁠gaynongay.com⁠ Email Us: ⁠us@gaynongay.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Can comedy ever be homophobic? Well, of course it can, but on this week's episode of A Gay And A NonGay we're talking about the complexities of making jokes that involve sensitive topics like transphobia. James and Dan discuss whether the power of laughter can sometimes be a privilege and the impact that their identity has on their comedic approaches. Plus, stay until the end to get a teaser of next weeks episode! Follow A Gay & A NonGay TikTok: @gaynongay Instagram: @gaynongay YouTube: @gaynongay Facebook: @gaynongay Website: gaynongay.com Email Us: us@gaynongay.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

BFI Flare, London's LGBTQIA+ Film Festival, runs from 19th to 30th March. For more details, visit: https://whatson.bfi.org.uk/flare/ Thank you to our sponsors... Secure your privacy with Surfshark! Go to surfshark.com/agaang for 4 extra months of Surfshark. Follow A Gay & A NonGay TikTok: @gaynongay Instagram: @gaynongay YouTube: @gaynongay Facebook: @gaynongay Website: gaynongay.com Email Us: us@gaynongay.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

We're joined by the creators of two of the theatre world's most successful new musicals of recent years! Toby Marlow and Lucy Moss are the creative minds behind the hit musicals Six and Why Am I So Single. On this episode of A Gay And A NonGay, James and Dan chat to Toby and Lucy about their journey from university theatre productions to global success - including their motivations and creative processes. They chat about the unexpected success of Six, the autobiographical inspirations for Why Am I So Single? and the experiences with fans. Plus... why does it suck being on dating apps? The theatre stars share their insights! Thank you to our sponsors... Secure your privacy with Surfshark! Go to surfshark.com/agaang for 4 extra months of Surfshark. Follow A Gay & A NonGay TikTok: @gaynongay Instagram: @gaynongay YouTube: @gaynongay Facebook: @gaynongay Website: gaynongay.com Email Us: us@gaynongay.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Do you know what a 'war pig' is? Dan's friend Olga thinks that James might! On this week's episode of A Gay And A NonGay, we're talking all about cultural references and critiques, including the importance of criticism. From debating whether we should be offended by the 'war pigs' term, to seeing how the community critiques art (look to Lady Gaga's new album) and the subjectivity of reviews and journalism... should you support art to support a community, even if you think the art itself isn't that good? Plus we test new jokes and complain about old tech woes! Thank you to our sponsors... Secure your privacy with Surfshark! Go to surfshark.com/agaang for 4 extra months of Surfshark. Follow A Gay & A NonGay TikTok: @gaynongay Instagram: @gaynongay YouTube: @gaynongay Facebook: @gaynongay Website: gaynongay.com Email Us: us@gaynongay.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

It's another week of A Gay And A NonGay and we're got a bunch of catching up to do! James has just returned from Australia, whilst Dan has returned from New York... we find out all about what they have been getting up to and their views on the political climate under President Trump. What is the potential impacts on the cuts to DEI initiatives and the rights of the LGBTQ+ community? We also tackle a listener's question about the prevalence of open relationships in the queer community and explore what might be causing this trend. Thank you to our sponsors... Secure your privacy with Surfshark! Go to surfshark.com/agaang for 4 extra months of Surfshark. Follow A Gay & A NonGay TikTok: @gaynongay Instagram: @gaynongay YouTube: @gaynongay Facebook: @gaynongay Website: gaynongay.com Email Us: us@gaynongay.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Trigger Warning: This episode contains multiple mentions of suicide and suicidal thoughts as well as themes that some listeners may find triggering. In many ways, Caroline Litman was the type of supportive Mum that any trans child could dream to have. She was supportive of her daughter, Alice, who was on the waiting list for gender affirming care. Alice was on the waiting list for a gender identity clinic appointment for 1,023 days when she took her own life. Ever since then, Caroline has fought for trans rights, in an attempt to ensure that the pain her daughter went through never needs to be experienced by anybody else, ever again. On this episode of A Gay And A NonGay, James and Dan are joined by Caroline to talk about the state of trans rights in the UK, her embarrassment about what she used to believe, whether we should be respectful to transphobic people online and why the gender critical movement is so well organised. Follow A Gay & A NonGay TikTok: @gaynongay Instagram: @gaynongay YouTube: @gaynong

She's the name on everybody's lips... but what does the rise of Bonnie Blue tell us about societal double standards? In a society that is increasingly sex positive, it seems that opinions differ amongst the A Gay And A NonGay community. Dan (representing the NonGays) feels like maybe this has all gone too far... whilst James (representing the Gays) believes that the outrage exposes some hypocrisy in society. Through-out the debate, both James and Dan grapple with their own opinions and shed light on the broader implications of sexual freedom and stigma. Plus, before all of this, a Super Bowl prediction... after the Super Bowl! Follow A Gay & A NonGay TikTok: @gaynongay Instagram: @gaynongay YouTube: @gaynongay Facebook: @gaynongay Website: gaynongay.com Email Us: us@gaynongay.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

We're throwing it back this week on A Gay And A NonGay as we revisit James & Dan's episode with Jack Rook, from Channel 4's Big Boys. Recorded live at Edinburgh Fringe in 2019, James and Dan chat all about the acclaimed TV show, plus they talk about dealing with homophobia at school, overcoming internalised shame, redefining mental health within the queer community and the dynamics of their own identities. Jack also highlights the importance of diverse representation and collective support among LGBTQ+ individuals. Follow A Gay & A NonGay TikTok: @gaynongay Instagram: @gaynongay YouTube: @gaynongay Facebook: @gaynongay Website: gaynongay.com Email Us: us@gaynongay.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Don't worry, we haven't just time travelled back to 2021! This week's episode of A Gay And A NonGay is recorded virtually... but Dan & James are still the same (even if they do speak over each other a bit). Once the hilarious technical bits get ironed out, we're asking: What makes you a 'massive gay'? We're digging into the stereotypes found in everyday conversations and debunking them, one gay and nongay at a time. Plus, James and Dan turn to politics to discussing the implications of President Trump's policies on marginalised communities in the US. Could those corporate Pride initiatives be fading into the background? Follow A Gay & A NonGay TikTok: @gaynongay Instagram: @gaynongay YouTube: @gaynongay Facebook: @gaynongay Website: gaynongay.com Email Us: us@gaynongay.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Drag queen, stand-up comic and author Holly Stars is this weeks guest on A Gay And A NonGay! Ever wondered what it takes to conquer the allusive worlds of both drag and comedy? Holly joins James and Dan to share her experiences in both worlds! She also shares her thoughts about why musicals are so alluring to queer communities and how she brings all of this into her smash-hit new drag murder mystery Death Drop! Plus - do straight people still not exist? We'll come back to you on that one... Follow A Gay & A NonGay TikTok: @gaynongay Instagram: @gaynongay YouTube: @gaynongay Facebook: @gaynongay Website: gaynongay.com Email Us: us@gaynongay.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

We're talking all things marriage proposals and gay weddings on this week's episode of A Gay And A NonGay! So... who should propose? James and Dan are breaking down the traditional roles expected in relationships and challenging the patriarchal norms. Plus, what gets James U-turning on his thoughts about weddings? Towards the end of the episode, we take a look at body shaming as we try to embrace our best lives in 2020 Thrive. Follow A Gay & A NonGay TikTok: @gaynongay Instagram: @gaynongay YouTube: @gaynongay Facebook: @gaynongay Website: gaynongay.com Email Us: us@gaynongay.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Would you ever go gay for hay? Kicking off this weeks episode of A Gay And A NonGay, James and Dan consider whether pretending to be gay to secure a roof on your head is... ethical? It's kind of complicated. As we dive deeper into the episode, we go into the big topic of straight men's silence on prominent cases of women's abuse, particularly the trial of Gisèle Pelicot. James passionately argues for the responsibility of straight men to be vocal allies, suggesting that guilt or fear of past actions might be reasons for their silence. The episode challenges you to reflect on your role in supporting marginalised communities and encourages open dialogue about difficult subjects. Follow A Gay & A NonGay TikTok: @gaynongay Instagram: @gaynongay YouTube: @gaynongay Facebook: @gaynongay Website: gaynongay.com Email Us: us@gaynongay.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

This week is just a quick check-in with our A Gay And A NonGay community as James Barr has an announcement about down under (not like that!), James and Dan reveal the results of a poll about sexual preferences and we chat about negative comments from TikTok! Think of this as a brisk affair lasting just over 8 minutes... you feel light and giddy at the end, and can't wait to come back for more. Follow A Gay & A NonGay TikTok: @gaynongay Instagram: @gaynongay YouTube: @gaynongay Facebook: @gaynongay Website: gaynongay.com Email Us: us@gaynongay.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

When Ryan O’Neill & Kaue Garcia bought their beloved local rugby club the Keighley Cougars in 2018, they never expected the backlash that would come. Having saved the club from bankruptcy, and making it the only openly LGBTQ-owned professional sports club outside of the US, they sought to make it an inclusive, LGBTQ-friendly space, putting diversity at the heart of the club. On this episode of A Gay And A NonGay, James and Dan meet Ryan & Kue to talk about the backlash they have received in response to their transformation of the Keighley Cougars, how owning the club has allowed them to heal from the homophobia experienced growing up, and the importance of making sports more welcoming for LGBTQ+ athletes and fans. Follow A Gay & A NonGay TikTok: @gaynongay Instagram: @gaynongay YouTube: @gaynongay Facebook: @gaynongay Website: gaynongay.com Email Us: us@gaynongay.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Happy New Year! We're kicking off 2025 how we meant to go on... with an insightful debate around the perceptions of behaviours and items labelled as 'gay' by society. Oh, we're also talking New Years Resolutions (and reflecting on past resolutions) of course! But, seriously, is 2025 the year where people will finally stop calling things 'gay'? Maybe we'll even dismantle societal stereotypes on masculinity and... maybe you'll no longer be able to be "more gay than gay itself"? Time will do it's thing - but what we know for sure is that we're looking forward to spending this year with all of you gays and nongays alike! Follow A Gay & A NonGay TikTok: @gaynongay Instagram: @gaynongay YouTube: @gaynongay Facebook: @gaynongay Website: gaynongay.com Email Us: us@gaynongay.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

It's time! Christmas Day has come and we're serving you some of our finest moments from 2024... all in one neat package, waiting underneath the tree. On topics ranging from coming out to queer joy, beating stereotypes and non-binary identity, we hear from Drag Race winner Tia Kofi, Golden Globe nominee Richard Gadd, Eurovian winner Nemo, Joel Creasey, Reuben Kaye and, of course, Dan's doppelganger Jamie Dornan as James and Dan wrap up 2024 as only A Gay And A NonGay could. They also tease some of 2025's upcoming guests and reflect on the years most heartfelt conversations... Follow A Gay & A NonGay TikTok: @gaynongay Instagram: @gaynongay YouTube: @gaynongay Facebook: @gaynongay Website: gaynongay.com Email Us: us@gaynongay.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

It's so nearly Christmas... but what does that mean if you're queer? On this week's episode of A Gay And A NonGay, James and Dan are exploring issues around chosen families and setting boundaries which often come up around this time of year for queer people. How do you ensure your loved ones are respectful during this time of festive cheer? And how much should you care about society's reaction to your supposed non-conformity? All of these reflections are contained within... Plus at the top of the episode, James & Dan address the challenges of dealing with online trolls - particularly when Piers Morgan's fanboys are coming after you! Follow A Gay & A NonGay TikTok: @gaynongay Instagram: @gaynongay YouTube: @gaynongay Facebook: @gaynongay Website: gaynongay.com Email Us: us@gaynongay.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Do you have an imagined feud with a celebrity? Well, this weeks guest certainly has a story to tell! James and Dan are joined by comedian Joe Sutherland for a rousing edition of A Gay And A NonGay. The trio talk about ageing in the gay community (and the concept of 'twink death') and the societal changes impacting how older LGBTQ+ individuals are perceived. How deep does the generational divide go? Plus, Joe shares his experience on a gay cruise and tries to bring the idea to life for Dan! Follow A Gay & A NonGay TikTok: @gaynongay Instagram: @gaynongay YouTube: @gaynongay Facebook: @gaynongay Website: gaynongay.com Email Us: us@gaynongay.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices