Love Life With Matthew Hussey

I’m a big believer these days in the power of no. What we decide to say “no” to in relationships is often as important what we say yes to. And I’ve seen thousands of women saying yes to all the wrong things, like men who say “I’m not sure about us,” for whom they wait months and years in the self-torturing hope he’ll change his mind. I even had a woman recently say to me, “He says he’s trying to choose between me and another woman. Should I wait for an answer? Or should I move on?” Seriously? Wait for an answer? Screw that. It’s time to say no to being undervalued forever. One of my favourite quotes says: “If you put a small value on yourself, rest assured the world will not raise your price.” So if you’re still hanging on that “one guy,” I need, need, need you to hear this. It may just be the biggest wake-up call you’ll ever get... ►► Deep down, you know there’s something missing in your love life, your career, or your personal life. GOOD NEWS - I have a proven method to transform your life in just a few day

Ever found yourself in a situation where the person you are with is doing something that affects you negatively, only they don’t see it as a big deal? They tell you they don’t think they’re doing anything wrong, and that you should be OK with it. That’s what happened to the woman whose story I tell in this episode. Her boyfriend was regularly texting a female friend he’d made only recently. Every time she got upset about it, he told her she was being unnecessarily controlling and jealous and that he wasn’t doing anything wrong. In today’s podcast, you’ll see exactly what I think she should do about this situation... I always think one of the hardest things in a relationship is trying to figure out where we are overreacting and where we are justified. It can be maddening. If you’re wondering whether what someone is doing around you should be a deal-breaker, this will help you figure it out once and for all. Always in your corner. P.S. The first-ever Live Matthew Hussey Virtual Retreat is just around the corner

Answering YOUR questions on topics including: - what to do when a guy is acting flakey - creating a "flirtatious energy" (and how to do it) - how to be less insecure in a relationship _________________________ Follow Matt @thematthewhussey Follow Stephen @stephenhhussey Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

What do you do if the person you are with comes to you telling you he wants a break? You’re devastated, you’re scared, and every instinct in you tells you to fight for this person you care about so much. What would you say to him? In these moments we often do exactly the opposite of what we need to. If you’re in this situation, or you ever want to know what to do if someone says this to you again, I',m going to give you the only response you’ll ever need...  ►► Handle Heartbreak in a Strong, High-Value Way. Download your free guide... → http://www.MoveOnStrong.com  --- Follow Matthew @thematthewhussey Follow Stephen @stephenhhussey Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Do you ever worry that the chemistry will fizzle in your relationship? Or does it seem as though the butterflies have already flown away? Don’t worry. This episode contains a game plan to save you... --- ►► FREE download: “9 Texts to Get Any Man” → http://www.9texts.com ►► FREE download: “5 Compliments to Get Him Addicted to You” → http://www.SayThisToHim.com --- Follow Matthew @thematthewhussey   Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Have you been gaslighted before? Is it happening to you right now? If you’re not sure what “Gaslighting” means… It’s when someone manipulates you by psychological means into doubting your own sanity. Over time, this can have a dramatic effect on our self-esteem as we slowly begin to doubt ourselves until we no longer trust our own instincts. It’s nasty.   f you’ve ever expressed your needs to someone or tried to tell them about something they did that hurt you and you were made to feel crazy, this message is for you. It’s a horrible feeling when we are upset or anxious and we don’t even know if what we are saying is reasonable or whether we are overreacting… that’s why I’m so excited for you to listen to this episode. It’s going to bring you a sense of peace and calm again... I’ve got your back, friend. ►► Deep down, you know there’s something missing in your love life, your career, or your personal life. GOOD NEWS - I have a proven method to transform your life in just 6 short days with me → http://www.Matth

Question: What’s the #1 secret to powerful, seductive flirting? For some people, that’s a silly question. “Flirting is simple,” they’ll say. “It’s just something you do when you like someone.” And yet, in my 10 years of learning about attraction, I’ve seen so many make the same mistakes. They try to talk to that cute guy at the party, the conversation fizzles out, and they’re left scratching their heads wondering, “Am I being too keen? Too aggressive? Am I just boring?” But I understand. Knowing what men/women want when it comes to flirting can feel massively confusing. In fact, I’ve never seen flirting skills broken down in a useful way – so today I’m going to reveal the ultimate flirting formula. (Trust me, you won’t want to miss this). It's time to finally make this confusing topic clear... --- Follow Matt @thematthewhussey Follow Stephen @stephenhhussey --- Download the FREE flirting chapter at GetTheFreeChapter.com Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Maybe you’ve always been afraid of rejection. Maybe there was a specific moment in your past where you experienced a devastating rejection that has left you fearing getting hurt again ever since. The problem with the fear of rejection is that it still hurts even when we are not getting rejected. I was taught by my boxing trainer, Martin Snow, that the worst punch you get is the one you never actually get hit with. It’s the one you think about and fear in your mind. That means that even without literally being rejected, we experience the pain by imagining it over and over again. On top of that, we beat ourselves up for all the things we are missing out on as a result of our fear: potential partners, opportunities, experiences, adventures, and most importantly – our full potential. Fear of rejection is one of the most human things in the world. We all experience it. But how can we learn to manage it, live with it, and even occasionally, overcome it? I know you’ve been dealt some really unfair situations. I know

You watch the cliché rom-coms and sitcoms. They tell you to be witty, urbane, “sassy”, sophisticated. And that’s what everyone wants to portray on their profile on Bumble, Tinder, Hinge, Grab-a-mate, Blah-bar (Ok, I made up those last two up). What hardly anyone does in conversation pay an actual memorable compliment. And this doesn’t just for for online dating. It’s also lacking in many flesh-and-blood conversations. Both men and women defer to trying to look impressive (through their career, fancy degree, social status) instead of making a real connection. One reason we avoid being genuine in our compliments is because we’re scared to put ourselves on the line. And yet, there is this weird phenomenon: we tend to like people who actually see something special about us. If you agree and want some practical advice on being memorable in other people's eyes, listen to this episode... --- Learn the 5 compliments that everyone loves to hear. Download the free guide at SayThisToHim.com --- Follow Stephen @stephenhh

Ah yeeeeah, it’s that time, friend… a brand new spicy epsiode for you. This one is about compliments, and there’s some really interesting psychology in it about the compliments you can give to a person to create deep attraction between the two of you. One of them works for when you first message someone on an app… The 2nd one is great for when you are meeting someone in person… The 3rd one is for someone you already know and want to build more attraction with. This episode is super practical. Take a few minutes to watch it, then use one of these compliments today. If you’re not going to use one of them, you’re not allowed to listen to it. OK? Don’t listen to this episode then NOT use one of them, because I’LL KNOW. ;) Hope you’re having a great day, you beautiful human. ►► Get 5 More Compliments That Build Serious Attraction. Tap Below to Download Your Free Guide... → http://www.SayThisToHim.com ▼ Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

If you've ever worried about having the "awkward" conversation, answering the booty call text, or speaking out for your needs, this is for you!  It's time to start being ok with being weird... --- Email us at podcast@matthewhussey.com --- Follow Stephen: Twitter - @stephenhhussey Instagram - @stephenhhussey Facebook - @stephenhusseywrites Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

I can’t tell you how many times a week someone online says to me: “Matthew, I’ve had enough. I’m just going to give up on dating altogether.” It may be because they are sick of getting their heart broken. It may be that they are exhausted from going on dates that don’t go anywhere, or online conversations that never even get to the point of a date in the first place. It could be the frustration of never meeting people they have true chemistry with, or when they finally do, discovering that they aren’t looking for a relationship. If you feel any of these things, I made this for you. If you feel you’re close to giving up on this area of your life, I have no righteous ground to take in telling you you’re wrong. I completely understand it. It is unbelievably frustrating, especially when you want nothing more than to just get on with sharing your life with that special person instead of more time passing without them in it. You’re not weak or crazy for feeling the way you do, so give yourself a break. But before y

It’s hard to find love when you don’t feel loveable yourself. When you know you’ve made a ton of mistakes. Or you’ve internalized the idea that you’re just not a likeable person. It becomes a self-perpetuating cycle: “I don’t like myself, so why should anyone else like me?” Then we feel lonely, beat ourselves up, feel like a failure, and like ourselves even less than before. We retreat more and more into our shell and lose that “spark” that makes us attractive to someone else as a potential partner This is exhausting. It’s unfair. And it doesn’t do justice to who you really are on the inside and everything you have to give to the world. It’s an overwhelming step to think about how to suddenly become supremely confident. So let’s do something more modest today. In this episode, I want to share a small thing you can start doing today to get back your self-esteem and begin to reclaim your core confidence... ►► Deep down, if you know there’s something missing in your love life, your career, or your personal life.

Are you hurting? Is that hurt leading to overthinking? Rumination? A downward spiral of negative self-talk? Do you feel trapped inside your own head, desperate for some relief, and anxious for the time to come when you will finally feel better? If so, this is required listening. To do something special for my Love.Life members, I invited the one and only Guy Winch (@GuyWinch) on for a special hour to help people overcome pain and hurt. Guy Winch is one of the world’s foremost experts on dealing with heartbreak and “emotional first-aid.” This episode is a special moment taken from that hour where Guy talks about how to deal with moments of terrible pain in a productive and healthy way. As Rainer Maria Rilke said: “No feeling is final.” If you’re hurting right now, it’s going to get better. I promise. One step at a time. -- ►► Ready to join our members area and hear the full conversation (plus more LIVE coaching from Matt?) - go to AskMH.com to join our VIP community today! Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privac

We respond to YOUR emails all about the topic of Love Bombing.  Including: Why we get sucked in by love bombing What "red flags" to look for early on How to be (healthily skeptical) before diving into romance How to move on after heartbreak If you're ready to deep dive into your love life and want to see Matt answer real love questions on our live webinars, join our Love.Life VIP Members club at AskMH.com -- Follow Matt: Twitter - @matthewhussey Instagram - @thematthewhussey -- Follow Stephen:  Instagram - @stephenhhussey Twitter - @stephenhhussey Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

I talk a lot about letting go of the wrong person. But how do you know if someone is the wrong person? What are the red flags? How can you tell if someone is serious or just stringing you along so that you don’t waste your time? This episode solves that problem for you. In this podcast, I add a distinction that I’ve never said before and I don’t think you will have ever thought about… Let me know what you think once you’ve heard it, friend. Much love. P.S. For all the sh*t you’re going through right now that others don’t know about, I love you and I’m with you. --- Follow Matthew: Twitter - @matthewhussey Instagram - @thematthewhussey --- Follow Stephen:  Twitter - @stephenhhussey Instagram - @stephenhhussey --- Email the show at podcast@matthewhussey.com! --- Download the FREE chapter of our How To Talk To Men program at GetTheFreeChapter.com  Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

You have to help me. I believe there isn’t a woman (person) alive who doesn’t need to hear this message at least once in her lifetime. I know, that’s a bold statement. But when you see it, you’ll know why. My work is about more than dating. It’s about time. Time = Life. And this podcast is designed to save your precious time. It's all about what “it’s complicated” really means. If you’re in a situation with a man that gives you far less than you want or deserve, this is the most important thing you could do with your time today. And I rarely ask this, but please do more than listen to this. Share it with every woman you know. I have spent over a decade working with women in their love lives. I’d go as far as to say no one has been witness to more women throwing away their precious time on the wrong situations than me. My No.1 objective is for this episode to help you get brave enough to say “enough is enough” in your own life. My 2nd objective is for you to help me save the lives of other women – your friends

"Too many people in the single world waste time and emotion pursuing TERRIBLE leads.   They date men and women who don’t invest in them, they spend hours waiting for texts back only to get one-word answers, and they chase intimacy from people who only want attention/sex/validation...   I don’t have a dog in this fight. Being in a relationship can be incredible. But being single is also AMAZING and gets taken for granted way more often...."   --- Follow Steve: Twitter - @stephenhhussey Instagram - @stephenhhussey Facebook - @stephenhusseywrites --- Want to build the self-worth and confidence that makes you TRULY fall in love with your life? Click here to reserve your spot on our next LIVE retreat program! Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

I still remember every heartbreak I’ve ever had. If I try I can still bring back the agony of those months after a relationship ended, wondering if I was ever going to feel better and get back to my normal self. When you’re feeling that pain of losing someone, food doesn’t taste good. TV shows depress you. Your favourite places feel cursed because they bring back bittersweet memories. But there is a secret to emotionally recovering from a breakup, one that is shockingly simple but so crucial that if you forget to do it, you will inadvertently DOUBLE the amount of time it takes to get over your ex. See, most of us make bad decisions in a breakup. We drink to numb the pain, we have one-night stands with people we don’t care about, or we eat ourselves into oblivion with junk food. It sucks now, I know. But it will get better, trust me....  Blog → http://www.gettheguy.co.uk/blog/ Facebook → https://facebook.com/CoachMatthewHussey Twitter → https://twitter.com/matthewhussey Instagram (Matt) → https://www.instagram

Ever sat ruminating obsessively over something you could have or should have done differently in your relationship? Something you said, something you did, or something you wish you’d have done more? It’s a dreadful, sickening feeling. I know because I’ve felt it. It leads to regret, anxiety, self-loathing… not to mention a lack of appetite and insomnia. We turn over every memory, imagining where we could have been with that person had we just behaved differently. And this feeling isn’t limited to situations that have ended. Sometimes we are still seeing someone but we have this crippling anxiety over having irreversibly damaged the relationship. We feel we’ve created a perception of ourselves in that person’s eyes that we can’t now undo. If for any of these reasons you are currently torturing yourself, this episode will be life-saving for you today. Trust me when I say it is essential. I break down for you why you don’t need to be wallowing in pain, and why, despite everything that destructive voice inside is