Productivity Paradox

In the 5 years I’ve been hosting this podcast, this is the first time I’ve tackled this topic and, funny enough, it’s one of my most asked questions: “How do you make time for sex?” “How often should I be having sex?” “How can I have sex when I’m so tired?” versions of those pop up on every single survey I’ve ever sent my listeners. So today, we are tackling those questions and more in one of my most open and frank interviews. Dr. Sonia Wright is one the show today to help us all gain a little more sex confidence.   FOR SHOW NOTES AND MORE, GO TO: https://tanyadalton.com/podcasts/episode-263-sex-confidence-with-dr-sonia

Do you ever feel a nagging sense of dissatisfaction, even when you’ve accomplished big things? Guilt, shame and hidden trauma can keep us from pleasure –whether it’s luxuriating in our free time, enjoying every bite of a delicious meal with or prioritizing pleasure in our sex life. On today’s show, Dr. Valerie Rein helps us understand why we feel bad about experiencing pleasure, how society has conditioned us to not trust other women and even ourselves. Today we’ll flip the question of How much can I bear? on its head into How good can it get?   FOR SHOW NOTES AND MORE, GO TO: https://tanyadalton.com/podcasts/episode-262-the-pleasure-principle-with-dr-valerie-rein

How often do you use the word “should” when thinking about your day? I should be doing this or I should stop doing that. Who decided what you should or should not do? Often we don’t ask that question - we just assume that we should just live up to expectations without wondering who set those expectations in the first place. Today’s episode will help you question the rule makers (also known as the patriarchy) and live life by rules of your own making. Reclaiming your power starts by understanding who we are really fighting.   FOR SHOW NOTES AND MORE, GO TO: https://tanyadalton.com/podcasts/episode-261-who-are-you-really-fighting

How can anyone authentically love you if you don’t allow them to see you? That’s the question posed by today’s guest, Terri Cole. Boundaries are our own personal rules of engagement and they allow us to live our lives to the fullest because they allow you to be seen: your wants, desires and needs. The real you–the you that deserves a place in this world. In today’s show, we do a short assessment to help you see which of the 5 areas of your life need stronger boundaries with action steps to help you feel more confident.     WHAT'S IN THIS EPISODE: [3:30] Why Terri Cole is THE go to expert on boundaries. [8:30] Is setting firm boundaries selfish? [9:45] YOU are the boss of you (and your boundaries). [11:20] Boundaries are your own personal rules of engagement. [11:50] Are all boundaries created equal? [14:30] Are your boundaries porous, rigid or healthy? [18:00] You have the RIGHT to prioritize yourself! [19:00] What are the 5 categories of boundaries? [21:00] What are the 5 categories of boundaries? [33:40] Gi

Do you ever notice that certain people communicate in a way that gets them better results—raises at work, relationships, or new friends? You can learn how to do that! Jennifer Russell, executive coach, is here to talk about the importance of your ability to hold charisma and inspire people, and how claim your power. We all lead with different energy when we communicate, but she has discovered four faces of powerful communication that everyone has the ability to possess. On this week’s episode of the You Turn podcast, Jennifer talks to Ashley about these four approaches of power, and how you can step in to them no matter what your values or strengths are. Walk away from the episode knowing exactly which one you are, and how to tap into every single one in order to embrace more inspired communication and boost your ability to fascinate anyone. As always, don’t forget to stick around for Ashley’s post episode thoughts!

We often feel frustrated with our interactions with other people especially if we feel like they don’t respect our time or the way we work. It can be easy to end up feeling like we have no control over our calendar or inbox. In today’s episode I’m sharing a Q+A session with Rachel who is struggling to feel like she has ownership over her time and activities. You’ll hear how we discuss establishing strong boundaries, how we can make sure we protect our time and how we can make communicating our boundaries even easier.   FOR SHOW NOTES AND MORE, GO TO: https://tanyadalton.com/podcasts/episode-259-the-number-one-thing-to-make-you-happier

Have you ever tried to “perfect” yourself out of a situation? It’s the idea that if you act perfect, look perfect and achieve perfect, you will finally be worthy. Today’s guest, Lisa Olivera, knows this better than anyone having come out the other side. She is on a mission for women to understand their stories, untangle the limiting beliefs and realize that they are already “enough.” We’ll discuss the stories we tell ourselves, how we can begin to accept ourselves and move forward with confidence. You’ll walk away from today’s episode with tools you can start using right away to help you reclaim your power.   FOR SHOW NOTES AND MORE, GO TO: https://tanyadalton.com/podcasts/episode-258-releasing-old-identities-with-lisa-olivera

What does it mean to reclaim your power? Studies show that many women tend to shy away from the word “power” because we worry about how it affects everyone around us. We play small because that’s how we’ve been raised by the world, by society–to be a good girl and play by the rules. But when we shy away from our power, we don’t step into our full potential. We don’t allow our gifts to shine and make the impact we truly desire. Today’s episode sets the stage for our season on reclaiming our power and living a life on our terms.   FOR SHOW NOTES AND MORE, GO TO: https://tanyadalton.com/podcasts/episode-257-reclaiming-your-power

You were designed for greatness, but sometimes it can be hard to make the moves to really experience that greatness in your own life. In today’s show we share easy strategies to take action. We dive into how your past can actually benefit you (even the parts you regret!). You’ll see how your patterns and failures can be springboards into the future you dream about. We share a simple activity to help you step into the identity you desire. And, we will start to understand the 3 key ways your brain thinks and how you can use that to our advantage.   FOR SHOW NOTES AND MORE, GO TO: https://tanyadalton.com/podcasts/episode-episode-256-why-right-now-is-the-right-time

Today’s guest, Whitney Johnson, says We have a deep bellied hunger for growth. As humans, we are constantly changing, evolving and growing, but growth can be daunting–maybe even terrifying. It’s easy to get overwhelmed when it comes to stepping out of your comfort zone and into something new. What if you had a map to help you navigate the unknown? In this episode, we’ll be sharing a map for growth to help you know where you are and feel emboldened to know where you go next. Today’s episode will help you feel more confident about stepping in a new direction.   FOR SHOW NOTES AND MORE, GO TO: https://tanyadalton.com/podcasts/episode-255-stepping-into-the-unknown-with-whitney-johnson

Our measurement of success usually comes in the form of numbers. We track how well we are doing based on what those numbers tell us. But how do you decide which numbers to track? The hard truth is that most of us have spent a lot of time tracking numbers that take us out of alignment with our true definition of success. In today’s episode we’ll talk about vanity metrics, I’ll pull back the curtain on the truth behind most of those impressive numbers we see online and I’ll share how you can create your own scorecard for success.   FOR SHOW NOTES AND MORE, GO TO: https://tanyadalton.com/podcasts/episode-254-using-metrics-as-false-gods

How do you possibly live On Purpose when you don’t have a vision for what you want? Or what do you do when your dream is taken away? Often the realities of daily circumstances keep us from truly stepping into the life we want and it may seem difficult to separate the circumstances of your present with the possibilities of your future. On today’s episode we’re talking about how you see the micro-miracles in your day, how you can cast a realistic vision for your future that feels vastly different from your daily life and how we step into the extraordinary life.   FOR SHOW NOTES & MORE, GO TO: https://tanyadalton.com/podcasts/episode-253-the-courage-to-reset-with-dave-hollis

Purpose has so much weight to it and, because of that, we can shy away from figuring out our purpose. But if you aren’t living on purpose– living with intention and towards something bigger than today– life can feel meaningless and dull. We often struggle through life based on what we think we are “supposed” to do. Today’s episode gets to the heart of how you can live with more intention even when you feel like you don’t know your purpose and how we can carve out more time to do what matters most.   FOR SHOW NOTES & MORE GO TO: https://tanyadalton.com/podcasts/episode-252-living-on-purpose

Motivation is the word mentioned more than any other on this week’s episode. Why? We often we blame our lack of motivation as the main reason why we don’t follow through or why we have abandoned goals in the past. Motivation is key when it comes to accomplishing any big goal or dream. So how do we build motivation to accomplish our goals? We start by using a framework that guarantees our success - the IMPACT framework will help you set your goals so motivation feels easier.   FOR SHOW NOTES AND MORE, GO TO: https://tanyadalton.com/podcasts/episode-251-setting-goals-with-impact

Your thoughts have the ability to influence your reality. So often we forget or we don’t notice our own thoughts, but the truth is: scientists have discovered that about 85% of your thoughts are negative and 70% of those thoughts repeat constantly.. Our brain is primed to help us survive and belong--even if survival means not living your best life. In today’s episode, Cathy Heller and I discuss what it would look like to embrace rejection, why we don’t want everyone to like us and how we can choose our thoughts, which helps us choose our future.   FOR SHOW NOTES AND MORE GO TO: https://tanyadalton.com/podcasts/episode-250-your-thoughts-are-the-real-fake-news-with-cathy-heller

The biggest mistake people make with their goals is that they don’t set the right goals. Let me phrase that: They don’t set the right goals for themselves. There’s no magic list of goals you need to complete in order to be successful. Goals should be personalized and customized so they are in alignment with your purpose. In today’s episode we’ll talk about how you discover your purpose and how to set goals that are aligned with the vision you have for your future. It’s time to stop living life on repeat and step into the extraordinary life you were designed to live.   For Show Notes & More Go To: https://tanyadalton.com/podcasts/episode-249-how-to-set-the-right-goals

Most people believe that their biggest dream is probably impossible. The truth is: we all have the tools needed to achieve any goal or dream. Every single one of us can accomplish greatness if we choose it. In today’s episode I’ll be sharing the 5 keys to achieving your goals -- keys we all have the ability to use. I’m giving you a behind the scenes glimpse of how I achieved one of my biggest goals - writing a book (I’ve written two!) and how you can apply those lesson learned to achieve YOUR goals.   FOR SHOW NOTES AND MORE, GO TO: https://tanyadalton.com/podcasts/episode-248-5-keys-to-achieving-your-goals  

Is adversity an advantage? Sometimes it can feel like the deck is stacked against you… but what if that is actually an opportunity to step into becoming your best self? Today’s guest, Chris Norton, personifies the adversity advantage. He believes taking radical responsibility for yourself can allow you to unlock the “power to stand.” Chris was told that he had a 3% chance of ever regaining movement and feeling below the neck. What sounded completely hopeless, he saw as an opportunity to conquer and to step into being the 3%.    FOR SHOW NOTES AND MORE, GO TO: https://tanyadalton.com/podcasts/episode-247-challenging-with-chris-norton

This is how we start a movement, we start with a pebble that causes ripples. When you stand for what you believe in, those ripples expand and grow. It starts with you. It sounds inspiring, but the truth is: it can be a little difficult and scary. In today’s episode I’m talking about how we can make sure we stay aligned with our values --even when it means going against the status quo and feeling uncomfortable because you are living in a way that’s different from the rest of society. Today I am taking a stand for what I believe.   What’s in this episode: [01:48] First time I mention this episode scares the shit out of me [04:37] Becoming a category of one [06:10] What it looks like to take a stand on a big scale [10:30] Why our limiting beliefs keep us from aligning our actions with our values [11:40 ] How I believe this will help me deepen my relationship with my listeners [15:24] Why I feel I’m losing my magic and increasing my self-loathing [19:29] What the final straw was that got me to take action [21:56]

Is it selfish to go after my big dreams and goals? That’s almost always the first question I get when I talk about living on purpose. We women are used to making sure everyone is taken care of before we worry with ourselves. What if we could turn that around? What if we could let go of feeling selfish so that we actually could make the impact we want in the world around us? Today’s episode will inspire you to rethink self-care and reframe how you show up for yourself.   what's in this episode? [05:35] How being kidnapped as a child changed her life for the better [8:25] Why we have a moral obligation to choose better over bitter [10:10] How Shelly had to change how she identified herself [15:31] How transforming yourself, transforms the world [22:20] The true definition of self-care (and it’s not what you think!)  [26:26] How self-care helped Shelly start a global mutual aid foundation [28:46] Shelly’s morning and evening routine that I’ve adopted for myself   for complete show notes, head to: https://tanyada