Love Life With Matthew Hussey

Another week in isolation... This crisis is really putting a magnifying glass on my (alarmingly natural) gift for hibernation, as well as my capacity for eating chocolate. How about you? It’s also exposing a lot of cracks in relationships – both those under the same roof and the long-distance ones – as they strain under the weight of this “new normal.” Just this morning, I had the pleasure of working with a woman who is in my live coaching group, and she confided that she was having an issue with her boyfriend. Like many, she found herself in a long-distance relationship all of a sudden, as she and her guy self-isolate about 30 minutes from each other in their separate homes. I said to her, “That must be tough. Are you speaking every day?” Her answer revealed more than I anticipated... It quickly became clear to me that her needs were being ignored, and that she was ignoring a conversation she needed to have. Something I’m worried too many people are doing right now. If you’re in a similar situation, where yo

A couple of episodes ago we asked you: What are the moments that made you fall in love in the past? We call these moments micro-attractions. Yes, you can find someone sexy. You can like the same movies. But it's those little behaviours that totally fly under-the-radar that make us say, "Holy crap! I've never met anyone like this before!" So, Steve dived into the inbox and looked at YOUR stories of the moments that made you fall head over heels and discuss what this tells us about long-term attraction.  --- Follow Matt @thematthewhussey Follow Stephen @stephenhhussey    Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Well hello there from isolation. Guess what? we made a new podcast for you. It’s about how to be a more interesting and engaging person in any interaction with someone through 5 quick principles you can instantly apply. And since most of us are having long-distance conversations with everyone right now, the ability to talk effectively has become utterly essential. These techniques will show you how to take your talking to another level. And I know they work because I live by them. They are relevant whether you’re in the same room with someone, sending voice notes to a new guy, or connecting with a love interest over the phone as we all social distance. (They also apply to business, so you get two for one in today’s episode.) Can’t wait to see what you think. If you want the free training I mention in the episode so that you can have MASSIVE impact in the First 5 Minutes of Any Interaction, click here to download your copy → http://www.First5Guide.com Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information

What is the secret that makes a man look into a woman’s eyes and think, “She is the one for me?” It isn’t her looks. It isn’t her masters degree in literature. It isn’t the fact that she had the same favorite pizza place in the city (though that helped…). No, the reason he fell hard for this woman was because of something no one talks about… Maybe it’s happened to you before: You knew you kind of liked a guy, but then he did one special move that made your heart do a triple back flip – now you are crazy about him. How does this happen?? It’s not about fancy tricks, it’s about understanding this secret of deep, lasting attraction... Get Matt's free confidence training at GetCoreConfidence.com  Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

I don’t know about you, but I’m already exhausted by the avalanche of motivational quotes online right now. Advice everywhere. Everyone talking. It’s kind of numbing. Realistically, we’re not exactly focused on how to live our “best” life right now. We’re trying to keep ourselves and our families safe, salvage a few of our regular routines, and keep ourselves from devolving into a Netflix and Oreos spiral. Well, at least I am. And just like you probably do, I fluctuate between being OK and feeling intense melancholy about the situation. (I’m also sick of being taunted by home workout videos I’m not actually doing.) Anyway. If you can relate to any of this, I made this episode for you. I certainly haven’t got this all figured out. And you probably haven’t either. But I think there are some very manageable ways we can feel a little better right now, and release the pressure of the unrealistic expectations many of us are putting on ourselves in what is already a very difficult time. I explain them in this podcas

Time for a coronavirus Q&A! Today we're doing something a little different.  We promised we'd read out some listener emails, so it's time to dive into the mailbox and hear about YOUR experiences dating in the time of corona!  Topics include: being alone during a break up, how to love being single, and moving love forward when you can't leave the house.  Follow Stephen @stephenhhussey Follow Matthew @thematthewhussey Download the FREE video training at GetCoreConfidence.com   Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

What a week... It’s a time of mixed emotions. Anxiety. Stress. Fear. Uncertainty. Boredom. Resentment about losing the year we thought we were going to have in 2020. This crisis is impacting people all over the world to varying degrees. And with how rapidly it is evolving, I have wanted to hold off on wading in with my opinions until I really felt I had something to say. Alongside all manner of life-related issues people are asking me about, they are, of course, eager to hear my answers to their love life questions during this time: How can I date during this time of social distancing? Should I move in with my ex so that I’m not alone in this time? How do I keep my (now) long-distance relationship alive? How can I handle living with someone I’ve never spent this much time with prior to isolating with them? How will I get through this if I feel totally alone? Whether you’re single and looking to meet someone special, or dating someone you can’t physically be with right now, or even if you’re in the middle of h

“Is there anything I can do to rekindle the relationship with my ex?” It’s one of the biggest questions we have after a breakup. And if you’re finding yourself losing sleep at night, replaying conversations and events, wondering if there was anything you could have said or done to keep the relationship… then this episode is for you. It’s an example of a conversation you can have that will empower you to either rekindle your relationship with your ex… or get the closure you want so you can move on. P.S. I had the best time with Ashley ( and Rayna on the Girls Gotta Eat Podcast! Tap here to subscribe on iTunes! Follow the @GirlsGottaEatPodcast, Ashley @AshHess, and Rayna @Rayna.Greenberg. - Follow Matthew @thematthewhussey - Follow Stephen @stephenhhussey Download the free guide to dating after heartbreak at 3SecretsToLove.com!      Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

What can we do when crisis hits? How should we change our goals, our routines, our emotional response when our lives get shaken by unpredictable problems? As we face the ongoing COVID-19 pandemic, Matt had a powerful conversation with renowned entrepreneur, speaker and author Ed Mylett (@EdMylett) to talk about what this means for us and how we can be a for for good in this crisis. In this episode we cover: What health routines Ed is using to keep fit while remaining indoors Better questions you can ask yourself to reframe moments of crisis How to do good when others are panicking (even if it's just for one person) What lessons we can learn from losing our usual comforts How to use this moment to set yourself up for a better future Follow Ed's podcast "The Ed Mylett Show" on iTunes.  Download Matt's free training at GetCoreConfidence.com Follow Matt @thematthewhussey Follow Stephen @stephenhhussey   Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Ever been hurt or betrayed?   Maybe someone broke your trust, cheated, or took your love for granted...   If so, I’m really sorry. The pain that can come from heartbreak is unlike anything else. It’s sickening. But, there is something even more heartbreaking than heartbreak itself: Allowing the ghosts of the past to trick you into giving up on your next great love story.   If you’re finding it hard to open yourself up to love again… If you are spending your life avoiding rejection right now instead of going after what you really want…   If being vulnerable and letting your guard down scares you to death…   This new video is for you. It’s natural to want to protect your heart…   But if constantly playing defense is preventing you from meeting the REAL love of your life, you’ll never get to see just how much happiness your future still has in store for you. Come on. We’ve got this, you and I.   Let’s be courageous together. No more holding yourself back.   Let’s live!   If you KNOW it's time to finally transfor

Pull up a seat. It’s time we had an honest talk about men. When looking for love, I believe there’s no better way to start than by deeply understanding what drives the opposite sex. It teaches you not only the psychology of attraction, but also, how to avoid the wrong people who are driven by their worst instincts and toxic behavior. So in this episode, I sat down for a juicy conversation with my good friend Lewis Howes @lewishowes, host of the School Of Greatness podcast, to discuss the truth about masculinity, why certain men become “eternal bachelors”, and what this means for you as a woman in the dating scene. If you want to know how to spot which guys to date when it comes to finding commitment, you need to hear this… - Download my free guide: “5 Compliments Men Love To Hear” → http://www.SayThisToHim.com - Follow Matthew @thematthewhussey - Follow Stephen @stephenhhussey Email the show at podcast@matthewhussey.com       Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Last episode we talked about how to respond to a flakey guy using “Bliss Point” text messages - which combines being salty and sweet to make someone WANT to pursue you and live up to your standards.  Except… Some of the more angry responses said things like: “Matt, why would I even think about being sweet to a guy who flakes on a date?? He should be chasing me already, and if not, I have a right to be angry when I text back…” To tell you the truth, I’m really glad these comments came up (and I kind of expected it). In this week’s podcast, we explain why this response relates to a huge mistake 99% of people make in dating. Make sure you don’t fall into this common trap... Email the show at podcast@matthewhussey.com Follow Matthew @thematthewhussey, or Stephen @stephenhhussey on Twitter and Instagram!    Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Most women are used to being told things like: “You need to make him work for it”, “You need to have standards”, “You need to respect yourself” But how do you actually do it? For example, if he sends you a flakey text on the night of a date, how should you respond to get him chasing again (whilst showing you have self-respect)? In this episode, we're going to give you 3 killer texts that show your standards, put you back in control, and double his attraction for you. Download the free guide at 9texts.com   Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

What is the limbo between being in a relationship and also not being in one? Recently it has been called a “situationship”: the moment when you’re in something more than a friendship but less than a relationship. There are obvious reasons one would choose this not-quite-a-relationship state of affairs for themselves. It’s flexible. It doesn’t ask you to give up huge chunks of your time. It lets both of you decide to get together only when you need temporary intimacy, or casual sex, or just a person to hang out with at the weekend. All well and good…in theory. The hard part is keeping things that way... Here are the 4 questions that tell you when it's time to leave your situationship and find the right person for you!  - Follow Matthew @thematthewhussey. - Follow Stephen @stephenhhussey. - Email the show at podcast@matthewhussey.com  Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Let's talk about masculinity. In 2020, there is still such a gap of understanding between men and women that deeply affects our romantic relationships and prevents us expressing our love fully and honestly. In this episode Matt explains: - How men struggle with vulnerability vs. expectations of "being a man" - Why men are afraid to be honest about their fears and inner feelings - What men AND women can do to make men feel safer expressing their honest emotions --- Follow Matthew @thematthewhussey, and Stephen @stephenhhussey on Instagram and Twitter.  Email the show with your thoughts at podcast@matthewhussey.com Download the 5 Techniques To Get Him To Open Up at GetHimToTalk.com       Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

There's no easy way to talk about infidelity. It's a painful, difficult topic that evokes a strong emotional reaction. But it's also one that so many people face that I wanted to bring you one of the wisest voices out there on this topic: relationship expert, psychotherapist, and bestselling author Esther Perel! (@estherperelofficial)   Listen as we talk about why even happy people can be driven to cheat, what to do about it, and whether there is ever a path to recovering a relationship after infidelity.      Email your thoughts at podcast@matthewhussey.com! Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

When you fall in love, it's way too easy to start trying to fit someone into your world, even if their behaviour compromises your deepest values. You start to go off track, for weeks, months, years, until you're left asking, "How did I get here?"    If you've ignored the red flags for too long. Stop. Pause. Make a decision that NOW is the time to get back on track and listen to this message... Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

You might be the kind of person who is funny, joyful, and amazing to be around when you’re in a great mood. But what about when things get tough? Or stressful? Or when there’s conflict and problems? It’s time to ask the really important question that defines so many relationships: “how are you at your worst??” Listen to the episode to find out why this is one of the most defining parts of yourself you can ever work on to improve your love life... Follow Matthew @thematthewhussey, and Stephen @stephenhhussey Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

*NEW SERIES* Could it be true? After 3+ years off the air…is our podcast ‘Love Life With Matthew Hussey’ really back?? YES. And what’s really exciting is that this time around I am joined by my brother, and co-writer of the New York Times bestselling Get The Guy book, Stephen Hussey! (@stephenhhussey) In fact, he’s going to be introducing each episode as we go on this new podcast adventure together. Exciting times! So whatever you’re doing right now, you don’t even need to stop it. Just fire up episode 1 in your car, or while you’re doing chores around the house, and let us know what you think! Today we talk about: Why The Wrong Guys ALWAYS Approach You. If you’ve wondered how to get the attention of the guy you really want instead of the ones you don’t, this episode for you! Send us your thoughts and feedback via email to podcast@matthewhussey.com Enjoy!   Matthew x Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

  After you break up with your ex (unless you flee to another state or get an entirely new group of friends) chances are good you’ll run into him again. So let’s get you prepared for this inevitability. I’ll be honest – there’s no way it won’t be awkward, but if you get yourself in the right state of mind, it will be a lot less awkward. I’ll even give you a line to say to your ex that will immediately break the tension and make you both laugh. Think of this episode like a mini-survival guide; Use my advice and you may even leave the interaction feeling better about your breakup, and yourself, than before. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.