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On this week’s episode: Jamilah is joined by former Mom and Dad are Fighting co-host, Rebecca Lavoie. They weigh in on whether or not an older stepchild should be forced to babysit their stepsiblings. They also counsel a mom who is concerned about her husband’s theatrical and rather upsetting behavior. As mentioned in the show, our second question does contain discussion of suicide and suicidal ideation. So if you’d prefer to skip the question, jump ahead 17 minutes. If you, or anyone you know, are in crisis, you can contact the National Domestic Violence Hotline at 1-800-799-SAFE (7233). Since we talk about thoughts of suicide, if you, or anyone you know, need help, you can contact the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline at 1-800-273-TALK (8255). In Slate Plus: The unsurprising sharp decline of new babies being named ‘Karen.’ Slate Plus members get a bonus segment on MADAF each week, and no ads. Sign up now at slate.com/momanddadplus to listen and support our work.Recommendations:Rebecca recommends giving a

On this week’s episode: Dan, Jamilah, and Elizabeth have advice for a mom who is less than pleased at her in-law’s ongoing joke with her toddler. Let’s just say the joke involves knuckle sandwiches and a fake punch to the eye. Can she raise her concerns without causing conflict? Or should she just let the joke slide? Then—a very special guest joins the show… Jamilah’s mom, Isoke! She chats about what it was like raising little Jamilah and tells a hilarious story about the time Jamilah decided to run away. In Slate Plus: What should parents do when their kids become obsessed with something that you can’t stand? Slate Plus members get a bonus segment on MADAF each week, and no ads. Sign up now at slate.com/momanddadplus to listen and support our work.Recommendations:Elizabeth recommends GoCube Smart Rubik's Cube. Jamilah recommends Ruffles Queso Potato ChipsDan recommends the National Museum of Women in the Arts. Join us on Facebook and email us at momanddad@slate.com to ask us new questions, tell us what you t

On this week’s episode: Elizabeth, Dan, and Jamilah counsel a mother who is feeling guilty that she’s having a hard time bonding with her second child. She, of course, loves her son very much. But sometimes wishes her family could revert back to happier days when she had only one kid. Then, you are hopping in the Newcamp minivan to travel from Florida to Colorado and hopefully pick up a few useful tips for the next time you decide to spend days in the car with your kids. In Slate Plus: Of course they are talking about the Texas mom posed as her seventh-grade daughter for almost an entire day of school. How could they not? Slate Plus members get a bonus segment on MADAF each week, and no ads. Sign up now at slate.com/momanddadplus to listen and support our work.Recommendations:Dan recommends My Begging Chart by Keiler Roberts. Jamilah recommends Morcheeba’s new album, Blackest Blue. Elizabeth recommends sleeping headphones. Join us on Facebook and email us at momanddad@slate.com to ask us new questions, tell u

On this week’s episode: Jamilah and Elizabeth are joined by Isaac Butler, co-host of Slate's Working podcast. They advise a family who just moved into a new building. Not even 24 hours after meeting their downstairs neighbors, they received a potentially passive aggressive note about their kids’ noise level. How can they maintain peace in the building while letting their kids play? Then—what should you do when your kid wants to quit a sport midseason? In Slate Plus: Will the slower pace of family life stick around after the pandemic? Slate Plus members get a bonus segment on MADAF each week, and no ads. Sign up now at slate.com/momanddadplus to listen and support our work.Recommendations:Elizabeth recommends signing up for summer reading at your local library. Isaac recommends BOB books.Jamilah recommends catching up on reading and may she humbly suggest some pieces to get you started: Can I Bring My Very New Boyfriend to a 4-Year-Old’s Birthday Party?, My Daughter Sees Herself in Her Black Role Models and it

On this week’s episode: Dan and Elizabeth are joined by Doyin Richards, Care & Feeding columnist, bestselling children's author, and founder of the Anti-Racism Fight Club. They counsel a mom who had terrible acne growing up and now is stressing over her son’s breakouts. Then they have a question about a little boy who is obsessed with gender norms and a mom who’s worried she’s obsessing about it too much. In Slate Plus: How has giving advice changed the way the hosts parent? Slate Plus members get a bonus segment on MADAF each week, and no ads. Sign up now at slate.com/momanddadplus to listen and support our work.Recommendations:Elizabeth recommends the Loóna: calm, relax, and sleep app.Doyin recommends Anti-Racism Fight Club for Kids. Dan recommends The Fifth Quarter by Mike Dawson. Join us on Facebook and email us at momanddad@slate.com to ask us new questions, tell us what you thought of today’s show, and give us ideas about what we should talk about in future episodes. Podcast produced by Rosemary Bel

On this week’s episode: Elizabeth and Jamilah are joined by Emily Flake, cartoonist and author of Mama Tried and That Was Awkward. They advise a parent whose husband is ignoring their teens and giving them the silent treatment when they anger him. Then they have some tips for a mom who is desperate for some alone time. In Slate Plus: The hosts try to predict what their kids will be up to in five years time. Slate Plus members get a bonus segment on MADAF each week, and no ads. Sign up now at slate.com/momanddadplus to listen and support our work.Recommendations:Emily recommends The Mitchells vs. the Machines on Netflix. Jamilah recommends Girls5eva on Peacock. Elizabeth recommends the Peapod Plus ids travel bed. Join us on Facebook and email us at momanddad@slate.com to ask us new questions, tell us what you thought of today’s show, and give us ideas about what we should talk about in future episodes. Podcast produced by Rosemary Belson. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

On this week’s episode: Dan and Jamilah are joined by Gabrielle Horton, co-host and executive producer of NATAL. They advise a mom who is sick of searching for her kid’s lost stuff, especially because she, too, often misplaced things as a child. She learned to develop routines that work for her. But she wants to opt out of helping her kid with finding lost items. They also answer a question about a girl who is feeling left out. Her bestie and her mom both go to therapy and she now wants to go too. What are the things her parents should consider when determining whether or not to send her to therapy? In Slate Plus: Dan and Jamilah talk to Gabrielle about her work on NATAL and what it’s like as a non-parent to tell stories about birth. Slate Plus members get a bonus segment on MADAF each week, and no ads. Sign up now at slate.com/momanddadplus to listen and support our work.Recommendations:Gabrielle recommends The Circle on Netflix. Dan recommends Girls5eva on Peacock. Jamilah recommends Nuudii System bras. Joi

On this week’s episode: Dan and Jamilah are joined by Slate’s Allison Benedikt. They debate if a letter writer’s bickering parents need to knock it off or if it’s okay to squabble in front of the grandkids.Then, they sit down with Dr. Tova Walsh, professor of social work at the University of Wisconsin, to discuss her new research about how moms who gave birth in March 2020 are coping with a very strange first year of parenting. In Slate Plus: What to do about kids' expensive—but oh so delicious—berry habits. Slate Plus members get a bonus segment on MADAF each week, and no ads. Sign up now at slate.com/momanddadplus to listen and support our work.Recommendations:Jamilah recommends Gonanas Banana Bread Mix from Nordstrom Rack. Allison recommends Everything Sad Is Untrue: (a true story) by Daniel Nayeri. Dan recommends I Was Told There Would Be Mom Friends by Lauren BansJoin us on Facebook and email us at momanddad@slate.com to ask us new questions, tell us what you thought of today’s show, and give us ideas ab

On this week’s episode: Elizabeth, Jamilah and Dan debate if an indoor-loving mom needs to suck it up, sign her kid up for soccer, and actually go to games. Then, Jamilah sits down with Virginia Sole-Smith, journalist and author of The Eating Instinct and Burnt Toast, a newsletter about parenting while navigating diet culture and fatphobia. They talk about helping kids develop healthy relationships with food and their body, especially when parents are struggling with those issues. In Slate Plus: Is there a gender divide in your household over who does more of the cognitive labor? Slate Plus members get a bonus segment on MADAF each week, and no ads. Sign up now to listen and support our work.Recommendations:Dan recommends watching Office Space. Jamilah recommends Vosges’ Smoke and Stout Caramel Chocolate BarElizabeth recommends getting your kid a CamelBak Mini M.U.L.E.Listener Recommendations:Slumber Party Predicament Edition, if you wanted to listen to the full advice for the mother who lost her daughter to

On this week’s episode: Jamilah, Dan and Elizabeth talk with Alex Chen, founding director of the LGBTQ+ Advocacy Clinic at Harvard Law, about bills that prohibit transgender youth from playing sports and accessing gender-affirming health care. Check out his piece here. The hosts also tackle a question about a father in a blended family who seems to be prioritizing his daughter with his previous wife over his son. Then, the hilarious hosts of ICYMI, Rachelle Hampton and Madison Malone Kircher, pop by to translate internet slang that has parents scratching their heads. In Slate Plus: Is it OK to read your kid’s texts? Slate Plus members get a bonus segment on MADAF each week, and no ads. Sign up now to listen and support our work.Recommendations:Elizabeth recommends making DIY sun hats. Dan recommends reading more Ursula Le Guin, especially Four Ways to Forgiveness. Jamilah recommends Cali'flour Foods’ Enchilada Bake.Resources:LGBTQ+ Advocacy ClinicTrans Youth HandbookACLUGLSENPFLAGGender SpectrumGender Odyssey

On this week’s episode: Dan, Jamilah, and Elizabeth argue whether or not a toddler is obligated to join a sticker ponzi scheme if the invitation came from his cousin. Then, Jamilah talks to Rose Aka-James, National Membership Director of Black Mamas Matter Alliance, about the work being done to address the systemic racial disparities when it comes to Black maternal health. Check out BMMA’s Black Maternal Health Week Virtual Conference. In Slate Plus: We’re pitching modern issues that just simply need to be explained via Schoolhouse Rock song. Sign up for Slate Plus. Recommendations:Elizabeth recommends Plasticus Maritimus: An Invasive Species by Ana Pêgo. Jamilah recommends Salt, Fat, Acid, Heat: Mastering the Elements of Good Cooking by Samin Nosrat. Dan recommends Cookie Chronicles by Matthew Swanson and Robbi Behr. Join us on Facebook and email us at momanddad@slate.com to ask us new questions, tell us what you thought of today’s show, and give us ideas about what we should talk about in future episodes.  

On this week’s episode: Elizabeth and Jamilah are joined by Isaac Butler, co-host of Slate's Working podcast. They answer a question from a mother wondering when and how to tell her daughter that she had an older sister who died prior to birth. Then they dive into sleepover politics. Should the guest list be altered to accommodate cousins who really want an invite? In Slate Plus: We’ve got tips for helping your kid be more creative. Slate Plus members get a bonus segment on MADAF each week, and no ads. Sign up now to listen and support our work.Recommendations:Isaac recommends Kipo and the Age of Wonderbeasts on Netflix.Jamilah recommends Iced Chocolate Almond Milk Shaken Espresso from Starbucks. Elizabeth recommends Let's Make Art subscription box. Join us on Facebook and email us at momanddad@slate.com to ask us new questions, tell us what you thought of today’s show, and give us ideas about what we should talk about in future episodes. Podcast produced by Rosemary Belson.  Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/pr

On this week’s episode: Jamilah, Elizabeth and Dan debate if you should tell a teen that what they are wearing isn’t appropriate in certain situations. Then, they advise a woman who is pregnant with her family’s second child. Their first child is white and the second child is biracial. The letter writer is concerned that her mother-in-law will treat their second child differently because of the baby’s race. In Slate Plus: What’s the best way to get rid of kid art? Slate Plus members get a bonus segment on MADAF each week, and no ads. Sign up now to listen and support our work.Recommendations:Dan recommends Water, Wood, and Wild Things: Learning Craft and Cultivation in a Japanese Mountain Town by Hannah Kirshner. Elizabeth recommends Grasshopper by Tatiana Ukhova. Jamilah recommends Mean Girls. Join us on Facebook and email us at momanddad@slate.com to ask us new questions, tell us what you thought of today’s show, and give us ideas about what we should talk about in future episodes.  Podcast produced by Rose

On this week’s episode: Elizabeth, Dan, and Jamilah counsel a parent whose kid felt hurt and slighted when her Zoom playdate abruptly ended. Then they tackle a close quarters situation: a little kid is asking for privacy in the mornings. But the family has two other kids to dress and a limited amount of space in their apartment. What should they do now that her morning routine is making it hard for their entire family to get out the door? In Slate Plus: Gabe Roth, Slate's editorial director for audio and former Mom and Dad are Fighting co-host, joins to vent about the Netflix movie, Yes Day. Slate Plus members get a bonus segment on MADAF each week, and no ads. Sign up now to listen and support our work.Recommendations:Jamilah recommends Coca-Cola With Coffee’s Dark Blend flavor.Dan recommends Amber and Clay by Laura Amy Schlitz. Elizabeth recommends Welly bandages. Join us on Facebook and email us at momanddad@slate.com to ask us new questions, tell us what you thought of today’s show, and give us ideas abou

On this week’s episode: Dan talks with Emily Oster, professor at Brown University and data-driven parenting author. She also writes ParentData, an evidence-based newsletter that has been a vital resource for many parents navigating the pandemic. Emily and Dan talk about how families should act now that more families are falling into the ‘mixed-vaxxed’ category and what to expect for the upcoming spring and summer. Dan, Jamilah, and Elizabeth also tackle a question from a listener who has fallen out of love with professional sports. Now his little boys are starting soccer. Should he jump back into the sports fandom or is it okay to stay out of the fray? (Overtime: We chatted with soccer legend Abby Wambach last year about raising competitive athletes, especially when the parents aren’t sporty. Check it out.) In Slate Plus: The hosts share the soundtracks to their parenting. Slate Plus members get a bonus segment on MADAF each week, and no ads. Sign up now to listen and support our work.Recommendations:Elizabet

On this week’s episode: Jamilah and Dan are joined by longtime friend of the pod, Jessica Winter. Jessica just released her next novel, The Fourth Child. They answer a question from a mom of a little boy whose current friend group is all girls. She’s worried that he’s going to be ditched and without a group of friends as they all age. Then they tackle a question from a mom who has had it with her kids’ shouting a rather annoying nonsense word.In Slate Plus: Inspired by Jessica’s little deconstructor, they’ll be commiserating over the worst things their kids have destroyed. Slate Plus members get a bonus segment on MADAF each week, and no ads. Sign up now to listen and support our work.Recommendations:Jessica recommends picture books by Melissa Iwai. Dan recommends The Fourth Child by Jessica Winter. Jamilah recommends So Delicious’ Dairy Free Oatmilk Peanut Butter and Raspberry frozen dessert. Join us on Facebook and email us at momanddad@slate.com to ask us new questions, tell us what you thought of today’s

On this week’s episode: Dan, Jamilah, and Elizabeth argue about if teenage drivers should chip in for the privilege of driving, especially when the teen in question is not making a ton of money. Then they jump into a couple’s argument over swearing in front of the kids. In Slate Plus: It’s the classic debate. Oatmeal raisin v. chocolate chip cookies. Slate Plus members get a bonus segment on MADAF each week, and no ads. Sign up now to listen and support our work. Recommendations:Elizabeth recommends Prodigies online music lessons. Jamilah recommends Sabai Design. Dan recommends If I Ran the Circus by Dr. Seuss. More Jamilah!: Slate Live’s Wild and WiseDoing the MostJoin us on Facebook and email us at momanddad@slate.com to ask us new questions, tell us what you thought of today’s show, and give us ideas about what we should talk about in future episodes. Podcast produced by Rosemary Belson. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

On this week’s episode: Elizabeth, Dan, and Carvell commiserate with a parent whose teen is taking every little correction to heart. Then Elizabeth sits down with Erika McLemore (@sitbymyfire on Instagram) to discuss how parents should incorporate lessons on Indigenous peoples, cultures, and land acknowledgements into play. She also shares a bunch of wonderful resources for parents and kids to continue educating themselves on language, history, and current issues central to the Indigenous experience. In Slate Plus: Slate’s Holly Allen stops by to talk about her powerful new bathroom cleaning tool. A blacklight! Let's just say she can't unsee what she saw... Slate Plus members get a bonus segment on MADAF each week, and no ads. Sign up now to listen and support our work.Recommendations:Dan recommends East: 120 Vegetarian and Vegan recipes from Bangalore to Beijing by Meera Sodha. Carvell recommends breaking out the Mario Kart games with the family. Not only is the Nintendo Switch great, but he also recommends

On this week’s episode: Jamilah and Elizabeth are joined by Zenovia Stephens, founder and CEO of Black Kids Adventures. They strategize ways a mom can help her tween power through her Sunday night blues. Then they debate if large age gaps between kids really leads to emotional distance and weak bonds between siblings. In Slate Plus: Zenovia talks about the importance of getting yourself and your kids outside. Slate Plus members get a bonus segment on MADAF each week, and no ads. Sign up now to listen and support our work.Recommendations:Elizabeth recommends a wireless pocket microscope for outdoor adventures.  Zenovia recommends Vanicream Moisturizing Cream. Jamilah recommends cooking with flavored butters, specifically truffle butter. Join us on Facebook and email us at momanddad@slate.com to ask us new questions, tell us what you thought of today’s show, and give us ideas about what we should talk about in future episodes.  Podcast produced by Rosemary Belson. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more

On this week’s episode: Dan, Elizabeth, and Jamilah debate how to negotiate a ceasefire in the backseat of the minivan. They also counsel a mom whose daughter will not quit it with the fake cough. In Slate Plus: They send platonic Valentines to friends who have made these trying times a little easier. Slate Plus members get a bonus segment on MADAF each week, and no ads. Sign up now to listen and support our work.Recommendations:Elizabeth recommends Tea Time Around the World by Denyse Waissbluth. Jamilah recommends supporting small, local pharmacies. Dan recommends Whirley Pop, Amish Country Blue Popcorn, and Trader Joe’s Everything But Elote for the perfect popcorn experience. Join us on Facebook and email us at momanddad@slate.com to ask us new questions, tell us what you thought of today’s show, and give us ideas about what we should talk about in future episodes.  Podcast produced by Rosemary Belson.  Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.