Friendshipping!

What do you do when you think a friend is crushing on you? Do you speak up? Let it go? We have thoughts. Trin’s snails are doing well btw.

What do you do when you meet a new friend who seems great, but then plants a few red flags? Do you write them off completely? Does anyone want some snails?

A listener doesn't want to be chummy with their new colleagues. We understand! We're also going to challenge you juuust a little, though. Content warning for discussions of social biases, brief mention of racial stereotyping.

Jenn's softball team is being bullied online, Trin visits a spa, and a listener asks how to adjust their inner monologue so they can be be kinder to themselves and their friends. What a lovely idea. You're doing the right thing with your face, by the way. Content warnings this week: discussions of body, fitness, self-esteem.

This week, we heard from an awesome listener who wants to support a friend who is receiving bad treatment from her family for being gay. Strong content warnings for homophobia, discussion of religion. We threw in "levity breaks" to add a little laughter back into this stupid world. Timestamps below! Cancer Mention Start time: 1m35s Duration: 4s Being Gross about the word "Engorged" Start Tim3: 3m19s Duration: 6s Levity Break #1 Start Time: 15m21s Duration: 3m45s Levity Break #2 Start Time: 28m20s Duration 2m12s ANGRY BREAK: Straight Pride Start Time: 33m44s Duration: 3m22s Levity Break #3 37m04s Duration 1m50s

If a friend is visiting the city you live, are you supposed to show them around? Let them crash on your couch? Skip work to hang out together? Really, what are your obligations as a host? We've got answers to this and also quick mentions of vomit from 4:00 to 6:00, feel free to skip that part.

A few dedicated listeners asked us to lighten things up and talk about ourselves for some reason. Careful what you wish for. This week, no advice. Instead, plants, sinus infections, some new projects we're working on(!!!), and finally, FINALLY, we grapple with cinematic masterpiece Detective Pikachu.

Let's get META. Our first asker wants to know the best way to ask us a question without giving away their identity, so we went through some best practices when asking us for advice. The next asker is about to embark on the journey of therapy, and wants to know how to do therapy correctly. CW: mention of animal death, mention of penis injury. If you don't care to hear our animal stories, skip to 12m57s for advice.

My friend has terrible etiquette on Twitter--what do I do? Am I a bad friend if I delete Facebook altogether and sometimes miss birthday notifications? This episode it's about friendship and social media. Listen as we try to convince you to never subtweet again! Content warnings: we get into discussion of pregnancy in the first eight minutes or so.

- My friend uses social media to brag about how busy she is with work. - I was offered a job at a toxic company. My friends keep telling me not to take it, but I need to! This week, it's all about: being annoyed that your friends might be working too much; letting your friends make their own life decisions; and decidedly not grinding yourself down to dust for someone else’s enrichment! Let's do this thang.

"I have become flooded with Facebook messages, at all hours of the day and night, with my friend pouring her life out. What do I do?" is our first question. And our second question: "My friend uses Twitter to tell people to kill themselves." This week, we discuss how to put up boundaries and be direct. Content warnings: very brief hypothetical rape mention and fat shaming mentions. Mention of suicide. In-depth discussion of suicidal ideation.

We're stoked on spring time and excited to bring you an episode about little bebes. Sometimes you want to hang out with your friend's kids and sometimes you don't. Here are some thoughts on how to be accommodating to your friends who are parents. Minor CW for brief mention of sick children.

What do you do when an almost-friend becomes suddenly distant and uninterested? That's our first question. We're here to tell you that it's OK to feel a little bummed. Our second question, now, got us all frazzled and excited: How can I get my friend to stop taking MORTAL RISKS WITH HER LIFE? Check the content warnings for this one: Erections, war, discussion of violence. Geez.

A live episode! We swear we're getting better at these. First we consider what we've learned over the years, and then take some questions from listeners, including, "how do I tell my friend I can't afford to donate to all the fundraisers she's organizing?" And don't miss the audience Q&A, which really was wonderful. Thanks for being there.

Small talk gets a bad rep. People think it's boring and awkward. But! It's actually an important tool! This week, we hear from listeners who want to improve their active listening skills, especially when it comes to meeting people you REALLY ADMIRE AND YOU JUST LOVE THEIR WORK OMG!

This week, our listeners just need a little nudge in the right direction. Our first asker wants to know how to make friends online. Luckily, we are very online! Our second asker wants to know how to meet folks while volunteering at an animal shelter. Let's do this thang.

This week we tackle something pretty common in adult friendships - you feel that you have a best friend, but you're not THEIR best friend in return. Not as depressing as it sounds, we promise!

You can't solve every problem for your friends. You simply can't fix everything. In this episode, we give you permission to go easier on yourself. Important content warnings for this one: we discuss gatekeeping within the queer community, as well as gender, sexuality, and depression.

"My friend puts herself down constantly. She's always insulting herself, and it bums me out. How can I talk to her about this?" This episode is about self-esteem, something neither of us have, which makes us the perfect candidates to lead this discussion. Content warning for discussions of therapy and body shaming.

A concerned and confused 21-year-old wrote in and asked, "I have a friend who is older, and he makes a woman in our group feel uncomfortable often. How do I handle this?" We have some ideas on how to get this person out of your life ASAP. This one's a doozy, y'all! Content warning for discussions of harassment.